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hey...i know what your dealing with. and its really really hard. and i know a bumnch of people tell you to just move on and forget her...and you feel strong during the day. but when you wake up in the morning and go to bed at night...and that other person isn't there...its really really hard. i boyfriend just went nuts on me this week. and i went to go apologize for my "attitude" (thats why he's mad at me..lol) at his work today...and he WENT NUTS! punching walls...yelling...and i've been with im for 4 years..and i'm turning 21 next month. so yeah.. its been really hard on me. and you know whats funny. i cheated on him with this amazing,hot, RICH.. guy that treated me like a princess...and my boyfriend NEVER found out...yet.. even by cheating on him..with an amazing guy. i still wanted my puny, cheap b/f. sometimes it takes the person to be with someone else...to realize what their missing. so right now she's probably seeing all the "good" sides of this guy. but wait till she starts missing YOU. theres this saying.....*MiSSiN' mE wOn'T bE tHe HaRdEsT pArT...iT's KnOwiN' u OnCe HaD mE aNd LeT mE gO tHaT WiLL bReAk YoUr HeArT* ...º and that is sooo true. right now i'm gonna tell you what everyone is telling me. BE SELFISH!! let her miss you!! and reaallllyyyy let her miss you. don't call her, write her emails....i know your reading thinking that its impossible...b/c as much as i want to pick up that phone and call my "b/f"...i'm gonna really let him miss me...REALLY! i'm not calling..nor writing.. m ake her wonder what your doing. so.. my advice is to not talk to her for a couple weeks....make her miss you and think about only YOU when she's with him. b/c if she can both you guys then she's happy...but ou have to give her an altermative...make her miss you!! go out with your friends.. go doing sonething you like to do...i consider you not going to bars...or clubs.. b/c alcohol makes you think too much and you start getting depressed...but go out...buy yourself stuff..workout...be selfish!! b/c thats whats really gonn adrive her crazy and want you back...and only you! and maybe by that time.. you'll meet someone else...or you would rather be on your own. as we speak thats exactly what i'm doing...and i'm pretty good right now...b/c i havent made myself cried...and just been thinking about how to make myslef feel better...so take my advice and make her miss you!! trust me..

well, i have been going out with this guy for about a year and a half.. and we constintly fight..ABOUT NOTHING!! though, he takes it to the extreme!! i might get mad at him for at most 2 hours, he gets mad for like 1-2 days!! and when we do fight he calls me names and ALWAYS tells me "i can't stand you anymore" and "i never wanna see you again".. like you can just imagine things.. he takes eveything ti the extreme!! and i just sit there and hear this out. we usually fight on the phone or on the cpu. it's crazy! and then, in less than a day he calls me back like if nothing happened. for the past couple of months i haven't let these thing upset me..since afterall i haven't done anything. though they still bother me. even though i keep to myself..why does he say all those nastythings to me when we fight? and i try to talk things out with him.. but it's always "him, him him.." and i get no say.. b/c he doesnt understand me. and he seriouly calls me to bitch me out and hang up on me. i don't know why i put up with this stress. please explain to me what to do/say to things like this.. i feel like im on a rollarcoaster ride!

I think that this is just a feeling that everyone goes through when you just "dont know" what to do or feel when the relationship gets serious. I personally have some times when I look at my relationship and ask myself .."is this right for me?" and by the end of the day it seems clear. I can see you guys are really in love. Yet, you are still confused about everything maybe even scared about real commitment. So, just take like 2-3 days of time apart and on that 4th day you'll know if you want her back or not. good luck!!

