About 3 years ago my GF of 10 years accused me of cheating after she developed a small bump on her tongue. This wasn't the first time she has made such accusations. In fact, she forced me once to get tested for stds before we had sex again. I've never given her a reason to assume I've ever cheated so I don't know where this even came from. (My opinon later...)
Most recent accusation stemmed from what I'll describe as a skin tab on her tongue. After several months of having the skin tab on her tongue she finally went to the Dr about it. During the months leading up to this she made my life hell.
The outcome was not std related but skin tab was believed to be caused by a dental tool which eventually fell off on its own. However she still believes it was caused by giving me oral sex.
To this day she refuses to perform oral on me and even took it a step further and won't allow me to perform oral on her too. While we do have unprotected sex I'm at a loss of words trying to understand her justification in all this.
As a result are sex life has taken a major toll because of this and sex has become a chore and very vanilla. I've brought it up several times and I either get a defensive answer or silence with no explanation and zero effort in trying to improve our sex life.
This makes me feel like she cheated on me in the past but I have no other reason to believe such a thing.
I believe her Insecurities stem from the big age gap in our relationship as she is 14 years older than me.
Thoughts on this and possibly how to fix it?
