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  1. I actually told him prior to seeing him in person that I didn’t want to have sex straight away, as I wasn’t sure how I’d feel in person with him. But the connection was so good, it just happened naturally I guess. Also, thanks for this answer. It was what I was hoping to get. Not being called things I’m not. Thanks! Thanks for your answer, I might try to text him something like that later!
  2. He didn’t take much time, and I heard he was peeing. I might message him later, I just don’t know what to say to make it less awkward than it already is. No drinking involved. Either of us drink. He’s 30 and I’ll be 30 by the end of the year.
  3. Honestly, I just wanted some insight on his behavior. I was not expecting to be lectured on why it’s a bad idea to go to his house. Also, I’ve been sexually assaulted by someone I did not date, he was a tattoo artist. And he assaulted me in a public place while giving me a tattoo. Don’t make my question turn into a rape discussion. You can get assaulted by your partner, so yeah. I know I have to be careful. I made sure several friends knew exactly where I was, and I make sure someone keeps tabs on me to know I’m safe. I also didn’t want to marry the guy or something. And thanks to everyone
  4. Well I don’t meet someone in hopes of only having a committed relationship. I’m fine with something casual. I just really liked this guy and it seemed like we were on the same page about a lot of things. I’m not dumb and I know when a guy is into me, and he was. But him not getting hard again after going to the bathroom was weird and I feel he was self conscious too about not being able to do it because of his reactions. I don’t know. Lol
  5. Well, we were kissing and he was the one who started the touching. I felt over his pants that he got hard, and then he excused himself and went to the bathroom. I was standing up to check on my phone meanwhile and then he hugged me from behind, and he undressed me but left my underwear on. We got back in bed and he left his clothes on the whole time. He tried to go down on me but I didn’t let him cause I was feeling self conscious. I tried to take his pants/underwear off but he wouldn’t let me. I also felt he didn’t get hard again, and I’m not sure if it was because of me or he just couldn’t.
  6. I’m confused because I wouldn’t have minded doing it on the first date. We didn’t do it not because I didn’t want to, but because it just... didn’t happen. He was the one being all over me, but also didn’t really let me touch him there? I don’t know.
  7. I don’t mind texting first. In fact I always text first, so I wanted to see what happened if I didn’t lol. I’m not sure if he’s the shy type. There were a couple more details that I didn’t include because I’m not sure if it’s allowed. I’m 29 and this has left me feeling clueless about dating. Ugh.
  8. Hi everyone, So I had been talking to this guy online and we decided to meet last Saturday. He is a chef, and he taught me how to make sushi. We had so much fun cooking together, and I felt we had great connection. After that, we went to his bedroom to eat while watching a film. When we were done eating we lied down and he started playing with my hair. He hugged me and kissed me. Things started getting a bit heated up and we kept touching each other but we didn’t do “it”. Anyway, I left his place after the film finished and he said goodbye kissing me on the lips. We didn’t talk to ea
  9. So when I was 22 I dated a guy who was 35 for about 9 months and then when I was 25 I dated someone who was 38 for two years. The age difference wasn't that big but in both cases you could tell they were older than me (in one occasion a lady at a shop thought my ex was my dad when I was dating the 2nd guy lol). I come from a Latin American/Japanese background so you can imagine how strict my parents are. However, surprisingly, they took it pretty well. They only cared about, as you said, that I was being treated right. Although, they did let me know the things that they didn't like about t
  10. Thanks for your reply! Moving or visiting each other wouldn't be a problem on either side. We've kind of talked about it already. I'm more concerned about talking about how I feel... my life has changed so much in the last 6 months, and I feel like I should tell him how I feel because well, you only live once! But I also don't want to scare him away. :(
  11. Happy New Year guys! Well, this is my somewhat crazy story. After my break up in July 2017, my best friend made me get on Tinder to get my ex off my mind. After a couple of months of using it and quite a few very successful dates, I came across this guy. I saw his pictures and I thought he looked fun, interesting and very handsome. It was the first time I thought more than twice on swiping right. I felt he wouldn't swipe right on me and just the thought made me kinda sad, but I swiped right anyways and after a few hours we actually matched! I started the conversation. I saw he was American
  12. I think you're right. I'll try to keep it as light as possible and depending on how the night goes I'll assess if it's necessary to talk about the future or not. I'm feeling extremely anxious about this. I really want things to work out
  13. I hope so too... but is it a good idea to talk about the relationship and what I expect for the future with him? I mean he already knows I want to reconcile and work things out and he's agreed to go out to see how things go. But I don't want to overwhelm him...
  14. Thank you both for your replies. He's such a great man and I don't want to lose him forever. I'm really nervous about seeing him for drinks on Tuesday because I don't really know what to say. I just want to hug him and do nothing else I have an idea of what to say but I don't know if it's a good idea at all since I don't want the conversation to go overly emotional.
  15. Thank you for your answer. The pie didn't mean anything and I wasn't hoping for a response from him or a magical fix. We'll see tomorrow how he reacts to seeing me after the weekend. I know him very well and if he really didn't want anything at all he would've already blocked me and he wouldn't even say hi to me first at work. He's already told me he wants to see where things go, and if he really lets himself, I believe things could get better. But only time will tell.
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