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I got dumped about 6 weeks ago. Since then she has wanted to be my friend and has actually pursued it. Lately I have been very cold when talking with her. Yesterday she called me and asked if I was grumpy saying that I never call her and asking why I don't. The truth is I don't really see the point of being friends with her. It just reminds of the things I cannot do with her anymore. But also i would feel bad if I severed all ties with this women. What does she want from me? Her sister told me that she sleeps with some stuffed animals I bought for her and has a framed picture of me on her nightstand. She told that she just does not want a boyfriend right now. From all the stuff that she keeps around as reminders and the fact she calls me, does anyone think that when she is ready she wants me as a boyfriend again? Yesterday after asking why I have been so cold, I told her that is because I am tired of getting hurt. She did not understand that she hurt me. I told her i felt rejected. She came back saying I didn't reject you, I rejected that lifestyle I had with you. Isn't that ridiculous? I am over her. I have realized that I don't need her in my life although i would prefer her in it. Should I just make my old girlfriend history?

In addition her sister has told me that she has a framed picture of me on her nightstand. Even after she dumped me. To top that, she sleeps with a teddy bear that I gave her as a gift. I don't know about her but when we broke up I put all of that stuff into my closet. Do you think she is holding on to something?

I broke up with my girlfriend about 6 weeks ago. I have not seen her for about 25 days now. I general I have distanced myself from her. If she wants to communicate with me, she would have to be the one that initiates it. This seems only logical since she dumped me. Anyways, she started to text message me more frequently. Asking me what I was up to, who i went to the movies with, etc. My brother told me to answer to her questions but be brief and sort of cold. In general, she has not shown emotion either. But the fact that she has been wondering what I have been up to means she has been thinking about me. Yesterday she text me saying that she has been busy lately and has not seen me in a while and misses me. I quickly changed the subject. Was that right? Now that she has shown some emotion does that mean I should too? Because I do love her, and I have learned that although life will go on without her I would prefer life with her. Or am making something out of nothing, she has said that she thinks of me as a friend. She also wants to hear this cd that I had compiled but I am reluctant to give it to her because it kind of has some lyrics that too revealing as to how I feel. I hope for some advice, take it easy.

After being broken up with my ex-gf for about 4 weeks now. I have come to one conclusion. Your ex and others will be more attracted to you if: 1. You are happy with who you are 2. You are happy with what you are doing with your life THAT'S IT... ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE AND ONE DAY YOUR EX OR ANOTHER WILL APPRECIATE THAT. ANY COMMENTS??

Hey man I am going through the same stuff. My ex is always the one that calls me. I told her I could not be friends with her because my feelings lie else where (I want her back). Well anyways, your best bet is to just let her go. It seems your girlfriend wants everthing, like mine, she wants you to be around her but yet she does not want you as a boyfriend. My girlfriend went so far as to say if we were friends we could cuddle in bed and hug, but not have sex. That seems like a tease to me. Anyways, our girls want their cake and eat it too. The fact is they cannot have us as friends. I have started to ignore her calls and text messages. Hope things work out.

I don't know why we can't express our feelings. I have tried and she has gotten uncomfortable about it. Like she is lying to herself about how she feels towards me. She says she loves me and misses me not being around, and when I do bring up my feelings she shuts down and starts to cry.

I have been broken up with my girlfriend for about 3 weeks now. We have made the mistake of talking and seeing each other since then. All we do is frustrate and confuse each other more. Because there are still feelings that we have, that we can't act upon. Anyways, I have always been close to her little sister Amanda. I was around for a lot of things, she is sort of my baby sister. My ex and I have been sort of communicating with each other through her. Is this bad. We ask Amanda how the other is doing, and what they are up to. Is this bad??

Hi, my girlfiriend dumped me about 2 weeks after 1.5 yrs of dating. A few days before she met her NEW best friend. She told me how she wanted to move to california with her and leave everyone behind. Her best friend is also on a break with her boyfriend. (how coincidental). I had many questions but she said she was too tired to answer them. I was a wreck. I went over to pick up some stuff from her house when I thought I was rational enough to keep my emotions inline. Well the whole time I was taking stuff out she was crying under her blanket. I asked her if she loved me and missed me, she said yes. I told her I could not be friends until I was over her. She called me about 2 days later and asked if we could go to the movies as friends. Boy was that dumb. It was uncomfortable. The next day, i told her that I could not see her for a while. That is when she started crying again. She again told me she loved me. I did not see her for a few days after that. I was drinking at my friends house who lived close to her. I walked to her house drunk and she welcomed me into her bed. We did not have sex but she cuddled into my chest and fell asleep. Telling me she loved me and stroking my hair. In the morning she told me we were only friends. I told her I hated this situation and could not take it anymore. Tomorrow I will probably run into her at this concert we have tickets to, she is going with her new friend. the thing is she has not acted the same since her new friend came around. She had always been a little impressionable. I had never been an overly-clingy boyfriend. I would ask how her day was, and if she went out without me I would ask if she had fun and what she did. Tonight she sent me a message saying that she did not miss me wanting to know where she was every second or having me as a parent. WHAT SHOULD I DO???