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I had quite a few signs, but didn't realize them until I actually vomited in my mouth in a grocery store line up... while purchasing canned sardines and strawberry ice cream... yeah. But other than that, boobs were extremly perky and sore. And I also felt extremely happy, beautiful and positive until the tiredness kicked in. Good times.

If your "fwb" partner makes valentines day plans with you, it's really not an "fwb" relationship. The "fwb's" won't even take you out to dinner, join you for breakfast in the morning or acknowledge any hallmark holiday in general. I wish you a fabulous v-day ! Enjoy yourself

A womans weight changes up and down four times a month. And it's all water, not fat. Try not to focus on the numbers on the scale too much. I went to a diet clinic for 1 yr, and was weighed 3 times a week. Sometimes no matter how hard I'd been working out and eating healthy, my weight would shoot up 3 or 4 pds, and go down 5 pds a few days later even though my measurements had gone down. Also, be consistant with the time of day you weigh yourself. Always the same time of the day. You'll get more of an accurate number. Prefferably after you've emptied your bladder and before you've eaten breakfast. Cheers!

Stock up on a few bottles of Cold FX and take your vitamins. All that spit swapping and tongue sharing might come with a nasty bug. Go out and buy some Burts Bees lip balm... keep those lips lookn' kissable

Thank you for your replies. Yet again, I caved and subjected myself to the ongoing saga this last weekend. And I was left feeling even more lonely and upset then ever before. ](*,) I think that I have finally realized why I have been putting myself through this for so long. And I have had enough! My closest friends were finally honest with me. I asked them for the hard and ugly truth. And I got it. And I can honestly say that I can now see that I deserve soooooo much more. Thank you for your replies, without them I wouldn't have listened to my friends and turned my head. Now it's time to gather the courage not to answer the phone calls and emails. I can do it! Right?

Hi, Relationship Commitment seemed like the only place to post concerning my situation... since there is no commitment... there's no breaking up, getting back together, etc. Long story short (I'll try to make it short). Met this man just over 3 years ago at a staff function. We went home together... had an amazing time... didn't leave my bedroom for the following 10 hrs or so... enough said. I hadn't (still haven't) met anyone quite like him. I can honestly say that I fell in love with him the very moment I saw him. He had me even before he said hello..........I wish I hadn't gone to that staff party. The 10 hour amazing session lasted another 3 years. And 3 years of a fwb relationship can really f*#k a girl up. Can get a little confusing at times. Casual sex is called casual sex for a reason. But 1, 2, 3 times a week for three yrs is not casual... and not healthy. Shortly after we first met, he became one of the most important people in my life. He is the only person who has seen the real me... no matter how ugly it is. I've never felt so safe with someone, ever in my life. We became great friends. We've seen the most intimate sides of each other... no matter how ugly, hairy, or w/ the bathroom door open... and have had the most amazing mind blowing moments that make you want light a smoke after. We never dated. Never became g/b. Always spent time together at each of our homes. He never made the effort to take me anywhere, impress me or meet any of his friends. I kept telling myself that it was because he was 5 yrs youger than me, and he would come to his senses. Then I came my 30th birthday. After countless discussions about why he didn't/couldn't be my boyfriend, and ending it for the 3rd or 4th time, I'd had enough. I met someone else and put an end to it. Although I couldn't see it at the time, the new guy was BAD news. I wanted a commited realtionship so badly. The new guy moved in w/ me after 3 weeks. 1 month later I discovered his crack addiction and I was preganant... AWESOME! And who was there for me? Guess who. Who kept calling, checking in on me and listened to me cry? Who moved me out of the apt? Guess who. It's funny, after he moved me out of the pit of hell, he asked a question. "Did you want to be with him? Or just any guy who would be your boyfriend?" My answer, any guy. WHY WOULDN'T YOU BE THAT GUY? I asked him to leave me alone for a while (december), and saw him twice this january. The second time he f$%ked me and we haven't talked since. He hasn't called. I feel like a * * * * *. I feel pathetic. I thought he actually cared about me, and was there for a reason, and that things might be different. I have never felt so hurt in my life. I am trying so hard to forget about him and let this go. Try to be strong. I remind myself that he is not willing to be my partner, my boyfriend, my friend. Although I love him dearly, it is not reciprocated, and if it hasn't been after 3 years it probably will never be. SO MOVE ON. Help me move on please. He will call me in a the next few days (patterns), someone tell me not to pick up the phone. PLEASE. I can't live like this anymore.

Ok, don't take any more pills. Drink plenty of water, eat a load of carbs and soak in a warm bubble bath and crawl into a pair of comfy pj's. The more you think about not being able to sleep, the worse it will get. Don't take a sleeping pill, it'll be too hard on your body. By the way, pepsi and dark chocolate are not the best mix. Dark chocolate should only be eaten in very small amounts. I've done quite a few other things that have kept me up a lot longer than this, you'll get through it. Just relax and eat a sandwhich.

So, I decided against calling or emailing the other girls. It just doesn't make sense. Maybe they already know and they are okay with it. Or maybe they don't know and they will eventually discover what I already have. I've decided to stop all contact with him and just walk away. Or as my best guy friend describes it "the carrot break-up", quick and string free as opposed to the "celery break-up". That cracks me up Thanx to everyone for your comments and advice. I really do appreciate all of them. Cheers for carrots and best friends. ~R

Yes, my goal here is to get rid of him. And also to let these other women know that they are not the only one! Much like I have thought for so long. Of course he's going to find out, of course they will ask him who I am and why I am calling them. I'd also like to say that I am not a crazy person who believes in revenge. I am just purely heartbroken, and feel amazingly overwhelmed with the realization that I have been worked over for the past 2 yrs. Thank you for all your replies, I dearly appreciate it.

