sadeversince

My ex-girlfriend is leaving town in 3 weeks. We have been broken up for almost 6 months now. I know she loves me, and still has feelings, but doesn't want to get back together. She means the world to me. I am feeling like I am going to loose a big part of my life when she leaves. I have only got a 3 weeks. What do I do to let her know I want to spend the rest of my life with her, even though it is a little much right now. I can't just let her slip away. Please help me, i am feeling sick about it. Thanks

SwingFox Do you think that telling her good things will make her feel like there is no challenge. I have come to learn that you have to make the other person think that they want you more than you want them. I hate games, but I feel as they are about to start. I don't want to play games at all. Any advice. When should I call her? When is she going to call me. This all happened yesterday. Please help

I met this girl about a week ago, and we have spent a lot of time together, but last night she told me she wanted to take things slower. I am graduating in 2 months and she still has a year left. She doesn't want to just watch me leave, and break her heart. I really really like this girl and think there is something special there. How do I get through to her. She says she is still attracted to me, and she has a great time with me. What should I do? PLEASE!!!

I am dealing with the same type of girl. Our situations are identical. I know how hard it is to not call or talk to her when she means so much. I don't think that anyone has the right answer. Every situation is different. All I can say is to try to keep yourself occupied when you start to think about her. I would just act cool around her. Like nothing is wrong, and try to act like you are over her. But don't over do it, and do something that makes your appearance and actions obvious. She may realize what she has lost. Good luck Please read my message "I need advice so so badly" Let me know if you can help my situation. I would appreciate it. sadeversince

OK. She came on to me the other night. Lets say everything was great. Then 2 nights later I ask her "what is going on between us?" She said. "NO! I don't want to talk about it. Lets just keep letting things happen." I felt like it was a bad move on my part. She hates talking about our relationship. Even though I deserve an answer. She told me she loves me, and she misses me. It just seems ever since that great night she has been really short with me. What should I do? It is driving me crazy. thanks

She told me that she would call me last night and she didn't. I don't know what to do. Please help

What if she calls one day out of the blue, and you hang out, and talk periodically. She does most of the calling. It is only about 2 times a week, but she asks to hang out. She knows that I just can't be friends with her. My feelings were (are) to strong. What am I to DO?

I really do thank you for your opinions. She told me the first night we hung out that she wasn't dating anyone. She asked me the same and I said kinda but not really. I had dated 2 girls in the past 3.5 months and am trying to end the second. She also asked me to stay like 3 times about 2-3 weeks ago b/c she was alone at her house (roomates out of town). She put her feet under my legs to warm them, then in the morning told me that other people have stayed with her or stayed at a friends durring this period of being alone BUT she also said that noone else has slept in her bed. Only on the couch. She says things like those. Those are the reasons why I still think I have a shot. We only talk periodically, and she does 75% of the contacting which is about twice a week. We are supposed to go out tomorrow night if she didn't have to work. I don't know how to approach her about getting back together. I am either (1) if things go as usual, talk to her about slowly getting back together and reminding her that I still love her and feel the hurt (b/c she wants me back) (2) Just hang out and try to play more mind games which I hate. But I know they work. Then, on one day or Val. Day go to her with flowers and some words from my heart. The only thing is that I might get a little tear or two. She is not your average romantic type though. She used to always claim to be really independent (I am usually but not when it comes to her) and never shows much emotion. She used to tell me that she loves how her parents are still so in love still, and thats what she wants. I feel as though I should try and break that wall to get to her. We are at the age where relationships are getting some what more serious (22). I feel as though everyone has to be loved. WHAT SHOULD I DO? (SHE DID COME AFTER ME FIRST when we started dating in our first and only relationship) So its not like I am an unattractive guy to her, I am getting a good degree (MAY), and I love her for her, and could do so for possibly as long as I have a chance to live. AGAIN WHAT SHOULD I DO? "Every man dies, but not every man truly lives." from Braveheart

I am 22, she is 22. We are both not relationship type of people. We dated for 6 months, but seems longer b/c we were together all of the time. We have been broken up for 3.5 months now. I have been in emotion hell ever since. She was the only girl to get to me. Usually I look for LOOKS but with her, it was HER. The worst part of my day used to be when we would go our own ways at the beginning of the day. But the best part was when we would finally see eachother again. She droped out of school, and works 6 out of 7 nights. I treated her like a true princess. She was (at the end of our relationship) pushing me away, but she didn't know why. Then the worst day of my life (up until this point) came and she told me that "I don't deserve her. I deserve better." She meant someone that would care as much as I did. She said she cared, but obviously not as much. She said she didn't stop loving me, and that I was the best guy she has met and will probably ever meet. She also said, that one day she knows for a fact that she will kick her self in the butt for breaking up with me. She sounded like she meant it. One day about 3 months after we broke-up and not speaking to her for about 2.5 of those months, I see her with a guy where we used to eat. He is supposedly just a friend. That night she calls me out of the blue just to see whats up (1 minute conversation). I call her back a week later, and we hang out, I spend the night with her, but nothing happened in a intimate way. There was a little flirting and touching, but nothing else. Now I wait for her to call (playing it like I don't care) and it is about 2 times a week, for the past 4 weeks now. I know she has to know that I still LOVE her and would want nothing more than to get back together. We are supposed to grab a drink sometime this week. What Should I do, say, act???? I am thinking about doing something really special for Valintines Day, but I am not sure of what to do. She probably has to work. My problem is that she is very unemotional, and I don't want to do anything cheezy. This one is a tough one. She used to say that she was miserable with her life, and that she needs to find happiness, before we finally broke up. I have found none of that since that one horrible day. I am not sure if the timing is right. I NEED HELP BAD. CANT MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE WITHOUT HER. She knows or knew how I feel. All I feel is pain. PLEASE PLEASE HELP Thanks Joe