kizzyfur

Wait till your period is due. If it turns out to be late, take a quick trip down to your local store and get a pregnancy test.... easy as that.

Thank you all for your information. For anyone who is interested... I started my "diet" on the 7th of September. So far I've cut my cal intake down to an average of about 1800 a day over the past month and have been walking as well as rollerblading nearly every day for at least a half hour a day. I have lost about 12 pounds so far. I haven't had any problems lately with feeling weak and dizzy. So I guess it was just a hurtle I needed to overcome. Again, thank you all for your information and support.

Thank you all. I was doing good with my walking every morning until one day my shin cramped up something aweful. Ever since then I haven't been able to make it around the (1.35 mile) block without pain. So I tried rollerblading. So far this seems to work out alright, and burns more cals. I do have one question though. I've cut back to a below 2000 cal diet. It's been averaging about 1800 cals over the past two weeks. I've been buring an average of about 2300. I don't feel hungry after I eat or anything and I do eat when I feel hungry. Thing is, if I do anything (even showering) my body starts getting all weak and shaky, but not feeling hungry. I don't eat much junk food. Haven't had many sweets in a long while ('cept I just can't quite cut out the cokes though I have cut down a LOT). Is this a normal hurtle that I just need to get through?

There are many websites that can answer your question. Here's one of them: gettingpregnant.co.uk/predictingovulation.htm

Okay, so apparently you're a shy guy. What do you do to give a girl clues that you might like her??

I agree with DR1665. Go up and talk to her. Just make some conversation. Let her know you're interested in at least becoming friends.

Shareen, I'm sorry to hear that you're having so much trouble with your step-son that it's caused you to consider divorce. How old is your step-son? How long have you been with your husband? I have asked about this to get other peoples perspectives on the subject. Now my BF isn't sure what he wants to do. Last time I talked to him about it he was even considering letting her keep the kids. That would be a big mistake on his part. But it's his business. I've given him my advice, that's all I can do. Thank you all for your advice and experiences. I really do appreciate it.

I do have insecurities. I have a problem believing that a guy could really truly love me. I've discussed this with my boyfriend and even sent him an email telling him I'd be patient with him and everything he's got going on if he'd be patient with my insecurities. It's not that I don't trust him not to cheat on me when he's gone. It's just that I don't trust that he really loves me like he says he does. I really am trying hard to work on my insecurities though. Really, I am. I am better able to deal with the fact he doesn't call me but every 3 - 4 days and only wants to talk for like 15 minutes when he does (or when I call him). I pissed him off last night though by bringing up the fact he does still have feelings for his first GF. I don't expect to hear from him right away after that. He's the one who told me that if he was single he'd still consider dropping everything to be with her. I can't get him to drop everything to spend one day with me. I have also been trying to get him to consider a different line of work that didn't require him to be on the road all the time for his kids (not even just for me). He's still thinking about taking yet another job that requires a lot of travel. Now he could do that and leave his kids with their neglegent mother. But what about me?? Oh, he says he'll figure out a way to take me with him, HA! He knows how I feel about him being gone all the time. If he takes that job or keeps the one he has, I may as well be single. I talked to him about it. He says he'd tell me if he was losing interest in me. I kinda don't believe it. But I'm gonna just back off and let him have his space to figure out what the hell he wants to do. I will be here for him if/when he needs me though, that's what friends are for, right? I might even still be available when he's ready to take the relationship seriously.

Thank you Red. I wish you the best of luck with your GF too. It's hard isn't it? I talked to him tonight. He says he's not lost any interest. Says he's been working a lot and been in areas his cell phone won't get service. He promised me when he gets home we'll definitely do something together. I know people will say anything to get what they want. I don't know. Something tells me I should wait it out a little longer. He's never treated me badly in any way. He just seems to have a hard time understanding I need the attention he used to give me to feel secure. Though I am working on that. I do have a lot of insecurity issues.

Any idea how his marriage started out with his ex, or how his relationship with his ex started? Why do you think he married her? I mean if everyone seems to see that she's so manipulative and emotionally abusive, why wouldn't he see it. Does he seem to have an overdependent personality, or does he fear rejection/abandonment? Does he seem to take on traits of his ex (introjection)? How does he feel about his ex now? They met at a bar. She was actually coming on to his friend who wanted nothing to do with her. I'm not sure exactly how they ended up together. But all they ever did together was go out out drinking. They were drunk when they married. When I asked he said he married her, "because it seemed like the right thing to do at the time." He spent most of their marriage either away, or drinking. He has since cut down on drinking dramatically and opened his eyes and now realizes what everyone had been telling him. He has two brothers (one older, one younger) they're quite close. He's also especially close with one of his female cousins. As I'd said before, I never really got into past relationships with him. I'm not sure how relevant that is in a relationship. I've only had one other real boyfriend and that only lasted six months. But I want to be with my current BF for life. If he is losing interest, why won't he just tell me so when I ask??

I mentioned the following: He's working on getting custody of his kids. Has to get a different job that doesn't require him to be gone so much so he can be there for them more. But at the same time doesn't know what job he can take of the offers he's got on the table. But I neglected to mention that he's also worrying about his little brother who is over in Iraq right now too. He really is under a lot of stress right now. To the point it's causing him internal bleeding. The more I think about it, the more I think that the best thing I can do is just be there for him right now. Hopefully he'll get some of those things straightened out and off his shoulders soon. His co-workers have started getting on to him. Apparently they've been telling him he needs to call me more often. They say he's in a better mood when he talks to me. He asked me if I'd gotten their cell numbers and called them to have them get onto him for not calling me... LOL. Anyway, any and all advice and opinions on the situation are appreciated. I do take them into consideration even if it doesn't seem like it. Thank you.

His marriage never really had a chance from the start. She is very controlling, manipulative, and emotionally abusive. This is my own observations, not just something he's been telling me. And she's not this way just toward him either. None of his friends or family likes her. His own mother had told me that she was worried this woman would be the death of him. He's had 3 other girlfriends (including his ex-wife). His first ended because she cheated on him. Other than that I haven't really gotten in to discussing past relationships with him. His father never had anything to do with him. And his mother made mistakes that caused him to resent her. His granddad raised him and he loved him more than anything (other than his kids). They were very close.

Heck, babyblu, my BF's mother actually told me she feared his *then* wife would be the death of him.

It means you're coming off as being a little too confident in yourself. Like guys who are good looking and know they are tend to be that way.

Have you discussed this with your girlfriend? I know my boyfriend tells me he sends me msgs that I don't get and vice versa.