I have been seeing my boyfriend for 4 years. We moved in together almost immediately. We have talked of getting married and he took me to look at rings almost 3 years ago. There was a period of time where we would look every weekend for a ring. So naturally, I became pretty excited. Being a girl, I expected it to be soon and I got a reality check when he told me that he could not afford it and that he was only looking. So, I left the situation alone and did not mention it for a while.
Over the past three years, on and off again, I bring the subject up. Lately he has gotten aggrevated. I am starting to get really annoyed at his excuses. He says that he cannot afford a ring. I totally understand that but when I see him blowing money on un-necessary objects it really hurts my feelings and makes me think that he is only making excuses.
Here is the deal now. We are buying a house together. We close very soon and now I am really starting to get a bad gut feeling about the whole situation. Of course he is excited about his new house and he is looking at guy things like pool tables and fun stuff of that sort. But i am getting really ticked off when he is thinking about financing a pool table but he won't finance my ring becuase he "doesn't want anymore payments". Although he says the pool table is "down the road and he is just looking". Over the past month or so I have been really sick over the whole situation. The other day he said, "do you really want a ring from someone that you pressured to get?" My response was that he is buying a house with me and there is no pressure there? I really got my feelings hurt because I feel that these are all excuses.
I love him more than anything. We never fight or have a bad relationship, but I am not going to be in a dead end relationship. I feel that I should have never moved in with him. I might be married by now. I don't know what to do because now I am going to own a home with him. It's not like I can just leave at any given second without a big mess. I don't want to leave but I am getting really anxious and frustrated. I am sick over this almost everyday. If anyone out there can give some advice, I would appreciate it greatly!
