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  1. SherrySher
    How do you know the cat is having a miscarriage? Also, how do you know it requires vet assistance? Has a vet confirmed this? Kitties can lose a litter without needing to go to the vet.
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    I just wanted to quickly touch on the points made previous about multi-dating, or not multi-dating. If someone chooses to multi-date, or not multi-date, there could be a number of reasons behind it. It's really not for anyone to judge or criticize as we don't know why they chose what they did, and it's really not for us to know. We each navigate our own dating lives to what suits us the best. But each person makes their own decisions based on their own preferences and there is no right or wrong. As for choosing to date someone who multi-dates, or doesn't muti-date, it is totally down to your own personal preference. Some people don't mind at all, as they are multi-dating as well, and feel it's fine to have different options to find the best match. Others aren't comfortable with that and prefer they and their partner focus on one person at a time. Both cases are totally fine. It comes down to what is suitable for you and what isn't. If you get someone who wants to multi-date and someone who is a one person at a time, then it won't work.
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    Honestly, her reply sounded good to me. 🙂 It's hard to tell what was going on with her right that second she replied. Was she rushing because something distracted her (doorbell ringing, notification went off, was feeling sleepy)...or who knows. Quite often texts can be misinterpreted because it is so hard to tell how someone is feeling right then due to lack of tone. The only way to know for certain, is to see how this second date goes. Usually after the second date, you can tell if you and this person are really vibing, or if you're not as into each other as you had hoped. Fingers crossed.
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    Not in this day and age. That's an outdated point of view. Women are now totally okay with helping share the cost, or paying if she was the one who suggested a date. It's always nice when a man pays, but it goes both ways. Guys like to be treated well too!
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    First text her, something like: "Hope you're doing well, I had a great time getting to know you, would love to meet up again." 2nd date, are there any small bars, lounges you could find where they would have a band playing music, something laid back on a Saturday night? Those kind of dates are nice because you can chat, and listen to the music too.
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    I am all for equal paying on dates. It would be nice if she offered(good manners to at least offer), but I personally think whoever asked out whom, they are the ones who should pay. If she asks you out next time, she should be the one to pay. Although there are no set rules. If you're on a date and you both decide to go Dutch, that's cool too. I agree with other people who said that the first meet up should be something small, like coffee. You want to get to know this person, see if they are worthwhile to go on a more in depth date. Dinner and drinks sounds more like a 2-3 date.
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    Thank you so much ❤️I've been sitting in front of the heater most of the day. It's nice and warm. 🥰
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    Oh lord, I think as bad as this cold snap is, I can deal with it a bit better than that kind of heat. Hope you have a good AC unit.
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    -50 C Windchills here tonight. 🥶
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    BS "that he genuinely did not know why he said that and he regretted it once he said it" Also BS
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    You both sound very young, and you had mentioned that this is the first relationship for you both. You are both learning what is appropriate, and what isn't. How to deal with your own emotions, on all levels. What you will accept, and what is not acceptable. That being said, it's still glaringly obvious that he does view her in a sexual manner, and would be sexual with her if given the chance. I also don't think your friend has much respect for you at all, the way she is continuously crossing lines, and blurts things out whenever she pleases. She might think that it's fine to have zero filter on her sexual thoughts. But truth be told, it really does come down to becoming mature enough to know to respect those around you, to not blurt out inappropriate things, and to have self control. She has a lot of growing up to do, as does your boyfriend. You're the only one in this situation that is being reasonable and respectful.
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    He is interested and yes, he is viewing her in a sexual manner. I was in nearly the exact same situation. My then bf kept telling me the same malarkey. Long story short, he and I broke up, (due to other reasons), but within a month he was sleeping with this woman he said was only a "friend, and a sister". I think each of us has gut instincts about it all, we just keep trying to fool ourselves or question our own worries. But truth be told, you made this post because you know something is not right. They are both telling you what you want to hear, but I would bet 100% that given the chance, they will sleep together.
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    I'm not sure that a bunch of explanations would matter at this point. The only information that you need, is that this person doesn't respect you enough to speak to you openly, and honestly. They also have no problem dumping you as a friend, like yesterday trash, and again, not caring how it would affect you. This isn't a friend. Block, delete, move on.
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    Either way, he's a grown man and no matter how weird, or unconventional it is, it's his life and his choices. Same way you wouldn't want your parents dictating to you how to do things, or when. Right?
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    The mans happy, his wife accepts it best she can and in fact more than anything, enables it. They are doing what they both want. Let them be, maybe visit without expecting it to be meals since they don't have a regular schedule.
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    Absolutely agree. This is their problem to solve and their marriage. Your Mom can choose to stay with him and put up with things, or she can decide to leave. It's her choice and her husband. If their arrangement is bothering you too much, then best you don't go over and get yourself all upset. If your Mom or your Dad complain, let them know that the hours your Dad keeps doesn't work for you. I can't see your Dad changing.
