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BecxyRex

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  1. I haven’t read through all the replies, so I apologize if this has been brought up. To me it seems that you view marriage as a status symbol to show the outside world that your boyfriend “chose” you and you’re a taken woman. I’d be alarmed if my boyfriend told me that he feels there’s too much tension and arguments and would try my best to make him feel comfortable in the relationship. His feelings matter too. Maybe it’s not fact, but this isn’t court where he needs to show evidence to support his claim. It’s how he feels. What are you doing to make him feel more loved?
  2. Watch her do a complete 180 after you send that happy Birthday text… maybe it’s just the sign she needed to be able to pursue a serious relationship with you 😉
  3. It seems you were both on the same page about you selling your home, as you say it was your original intent. Has something changed and is he aware of it? I know you say you work closer to your home and find the distance more practical for you, but has there ever been a conversation with him about you keeping your place for longer? He might be expecting your “long distance” to end sooner than you’re intending? I put long distance in quotation because an hour isn’t very long, but over time can add up and start being a hinderance. I’d say have a conversation about where you stand and if you indeed are planning to sell. Of course you have to make that decision for yourself, but he needs to be aware of what your plan is. If he’s assuming your life will shift onto “his turf” soon it might make sense for him to focus your hangouts there.
  4. Omg I love “Love on the spectrum”! We can learn a lot from their openness and honesty. So beautiful!
  5. Love Jeremy Irons especially in Lolita! Gotta say though, Dominique Swain was fire in that role too 🤌🏻
  6. We’ve probably moved on from the celebrity crush topic (haven’t had a chance to read past that yet), but I wanna throw my all time favorite crush in here Alan Rickman, specifically in Harry Potter as Snape. I can’t be the only one, right???!!!
  7. That’s actually brilliant! I’m gonna try eating Cajun chips next time I have a stomach bug, because I’m so addicted to them. Not good for my hips 😉
  8. Hey Lolita! Argh, I have a feeling I may not ever enjoy my vegan spread again. What a shame! Sounds like once you develop an aversion is persists. How interesting you just had that same situation with your hubby 🙂 I love Cesar salad and would be so sad if I couldn’t eat it anymore. Do you remember those apple desert things from McDonalds back in the 90s? We never went to McDonalds much, but the one time we did, I got one and it made me so sick. Thinking about it now, I wouldn’t want to try one to this day. Hopefully y’all stay healthy over there! Nausea Is just so debilitating…
  9. Thanks so much! Interesting that your aversion went away once you had a small bite. I’ll give it a bit of time and try a small amount.
  10. My daughter had a stomach bug before me. I’m sure it’s something that was going around. I was the one who mainly cleaned up after her, so that’s definitely how I got it. Had nothing to do with the spread (she didn’t eat it) and it sadly was the last thing I ate before getting sick. I’m totally fine now, can eat anything, just have an aversion to my beloved spread. I’ll take it easy though and just wait a while until my body doesn’t respond to it anymore. It’ll probably pass. Thanks everyone!
  11. Hi all! I recently had a stomach bug and it wasn’t fun. Lots of throwing up, nausea, etc. It’s passed by now, but I still have this specific food aversion that I’m trying to get rid off. My mom sends these vegan spreads to me from overseas and I love them! I’m not vegan, but they are easy to send and so good. They come in different flavors and you can spread them on bread or use as dip. There’s Indian curry, apple and leeks, red beets…. I used to be obsessed, getting excited to dig them out and see which one I’d open. They come in cute little glass jars too! Anyway, the last thing I ate before my stomach bug hit was one of the spreads. It was apple leek to be precise and even writing about it makes me feel slightly unwell. It’s been a good two weeks now that I’m healthy again, but as soon as I see the jars in my pantry I just want to throw up again. When does this food aversion pass you think? Should I just force one down to show my body it’s fine? Does it go away on its own or have I ruined these for me now? I’m actually sad about this, because I liked them so much. This isn’t anything earth shattering but maybe someone can help and has experience!
  12. I wonder about this happiness thing quite a bit. I don’t think happiness is an end goal to be achieved, but more an accumulation of little moments throughout the day or week. I feel happy lighting a fall scented candle for the first time after summer, or baking a peach pie on a sunny day. Yikes that sounds cheesy? I think as long as any major obstacles in life are taken care of, happiness comes in little moments like these. They can be fleeting if you have a lot on your plate but I think it’s worth relishing in these little minutes in between where you feel a nice summer rain on your skin or you’re cozy inside during a thunder storm. I’m only learning to value these minutes now that I’m approaching middle age and time with my little one seems to just fly out of my hands
