littlevicious

I'm an 18-year-old woman and I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual. I've told my close friends and family about this, but I don't make a big deal of it, mainly because I've never had a same-sex relationship, although I've had a couple of serious boyfriends. I'm as attracted to women as to men but I have no idea how to go about approaching women I fancy or how to tell if a woman is gay or bi! I feel like a whole section of my personality is being frustrated. I'd really like advice on this.

obviously other people's bodily fluids are not going to be the most appetising thing in the world. semen doesn't taste too good either you know! the pleasure of performing oral sex (in my fairly limited experience anyway) comes from knowing you're making the other person feel really good... and doesn't that turn you on as well?

for about five years i've been suffering from depression and bizarre mood swings. my doctor eventually put me on antidepressants about six months ago. then i changed to beta-blockers for anxiety; then to antipsychotics to stop me from doing irresponsible things when i feel high; then to another kind of antidepressant. i didn't find any of the drugs i've taken very helpful in making me feel better; in fact i felt like my personality, my spirit was gradually being eroded away. i didn't want that to happen so i stopped taking my medication a couple of weeks ago; when my supply ran out, i just didn't renew it. now i am feeling quite low and tearful most of the time. can anyone with experience of this sort of thing give me any advice? i haven't told any of my friends or family that i've stopped taking the drugs because i know they'd think it was a bad idea. but ultimately, how is it better for me to suppress real, honest feelings just to act more normal? i want to do it myself. will i be able to beat this without medication?

i completely agree. flirting is too ostentatious. men who are straightforward, or alternatively a bit mysterious, are much more interesting. and if you're trying to flirt it's probably not going to work. the eye contact thing is true though. listening carefully, smiling in the right places, not being afraid to give a little bit of yourself away, are all much more important than chat up lines etc.

a flirty guy has brief appeal but if this girl has a brain she will know that that only goes so far. a shy guy, on the other hand, is often really attractive. me and my female friends have had this discussion loads of times and we all agree. stay friends with this girl and you will end up with a deeper relationship than if you risked asking her out. having said that, i get really impatient waiting to find out if someone likes me or not. so it really depends how much confidence you have in yourself. but being just friends with her now will not mean you can never be more than that, and it might be less disruptive.

not all women fancy you. seriously, as long as you don't let it go too far, most women are ok about being 'just friends'. as soon as someone shows interest beyond friends just say you're not looking for a girlfriend, or you're just getting over someone, or you're gay, or whatever excuse seems to fit the occasion. it's (usually) that simple. in my experience women are quite easygoing about stuff like this.

i think the first question to answer is, why do you feel the need to cut? if you do it for the pain, it doesn't really matter where you cut. if you don't want to end up in hospital or dead, you shouldn't cut too deeply and you should probably avoid your inside wrists just in case. if you want people to see it, use your forearms. if you want to hide it, use your upper arms or legs. as far as i know there aren't any rules. but if you are only doing it for attention - and don't take this the wrong way, but that is the impression your post gives - maybe you should think about getting some help. i only cut myself when i absolutely have to feel something else other than what's in my head. doing it so that people will think you are interestingly messed-up will only work for so long before people get tired of it. but most importantly of all - PLEASE DON'T KILL YOURSELF. it's so wasteful and think about what it will do to people. things can and will get better. think about someone or something you love. if you kill yourself you will never have anything again.