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    Suffer? Sounds like your religion isn't too keen on being gay. Nothing wrong with being gay. I could literally sit here and discuss it with your for hours on why I believe religion is wrong in that regard.
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    If you are determined, then keep searching for that person. You have all the time in the world while being sick....so keep looking for them. There are billions of people in this world. It's not that they aren't out there, it's that you haven't found them yet.
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    Totally! I get that completely. Like, why bother when it's just going to be another day of pain and sadness, right? But you know what? Those things are going to be there anyway, so why not make the most of what you can do? I paint, I write, I chat online. Hey, it's better than sitting and crying, you know? Limitations aren't great, and yes, it's hard not to be angry at God, the world, people who have their health. But just keep in mind that it's not anyone's fault. It's just crap luck and how your life story went. Do I know why yours went that way, or why mine has gone this way? Nope. But as long as I am still on this earth, I'm going to try to do something half decent with the life I still have left. Despite what you're going through, I can still hear a lot of determination in your words, a lot of feisty-ness. You've got a lot of spirit in you yet! Find any activity that brings you any kind of happiness, doesn't matter what it is. Could be music, watching your favorite shows, or movies, try painting or writing! Write about your experiences with Chronic illness. You have no idea how much that is actually interesting to some people and how much it helps others who are struggling like you are.
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    TheRide, I am sorry that your health is this bad, truly I am. I hear frustration, anger, loneliness, depression and a great deal of upset. Anyone would be in your position. Life can be very unfair. You must feel like life has been stolen away from you and you have a lot of anger over that. I don't blame you, I really don't. I wish I had words to comfort you, but I don't. Chronic long term illness, is terrible. No one knows how bad it is unless they live it. And yes, I speak from experience. What can you do in the meantime, well why not try to chat to people online as friends if nothing else, just to be able to chat and have any kind of connection. You don't even have to look for love, but to at least chat to people. It will help with the boredom if nothing else. I'm not even going to suggest a therapist, or counsellor or anything like that, because I know that in your specific case (illness), that it won't fix anything. The only thing that would fix anything, would be to have your health and your life back. I know. Sending you a million hugs. You're not alone.
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    I know that very well deep down? No, I don't know that deep down. I am being honest with you, I feel that a person can find a very strong connection with someone online. Are you discounting the friendship I had with my best friend? Because I won't even bother to argue, I know you're wrong. Does it suck being sick? YES, Does it suck to have all of these restrictions? YES. But you even said so yourself, that you are too tired and not capable of doing much in real life anyhow. Online is a good option. But hey, if you don't want to even bother that's totally up to you.
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    Unless you find someone in your facility, then it will be a tough go to meet someone in real life. Why similar life? Because of compatibility. I am just being honest with you, to find someone healthy who wants to date someone not healthy, would be difficult. (I say this as someone who has health issues as well). It doesn't work. Healthy people want to be out and about, and leading a life. Don't discount how much friendship, and love you can find with someone online. You can message each other all the time. You can be on Facetime together, it brings a lot of happiness. One of my very best friends (whom I was best friends with for over 8 years, lived in a different country to me). They passed away from Cancer, and I never met them in person, not even one time. Didn't stop us from being the very best of friends, or spending heaps of time together on Facetime. With having health issues to this extent, because you have so many restrictions, you have to adjust your dating and expectations to the life you have right now. I'm assuming you have already tried finding someone to date who is not unhealthy and who is someone you can see in real life. But I am also assuming it hasn't gone well. No harm in trying something new and seeing how it goes?
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    University is incredibly busy. A person barely has time to eat, never mind socializing. If she has a project she is working on, on top of it, then it makes sense how she has no time. To me, I feel like she is interested, but her schedule doesn't allow for a relationship right now. Even if she did want to get into a relationship with you, you still would barely see her. I think you'd be just as sad and disappointed as you are right now. Give her your number, tell her to call you when she has time, but sincerely move on and search elsewhere for someone to date.
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    Have you ever joined a site for people with disabilities looking to make friends? Quite often people search for friends, and accidentally find love. There are a lot of people out there in this world who feel exactly the same way as you. They are struggling with health issues, loneliness, and would love to find love. You have friendship, love, comfort and emotional support to offer someone. Those are the most important components in this world and outweigh anything else someone has to offer. You just need to find someone who is living a similar life to you, and you will be able to give love to one another that you both are searching for.
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    It depends on the level of severity of anxiety. Some people have quite bad anxiety being around people in general, and can't cope, while others panic at just the thought of leaving their house. I wish it were just as simple as deciding to go and be polite, but unfortunately anxiety issues are a lot more complicated and can be quite restricting.
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