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  1. I think it depends on how much information gathering one needs to be able fall in love. In order to be IN love, you must desire the person you are falling for. If people can be in love with people they know are nefarious, then why people cannot fall in love with people they just met? I read that the IN love stage only lasts about two years, then comes real love which is a choice.
  2. Proof love at first sight exists image removed Love at first sight may exist, scientists believe Love at first sight may not be just for old romantics, according to scientists. People decide what kind of relationship they want within minutes of meeting, a study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships said. Researchers at Ohio State University paired off 164 students, focusing on same-sex friendships - but said it could be applied to dating. Report co-author Artemio Ramirez said it suggested speed dating had value as people did not want to waste time. "It's almost a self-fulfilling prophecy. We make a prediction about what kind of relationship we could have with a person and that helps determine how much effort we are willing to put into developing a relationship. "If I think we could become friends, I'll communicate more, tell you more about myself and do things that will help ensure a friendship does develop. Future "If I have a more negative prediction about a future relationship then I will restrict communication and make it harder to develop." Professor Ramirez, who conducted the study with Michael Sunnafrank of the University of Minnesota, said it contradicted previous assumptions. "Earlier research had assumed there was a cumulative effect that happens in the first days of meeting that helps determine how relationships will develop. "But we're finding that it all happens much sooner than that - literally within a few minutes." After the first meeting, which lasted between three, six and ten minutes, the students completed a questionnaire which asked them to predict how they envisaged a future relationship developing. They also stated how much they had in common and how much they liked the person they had just met. Relationship Nine weeks later the participants were asked what kind of relationship had developed. People who rated the potential relationship more positively tended to sit closer to their partner during class and talk more to that person. After nine weeks, they were more likely to have developed a close relationship, the study found. The results were the same for people who talked for three, six or ten minutes. Prof Ramirez said: "That tells you things are happening very quickly. People are making snap judgements about what kind of relationship they want with the person they just met."
  3. The "IN LOVE" stage, according to experts, only lasts about 2 years. After that comes real love. Real love is a choice, infatuation is not.
  4. I meant a peacefulful breakup from the side of the dumper. The reaction of the dumpee is often passionate because they still love their ex, but if the ex doesn't have have feelings for you anymore, why react passionately with anger? I agree with many comments here.
  5. Why do exes change so much with you to the point you can't recognize them anymore? Why if they don't care, they get so angry? What the anger means? Why are some break-ups so bitter? Why so passionate, yet so cold? Isn't it simpler and easier to break-up peacefully, rather than break-up heartlessly?
  6. Thank you all for your opinions. It's just that the break up was so bitter that I had liked to make peace with him, even if we don't get back together. But how can I make peace with someone without mentioning the problem?
  7. My ex and I had a very bitter break-up 5 months ago. It would seem very weird for me to call him and act like nothing happened. Should I just call him and ask him if he is still mad with me? How should one address an ex after a bitter break-up?
  8. Thank you MrMister The thing is that our break-up was really harsh. It was not like the regular break-up followed by NC, in which 4 months might be a long time for one of those cases. But is 4 months a long time for a split up that was remarkably and overwelmingly bitter and pathetic?
  9. I broke-up with my first boyfriend and didn't know anything about NC rules then. I became very weak and called him many times to the point he thought I was a stalker and dissed me badly. I am sure I came accross as ultra-clingy, needy, and insecure. Now it's been 4 months since NC, and I still love him but I'm not as weak as I was the first days after the split up. How much time should one wait to break the NC rules after having made a fool of oneself?
  10. What does "rye" means? Can someone please give me the definition.
  11. When you turn 16, you will probably be 5'6. When you turn 18, you will most likely be 5'9 or 5'10. By 20, maybe you reach 5'10 or 5'11.
  12. Thanks a lot for your insights and advices. It's been 5 months since we broke up and 3 months since the last contact (seems to me like it was yesterday). But after I overreacted (constant calls, pathetic messages, etc) the way I did, it will take some time (maybe many months) for him to believe I have changed and not be scared of me. But I don't really know how much longer to wait, and I don't care how long is the time because now I have nothing to lose. It's intriguing that he was telling me to give him time to talk to me again, but I felt miserable and insisted too much. Now that I pressured and annoyed him enough that he made it clear that it was over, I don't mind giving him all the time of the world. Another question I have why guys turn so mean when a girl shows too much attachment and/or devalues herself for him? Shouldn't they be proud? My ex was the sweetest guy, and then turned so mean with me so fast. I am pretty sure he liked me, but why...
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