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  1. I won't get into a long story; you can get bits and pieces of it from my post history. Was involved with a man, who was 13 years older than me, on and off for about 2 years. I’ve been having some conversations with a friend of mine and my ex's, and she’s been able to add some more details to stories I knew vaguely and shed light on new ones. With this information, I’m struggling even more with whether he’s actually as not as bad as I had thought and whether he was a bad partner or if it was me causing all the problems. He was never upfront about past relationships. I was drip-fed inform
  2. I’ll try to keep things brief. Long story short, I have had an on and off relationship with a man for 1 year. We have agreed to be exclusive each time we have been “on.” The whole relationship I have been a bit guarded, simply because he is very private and is not super open and that, in turn, has made me a bit more closed off than usual. I maintain that I have been nothing but amazing to him. Trying to openly communicate despite typically getting shut down, continuing to put in a lot of effort, do little things to make him feel appreciated/make his life easier, etc. His efforts fluctuate grea
  3. You all inspired me to do a bit more digging, as your points all made too much sense. I had a gut feeling something was off, and it was. TripAdvisor posts on an observatory he said he went to on his trip yielded a review from a woman from our area of the country, who reviewed places throughout their trip, from Utah to Arizona. She referred to my ex as her "boyfriend." Now I guess I'm even more unsure what to do. Do I contact this woman somehow and let her know?
  4. Not to defend him, but I do know she is apparently a friend he has had since early college. He also said that he is close to her family. Not that that means anything, but that's why I'd understand if they're close and spend time together.
  5. I do not live with a guy. A friend briefly stayed with me during tough times when he first moved to my city. We have been friends for years with close families. I eventually had to kick him out due to drug use.
  6. So he and I met a little over a year ago at work, and it slowly developed into a relationship. He came on very strong at first, consistently complimenting me, arranging dates, making me feel special, etc. This slowly tapered off about 3 months in, but he still made it clear he was into me. We always have fun together, spending most of it laughing, have tons in common, and are comfortable around one another. He is an incredibly private person, so he never divulged much about his friends or past relationships, but I do know he tells me more than he does other friends or family. I know that his l
  7. He was the one who wanted to be friends at the time of the break up. I currently would like to be friends solely because we were friends prior to our relationship and because I care about him as a person. I'm not looking to get back together with him. I don't think he's in a place in his life for a mature relationship, and I think he has some experience to gain before he enters into any serious relationship. I simply would like to have him in my life as a person as I enjoy his presence in it.
  8. So my ex broke up with me after a year long relationship about two months ago. He moved away for army training so we are now states away. He’s always said he isn’t good with distance, so that definitely was a large factor in the breakup. I also think it was a bit of GIGS as it was his first more serious relationship and all his friends down there are single and just having a good time. He said I was an amazing partner and was always there for him and that meant more than he could express. There were no hard feelings. Anyway, I went no contact for about a month so that I could work on moving on
  9. Sorry to keep adding more to this but stuff keeps happening and I’m so confused. On Wednesday I posted a photo of me eating lunch with a male friend and mutual friends told me my ex got a tinder that night after seeing it. Obviously don’t know if that’s related but it was something strange. He still looks at all the stuff I post and today I was going to look up a friend with the same first name on Facebook and noticed my ex didn’t show up on my friends list anymore. Turns out he took me off Snapchat, unfollowed my instagram, and unfriended me on Facebook. We haven’t talked since Monday when he
  10. Can I clarify what you mean by not being in the friendzone?
  11. To answer all above who asked what I wanted to get out of seeing him: honestly, just to catch up with him and see him since I'll be in the area. We were friends before our relationship, and he had always made a point of saying he wanted to be friends after. He's friendly with all of his exes. I've been casually seeing other people, and at the moment don't really have desire to get back with him, though I'd be open to the idea if the situation were to become right again (aka both in the same area). An update: He and I talked a bit yesterday after I sent a snapchat. He again was asking some
  12. So my ex broke up with me after a year long relationship. He moved away for army training so we are now states away. He’s always said he isn’t good with distance, so that definitely was a large factor in the breakup. I also think it was a bit of GIGS as it was his first more serious relationship and all his friends down there are single and just having a good time. He said I was an amazing partner and was always there for him and that meant more than he could express. There were no hard feelings. Anyway, I went no contact for about a month so that I could work on moving on and feeling like mys
  13. From someone who has been through similar things with a guy--someone who I ended up not being able to trust and took me for granted--I don't think it's very salvageable. Even if you prove yourself she's going to doubt it's permanent. I think it's time for you to cut your losses, take some space, and move on.
  14. She needs to help herself before she can think about being with you or anyone else. Let it go and focus on yourself. You've probably been focusing all your time and energy on her. If she wants you she will let you know.
  15. No. Who's to say she just wouldn't do it again? I think it's one thing if someone takes time and space to live their life and do their thing. But stringing someone along until something else comes along is completely different. She sounds like someone who needs attention and doesn't want to be alone. I'm sure you can do better. Maybe if she really proved herself, but even then I'd be wary that she'd be using you until her next prospect comes around. I think it's time to move on
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