OMG!! you don't even understand HOW MUCH your story relates to mine. i have been with my b/f for a year and a half and every time we fight i get really mad at him... and then he says... "fine, thats it.. goodbye.".. and then i realize how much i really do need him.. since i too have no friends. and i call him up and tell him its my fault and that i promise that i will change...(even though, it was his fault)... it seems that every fight is my problem..and i blame myself. well, what i decided to do with the last couple fights is.. "if its REALLY over, then it just wasnt meant for me.".. i try to workout A LOT.. since i know that school work is impossible to do when your eyes are swollen and your mind is somewhere else. i try to take long walks. i MAKE myself eat. even though, that is the last thing on your mind... you have to eat. i go to the mall WITH FRIENDS!! do not go by yourself b/c.. then you will start thinkng of stuff and you will be in the bathroom at macy's crying for 2 hours. and at night.. since it is the hardest time...(b/c lets face it.. you would be on the phone at night with him...and now you cant. ) well, i like to watch comedy shows that keep me entertained. dont watch movies that will make you cry. and i will just fall asleep whenever i got tired.. will it be at 4:13 in the morning.. whatever.. at least you had 3 hours of sleep which you didnt plan on having. AND the number one rule of ALL... DO NOT call him!!!... I know i know... it seems impossible to do... but trust me it works!! let it be those 2-3 days not talking to him.. thats makes him realize what he lost and what he wants back! and there will be a little phone ringing at 12:30 at night.. begging you back.. and if you do decided to go back with him you better set it straight that if he calls you any names.. even 'idiot'.. and specially if he hits you... that you dont even want to hear his name or see him for the rest of your life...anyways, maybe it wont be 2-3 days.. maybe in a week or two.. but trust me.. you will see him again.. and you better look better than ever. b/c how bad will it be if he saw you with swollen red eyes and messy hair. not good. so if you decided to go out ...try to look your best. and always be happy b/c they HATE it when their ex isnt crying over them. and if he dosent call.. well then you know he wasnt the one for you..and you will find someone better.. that doesnt hit you or curse at you.

It is gonna be ok. me and my boyfriend had a huge fight last tuesday which left me with no energy. i couldn't eat or sleep. though the difference between me and you.. is that i went back to him.. so he can hurt me even more. you know when it "just feels right".. it doesn't matter how the person treats you.. you just can't say goodbye to them. but i admire your security and confidence. if deep down you know that he will still keep treating you like crap.. this is your time to go. though, if you just can't say goodbye.. don't go back to being his lover. just keep as friends and then there you can determine if he has changed or not. this is what i am doing. and it feels a little more complete. don't ignore him completely..(even though it feels so good to let them know that he doesn't control you anymore... ) answer the phone tomorrow and talk to him normally. if he invites you to go out.. just say that you are busy with other things and that maybe by the end of this week you can go out to dinner or something. so he knows that you haven't been sitting home crying and listening to music all this weekend. sound happy and surprised he called.. though, be nice. i know that everyone else has wrote.."good.. he's out of your life.." and so on.. which is a good idea.. but taking it from a person that almost lost a 3 year relationship... it just seems like something died.. and you can't go on.... so maybe this advice can help you... good luck

me and my boyfriend broke up on sunday... we were going out for a year and a half. we have been through everything!! he was all i had and all i still have. i keep crying and crying over him.. and i just wonder if he is doing the same? and if he will ever call me and come back to me? we broke up for NO reason.. he just stopped calling and strated ignoring me...for NO reason...i don't know what to do.. why does this hurt soo much when i did nothing wrong!! i didnt deserve to be dumped.. i dont know what to do ???

ok i just need guys opinion on what the hell is going on in my life. me and my boyfriend have been going out for 15 months and were best friends for a year before. our relationship has had a lot of ups and lots of downs... but we always worked them out (sometimes with begging and pleading from me.. but we never broke up)... anyways. on sunday we had a stupid stupid fight over what i liked and what he liked.. you know opinion fights.. not even a fight that had to do with "us".. anyways.. so i couldn't take it anymore and went home.. letting that whole night and the next day to be a cooloing off period.. well, the moron didnt call me at all.. so i decided to write him an email.. asking why he was ignoring me and to please tell me whats going on... he responded today with "some things are better left unsaid. goodbye".. what the fu@k!!! i was pissed.. b/c i didnt do anything!! so i left him a message saying that he was a bi@ch and had no balls to call me and tell me face up what was wrong.. and that good luck finding another girlfriend.. b/c i know girls hate to be ignored and thats waht your good at.".... so his message to me was.."good luck foe me to find another boyfriend.. blah blah... and that i thought i was too good for him b/c i got into a university and he didn't (SURE PAL...i could care less about that.. its him that is mad at himself).. and that i wish i was dead!" WHAT!!! so i left my last message saying that his message didnt bother me the thing that bothered me was when he said that he wanted me dead.. when he tells me all the time 'i love you'.. and the biggesst mistake was to have led this friendship to a relationship and now i have lost my best friend... and that i dint wish him what he wished me...CLICK".. and that was it.. NOW.. can you guys please tell me what the hell is going on!!??? what is he thinking in ""guy terms"??? do you think he'll think about it and call me back in a couple of days??? i dunno what to do... for the past 15 months my life has been revolving around him...i lost all my friends and my whole life... he was everything.. and now i have nothing... i can't eat, sleep, study, NOTHING.. i need some advice.. pleas help!!! love, michelle/19/FL[/img] [/code][/u][/i][/b][/url]