poorlittlefish

It's curious how he's never blocked this woman from being able to contact him. He clearly wants her to and he's not particularly bothered that you know about it. He also deliberately misled you during your talks about her because it was convenient for him to keep you in his life. I couldn't continue a relationship with that kind of shadow hanging over it.

Pets are part of someone's family. You wouldn't ask someone to get rid of their kids if you didn't like them. You'd choose to be with someone who didn't have kids. The principle is exactly the same. If anyone gave me any kind of ultimatum, they'd be out of my life. It's bullying and controlling.

5. People in relationships already who will chat away, but come up with excuses as to why they can't meet.

So you know 100% his ex cheated, but he doesn't? Letting on could get messy and you could be accused of meddling. However, he's been allowing her to contact him as he's clearly not blocked her number. He's also entertained the idea of meeting her and his reason for agreeing to it sounds dodgy to me. Why has he not already told her he's in a relationship in one of these unnecessary calls? Maybe he wonders whether he was too hasty in splitting up with her and is curious to see if it is salvageable. If he genuinely has no interest in his ex, he should be asking her not to contact him again and blocking her number. I bet he won't.

I struggled for several years with a man who had ASD. The longer it went on, the more abusive and unreasonable he became. He lacked the capacity to understand that his actions were harmful. I had to walk on eggshells all the time and rehearse what to say in the hope it didn't cause him to get offended. My only advice is to GET OUT! It's highly unlikely to get better and your mental health will suffer - it's not worth it.

That's why it's not often I contact men on dating sites as I rarely get anything back. If they've contacted me then there are several reasons I might not respond, distance being the main one. I used to politely reply to everyone to say thanks but no thanks, but that would sometimes generate really nasty, spiteful replies, so now I just delete if they're too far away or not my type, as I've said that's why I might not respond in my profile. Politeness seems to get me nowhere.

I'm trying online dating again, after a gap of a few years. I receive a lot of messages, but the pattern is almost always this: The guy makes some kind of introduction. I reply and pick a shared interest to ask a question about. The guy answers my question, but asks nothing back. I try and continue once or twice more, but get fed up with the conversation consisting solely of me asking. Is it now the normal thing to just talk about yourself and ask nothing about the person you got in touch with? I have a variety of hobbies/interests etc on my profile, so I don't understand why they contact me if they're not interested in knowing anything?

Your jealousy is not ruining your relationship, his inappropriate behaviour is. Let him go find someone who's happy to be in a relationship with someone who wants to act like they're single. He won't find it easy.

Does this woman's husband really have no problem with her hanging out with another bloke alone so often? That she calls him to get her out of problems instead of her own husband? That she talks to another man about their relationship issues? I don't think too many men would be happy about that, but maybe he knows your boyfriend well enough to understand that it's friendship and nothing else. If your boyfriend and this woman have been friends for decades then no, he's not going to stop being friends with her because you're uncomfortable with it. She obviously knows about you and is supposedly keen to meet you, so why not see if it puts your mind more at ease? If not, it's best to back away now, while your relationship is so new. She's always going to be there, so if you don't like it, don't make life difficult for yourself.

I think the first one is a bit odd. To me, the middle letter would be someone's middle name and I'd wonder why it was given prominence over the other two. I'd go with the second/standard.

It SHOULD bother you that she's texting multiple guys. Why would she be doing this unless she's craving attention from other men and looking for trouble? It is often the way that a partner starts throwing accusations at the other party or gets suspicious when it is THEY who are doing things they know are wrong in a relationship. I'd venture a guess and say that's what's happening. I think your wife checking your phone is the least of your problems.

For your own safety and sanity, get out. You cannot help someone like this; their traits are who they are. It's not like asking someone to put the toilet seat down, it's asking someone to change how they think and behave about everything: not gonna happen.

I would not be keen to date someone who was unemployed because it limits what we can do, so maybe you're lucky that he's considering you at all. I certainly wouldn't want to be dating anyone who was so focused on how much money I had, rather than what I am like as a person. For some people, earning a fortune isn't their priority as there are other things in life that are more important to them. If this guy prioritises volunteering for the fire service, good for him. I know someone who started as a volunteer firefighter and went on to get a paid job with them, so he might be thinking about that. Anyhow, it doesn't sound like your values are going to align too well and you'd be better off trying to find a richer guy who thinks you have a lot to offer.

If you're in a relationship with someone, it's perfectly reasonable to expect that they don't take days to text or call you back. You told this guy that you weren't comfortable with his unresponsiveness and he continued to do it anyway. You gave him a chance and he didn't care enough to do such a little thing. He knows exactly what he's doing by not replying and by blocking/deleting him, it's given the break up that he couldn't be bothered to do himself. If a guy is into you, he'll respond to your messages. This one wasn't, so concentrate on finding someone better.

Have you spoken to her about why she doesn't want sex very often? Are you taking enough time on foreplay? Are you making sure she's satisfied or only concerned with yourself? Are you hassling her about it (which will make things worse) or coming onto her when she's busy or dead tired? Is there any romance within your relationship to help put her in the mood?

People have some very opposing views on Covid. He may have thought your viewpoint was going to be too much for him to handle. If he wants to go places/do things without the person he's with restricting what can be done together, then you wouldn't be a good match for him and neither party is "wrong" for how they feel.

Something happened at that concert and he's admitted he loves this other girl. What he means is that he's not ready for a relationship with you, because he's doing his best to have a relationship with her instead. Time to pack up your dignity and leave him to it.

In all my relationships, most lasting several years, I've never been asked if I've had a threesome. If someone asked me that after 6 weeks of dating it would make me wonder why she needed to ask and how well our values are aligned. I'd find out and decide from there whether I wanted to remain in the relationship.

I doubt he'd find anyone who'd be able to keep that up, or even want to. Prolapse or not, it's going to hurt. There are considerate and caring guys out there, but he's not one of them.

So you checked him out online and found out he's doing stuff that doesn't align with your values. You then set a test for him about what you found and know that he lied to your face. That wasn't enough proof that this guy is not right for you, but you want to set another test to see if he'll pretend to be single. When he says he is, what will be the next test? To see if he'll arrange to meet? When will enough be enough? You may keep finding excuses for this guy, but ultimately you don't like his behaviour and even if you confront him and he admits it, you're unlikely to trust him or believe he'll stop. Why put yourself through all this emotional turmoil? There are other great guys out there who don't do this stuff, who'll you be much happier with!

She told you what her boundary was from the start, giving you the option to leave if it wasn't something you could agree to. Her mistake has been in failing to uphold that boundary by continuing the relationship after you lied time and time again. She absolutely should not have been physically abusive, but you have repeatedly broken her trust, so enough is enough - time to end things. You will be free to find someone who's happy with your porn use and she can find someone who's more honest/more attuned to her morals.

Not to mention the likelihood of STDs from all this bed-hopping.

You are incredibly disrespectful and you are playing games with that poor woman who was putting in effort for someone who gave none back. Stick to your booty calls and let her find someone who has an iota of consideration for others.

You were likely Plan B. She reached out because she was feeling lonely or someone had done something sh*tty to her and wanted some attention from you to feel better about herself. She's now got what she wanted (someone local) and has no need for you. Users like this are not people to be friends with.

This whole story sounds too bizarre and now the story is becoming unbelievable. Either this is trolling or there are some serious mental health problems that are either clouding your reality, or your ability to see that you need to leave the situation immediately.