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irka000

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irka000 last won the day on December 16 2019

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  1. He doesnt say " its done" simply cause for him it is nice to have a woman visiting from time to time and get all the benefits of relationship. No hard work, no effort - not even much investment. She pays for tickets and is there for him. Who on earth would put a stop to this ? Its convenience, fun and does a require a minimum to none effort. Currently- none effort as he requested space till October .... I am getting frustrated by this man writing this.
  2. There are lots of you tube videos you may find helpful. There are apps you can find enjoyable where you can interact with people in your area. Are you exercising? Find something you may like...boxing, running ...it will bring you joy although first few weeks will be tough. Now , please don't take this the wrong way, as I have the purest intentions: mullet hairstyle you mentioned, its the most off putting thing I ever seen in a man. I know this sounds shallow and rude but please consider cut the hair at the back. In 2020 this just looks out of place. There is no man on this planet that
  3. Please stay away from him. If you two were to reconcile, he would be excited and looking forward to more contact not reducing till October. He cannot put relationship on hold. He is super confident and arrogant. He can easily have one relationship now and keep you on the bench in the meantime. Dont do this to yourself. You sound lovely and you can do so so much better, like others so rightly advised. He does not have any strong feelings for you. Sure, he can welcome you from time to time and have benefits of a relationship. This will drain you. Leave him be till October 2025!
  4. I am sorry you are hurting. It seems like from beginning he was not interested in long term thing. He even told you he wanted to be single. Than you two had arguments about him not committing and seeing other women. Fast forward 7 months, naturally he is glad to hear from you. You were " new" yet so familiar...however, as soon as you reminded him that you are interested in being exclusive...he changed his tone. It seems he enjoys his single life. He doesnt want any restrictions. You see, it was you who contacted him after 7 months. Not the other way around. If it was him, we could hope,
  5. I am sorry you are hurting. It seems you are wonderful distraction in this man's life. As long as you played along, he did too. Then when you actually voiced your concerns, it was too much hassle for him. Before was sweet and safe...you were far, not threatening in any way. Safe distance. 3 years long lesson. Please cut him immediately. Block, delete and remove all traces of any ilussion he created. You probably know 20 proc of his real situation, if so. The way to recovery its only through drastic cut from him. He is not your friend. He is a fantasy with a bitter ending. Thi
  6. I am sorry you are going through this. May I ask how old are you and your ex? It's is a blessing you won't have to see him anytime soon in the office. By the time you will, you may be in a totally different place. His charity and condescending suggestions made me quite upset. How very gracious of him! Please, remove him completely from your life. I promise you that soon it will get easier. You will breathe without that pain in the chest. On YouTube there are wonderful videos how to go through break up. These videos ....and a few wonderful people here saved my sanity some time ago. Plea
  7. I am extremely sorry you are going through this. By now, if she is just an ordinary friend that had a past with your bf, than he should introduce you two. Even if it is through video call etc. If he doesn't, than there is a reason for it....and not a good one. If he was remorseful and suffered from the past, she would made him sick ...she would loose all the shine as soon as he would be caught...or during the divorce process. I wish I have more encouraging words
  8. Lily, I am so sorry for your loss. I understand you more than you can imagine. In December I was going through exactly the same situation. My world did fall apart. My boyfriend even broke up with me cause I was hard to deal with and provoked argument which ended badly. As others advised, it's best to tell him what sort of support you would expect. After 5 years you can voice it without hesitation. He may have a different idea of what you may need now. My boyfriend wanted to be left alone when he was grieving. I am the opposite. He given you what he would appreciate himself. This i
  9. Another angle ... What would you do if you would find out that after 1, 5 year your gf/ bf cherish you but is not there yet , where love is concerned. Would you carry on the relationship or would you leave ?
  10. Did he respond to your message, if you don't mind me asking?
  11. According to him, I did lash out on him. I was making decisions about going see dad without notifying him but expecting him to be there. He said I made him feel horrible and did not consider him much. Back than I apologised for my behaviour. I admitted he was right to be upset but not to break up.
  12. I agree, he will contact you in his own time and act like all is good. Then you need to ignore it. Two things can happen He will finally get motivated and actually start getting involved or he will be gone. Sadly I think if it has been so long and not much yet happened...than I am afraid I would not hope for much more. He may get motivated to have intimate moment with you. I don't want to make you feel bad but the fact that he doesn't even rush to being intimate suggests he is with someone. This may sound very dramatic but are you sure you were actually in his place and not some frie
  13. I know this may be boring but... Little update : after 2 months NC he contacted me and asked how come we let a good relationship end? I was actually quite surprised and upset as for me this was all tangled with my dad passing away. It wasn't just a break but almost end of my world. I was devastated. He sounded breezy. He somehow did not connect this two. He sounded cheerful and overly confident. Naturally polite, respectful and charming. I reminded him how all happened. He had slightly different recollection of events. Bottom line is - he asked for us to overcome this and try
  14. You sound like a sensitive and a really wonderful woman. First and foremost...how many times have you actually met in person? How old are you both, if I may ? As others so rightly said, this is a fantasy situationship. He may actually be married and just kills time with you. He may have a partner and enjoys chit chat or deeper debates. Been there, done it....it's sour when you realise, person you opened to, does not even exist. Glad you didn't send the message. He doesn't deserve your warmth and love. He didn't invest any time in this....or did he ? As you were advised, if after two wee
  15. It's good to see different views on the matter. I am curious because had a final talk with an ex and this popped out. I never said and he never said. I waited for him and he blamed on demons from past. He waited for better times between us to say it. It is all academic cause I am single now but I was wondering how others feel about it.
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