  13. That does sound perfect! We don’t have high enough hills around here I’m afraid lol house is coming along! Little one had a play date yesterday so I’ve been cleaning up spilled beads all around the house 😵‍💫
  14. Oh man I would crap myself! I already get anxious flying in a plane, so probably no skydiving for me. Paragliding though 🧐
  15. Did you say you’re 31, then say you’re 28, or did I misunderstand? How old are you?
  16. In addition I’ve got one more point. I was in a long term relationship when I was younger. Over 10 years. I didn’t know how to get out… I loved my partner, but it was clear to me we had grown apart. That didn’t make it any easier to leave though…. I was very similar to your girlfriend in that I wasn’t interested in resolving arguments, I had no sexual desire. I didn’t cheat. I was hot and cold because I liked him and didn’t want to hurt him. I ended up leaving. I’m just saying, it sounds similar to what she’s going through. It does not sound at all like she’s interested in maintaining the relationship, I’m very sorry to say.
  17. Look, cheating by itself doesn’t automatically end a long term relationship. In my opinion. Lack of sex drive doesn’t either. Silent treatment during arguments can be something she works on. However, all three combined? It’s blatantly obvious she’s not in this anymore, OP. I don’t know why she’s depressed. I get the feeling she’s afraid to leave. Maybe she’s afraid to be alone or maybe she still cares about you and doesn’t want to hurt you. But it’s clear to me that she does not want to date you anymore. You can’t fix her, only she can. And she’s not giving you anything, yet you cling on and try any possible way to justify her behavior. Let her go back to her country, don’t talk to her, give her space. She will either come back to you or not. There’s literally nothing else you can do. That’s not being harsh, and I hope you understand you need to protect yourself as well here.
  18. If she’d been in bed all day for days, literally sleeping until evening I’d understand your concern and desire to get her out into the sun. But man, she wanted to sleep in. I’m actually not a morning person and my worst nightmare would be my partner trying to get me out of bed, before I have to. It sounds like a creepy parent child dynamic. Look, I understand your will is good and you have her best interest in mind. But she’s an adult. You need to let her make her own decisions. Also, i get the sense (with all your research and personal development) that you like to discuss issues… a lot. Correct me if I’m wrong. Maybe she just needs some peace and quiet, and shuts down when all that talking gets too much. You seem to be trying too hard to fix this. I understand you love her and you want to give it your all to save this relationship. You may be doing more damage than good though, if you don’t give her space and focus on yourself for a bit. Hey, she might even start missing you if you make yourself a bit more scarce.
  19. I think all you need to know going forward is that Chloe doesn’t love you enough to divorce her husband. Her “guilt” and willingness to sneak behind his back say everything. If this was truly a match made in heaven you’d be discussing both of your divorces by now. She’s not willing to do that. Break up with Gemma. You both aren’t in love from what it sounds like. Yes, you’ll be paying child support, but ultimately, I think it’s all heading that way anyway. People have left relationships with kids involved, it’s not an impossibility. Go from there. You say your friend Jamie is everything to you. I understand Love can cloud judgement, but in my mind you have already lost that friend when you started sleeping with his wife. Cut ties with both of them and start fresh. This holiday romance will not last once reality kicks in. Try to leave with some dignity right now before it gets really bad.
  20. It’s all been a while. My first husband and I knew each other since we were 17 and it ended up not working out. My now husband and I have our sweet daughter and it all worked out for the best 🙂
  21. BecxyRex

    Pitbull attack

    Thanks Lolita, it was really terrifying. The dogs are gone now thankfully and I feel like I can let my daughter play outside again!
  22. BecxyRex

    Pitbull attack

    Hi Jibralta, I agree, if you have a powerful dog like a Pitbull you really need to be equipped to handle it. I would imagine lots of professional training involved. One mistake can just be devastating. Haha, I got a good chuckle from your description of Pit owners. It’s so true! Lots of them get super defensive. You can’t even mention Pitbull attacks in certain circumstances, because it brings the Pitbull Justice warriors out of the weeds. I love animals in general, but I have a healthy respect for these breeds. Wow, handling horses! I sometimes think Living on a horse farm would be my dream life but I have zero experience with them aside from brushing them and riding sometimes when I was 12 and in pony camp lol
  23. BecxyRex

    Pitbull attack

    Thank you! The Pitbull owner definitely wasn’t fit to own these dogs. They were afraid of him, when he called them. Animal control actually took them away as far as I know. Little dog is recovering also. Things are looking good 🙂
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