I need a little adivice from you guys out there, I 've just discovered that the man I have been seeing for two years is seeing 2 other women and has been for quite sometime. Needless to say, I am handleing it quite well. Here's the question. I want to call them and tell them who I am and who he is. This will be a calm phone call, not an eliv spitefull one. Basically he has been putting my life in danger and possibly their's as well. Who knows who else he's been sleeping with. I will most likely do this, but I'd like some input from others please. Thank you, R

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Call the girl on her birthday.

Thank you for your advice everyone. I really do appreciate it, it's good to get an outside opinion and help clear my head. However, this guy just won't seem to leave me alone. I received yet another letter from him on friday. He was very nice and wanted to get together for a chat - about what - who knows. I agreed and he shot me down. He starts work tomorrow. Hopefully I won't really have to see him. Why is he doing this to me? My god, he broke up with me! If any men out there are reading this - can you please give me any thoughts as to what my ex is doing? This has never happened to me before. Thank you.

My ex dumped me 3 weeks ago. 2 weeks ago I received a horrible letter from him in which he stated it was too late to get back together and he never wishes to see me again. Yikes. Of course I wrote him back, but I was perfectly nice and told him I wanted to see him again - bad move I know. Anyways: fast forward. He is starting a position at my place of work as of monday. I work for 2 popular bars running the business side of things, so I had no say in the hiring - nor was I aware of it until today. WHY???? If he said he never wants to see me again, why come and work with me? And why would he want to come and work under me? I know for a fact that he doesn't need this job. Somebody please shed some light on the situation for me... I told myself whatever happens I can deal with it... but I didn't think this would happen.

Talk to him about it now before one of you gets hurt. Believe me, I just went through this and not talking about it leads to a pretty ugly situation. If you truley value his friendship - talk about it. Do not confuse casual sex with a relationship.

To clear up the question for my american friends... rye is whisky (sp?)... and I have had far too much tonight. This fool is hitting the hay. When I wake up tomorrow, I am not going to feel guilty. So I missed him and I let him know it... I'm only human. Good night... thank you again Muneca. ~ R.

Oh god, I just commited the worst offense after a break up. I sent him a text telling him how much I want him. BAD!!!! No I can't even take it back. Bad, rye induced text. Didn't even have the guts to call him. Weak. weak weak. Now what? Now it is really over isn't it?

Thanks Muneca! I feel really good about replying to his letter. I actually just deleted it because I kept reading it and reading it. And then suddenly saw that he wrote "after witnessing my pathelogical nature I am deciding to stay away for safety reasons". What? Since when did I become a nutcase in this scenario. Now I am pissed - but still feel great. Just have to stop wondering if he will ever contact me again. Oh well, it's his loss and I am going out tonight to have some fun with the girls!!!

Hi everyone, I am actually laughing at this point. My boyfreiend emailed me after b/up with me 1 week ago. Funny thing is, he seems the frustrated and confused one after all. I have come to accept that we might never be togther again, I actually moved on and pulled up my boot straps rather quickly and feel great! He seemed very angry and was making points laying blame on me (he cheated on me). He described in the letter how he wanted to get back together - but its too late and he decided to stay away for safety reasons, blah blah blah. I went with my heart and cleared up any questions he had. And I said that if he wishes, I am willing to see him again and talk. I also replied saying that I will respect his decision and won't contact him again until he decides what to do. Bad move? I don't know. No more games, I'm just going with my heart. Any thoughts?

It's strange. A couple of days ago, all I could think about was getting back together with him even though he had been getting it on with other women. But now, I can't even imagine being with him again. I would feel dirty. And thank god he hasn't tried to contact me!!!!!!! Spending time with my friends, and reconnectiong with old friends has really helped me get over what just happened. And I am actually enjoying sleeping alone again (it was very hard at first). Question: What do I do with his things? I don't even want to talk to him to tell him to pick them up. I don't even want to email him yet. I doubt that he even has the balls to call me and ask for them. You see, I just don't want to give him the satisfaction of recieving a call after he dumped me. ~thanks

Thank you Ated. I am pretty sure that I have now realized what happened between us. If he can't commit, I have to move on. But that doesn't stop the pain of him leaving me because he can't keep it in his pants. I have not and will not contact him unless he initiates it. I can only hope he knows excatly what he's lost. Rejection sucks ass.

My boyfriend of one year just broke up with me 2 days ago. One week previous to this, we had an argument and he admitted to me that he was sleeping with other people. I of course walked out on him and took a little vacation for a week. We exchanged letters which described how we felt about each other and I honestly expressed how deeply I feel for him. So he decided to leave me. During the break up he held me and we cried and cried and fell asleep together. He told me how hard it was to leave me and how he feels that I deserve someone who will treat me right etc. And he was saying all this while holding me??? He told me that we can never be together again because I will end up getting hurt. I ended up pushing him out the door. And we have not talked since. I don't know if he will contact me again. I feel like I have no closure. I am not going to try to contact him. What do I do? I don't know what I want, I am so confused.