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you probably give in at night beacuse you aren't moving and there isnt much to do and you just think about him. i used to do that at night but then i thought that you know what he isn't thinking of me so why should i think about him?

Oh my gosh! you girls are great! well today was a very good day. i realize that if i don't have any contact with him, HE doesn't contact me. which goes to show that he can either have me or not doesn't matter to him. take it or leave it type of deal. he is not sitting at home thinking about me. i'm done crying, girls. i really am. i could have cried a freakin' river by now. i'm ready! to move on!!!maybe there is some light within the darkness. I want to heal. i don't want to be the one doing all the work anymore, so i'm not going to try to make this work, when he doesn't put forth the effort. i also thought... that i could NEVER be over him. it's funny how when you stop trying you realize how little they did for the realtionship. thanks a bunch for advice! i really appreciate it!

Whoa, that's serious. ANYONE who treatens your life is SERIOUS. Sex, is important in a relationship it really is, but Sex that hurts ... just isn't enjoyable! This is terrible. You need to tell your family, and DO NOT CALL HIM!!! anything. because you need to get away fast!!!! That is emotional abuse! Love isn't like that babe. Love is someting great, feeling on top of the world. Talk to Someone. Tell the Police. He is risking your life! Get HELP! fast!

My boyfriend was an emotional abuser. Although I am only 16 I feel that I am very mature for my age. I have been through years of consuling for various problems and I feel that I have my head "above water." My EX said things lilke you are a witch with a B, you are worthless, you will never be anything in life, "i knew you were always stupid," you are too sensitive, you are too confusing... He left 2 really bad emails on my phone one time and they said "I hope you die, I don't ever want to talk to you ever again, You are a waste, Hearing your voice makes me sick" He said all that was out of anger, and that he didn't mean any of it. BUT, the truth is out of anger, or not. I don't deserve to be treated, talked to in that way, and I will get better I will recover for this kind of behavior. I need to get my confidence back... I need to feel good again, I need to be me, the same girl I used to be before I met this guy.

everything i ever heard about being "friends" with your EX is just not possible. i just broke up with mine, and it is too hard to become friends. i just think it's an excuse to talk to them. becoming friends, accepts the fact that she could be dating somenone else. and for me NOT contacting him is better than knowing. i don't want to know if he's going to date someone or what not. you don't sound like you are healed. i think you need time alone, to think about things. i think she sent a clear message that she didn't want to talk by NOT calling you back. maybe she wants to be "friends" so, you don't have to get hurt MORe. BUT looks like she isn't looking for the friends thing.

I wish I had her strength too, i've tried so many things like... he is blocked, my therapist said to make a new email and stuff but IT's a pain to transfer buddies and i feel like i shoudn't change everything for him...and i've tried that but then i wonder where he is at, and stuff and then i un-block him and then... we end up talking again, but i IM HIM, he doesnt CONTACT ME! and then...she even told me to change my phone # so he can't call me and stuff but i am always the one calling him! it sucks real bad. plus, i don't have a job right now, i wrecked my car. so i am stuck in my house 24/7. so i was thinking if i had a car i could get out and meet people! ya know what i mean jelly bean?

hey, well... me and my ex boyfriend broke up... I broke up with him. I also see a therpist (i used to be really depressed) but, it's like this... He lives like 45 mins away and I would always be the one to go and see him, and he would never come and see me, and he promised when he got off of school we would see each other, and when school let out he never came much. we would always argue about that. All my closet friends and family don't like him and say that if he truly Loved you he would be here. I believe it for the moment...and then i always call him and get really depressed when i call him because i know that i "shouldn't" reason i broke up with him... well my therapist said he was an emotional abuser and he has a anger problem once he said something like " i wish you would die" and left me nasty nasty voicemails on my cell phone. that really hurt me. but he denounes them w/ i was angry and i didn't mean it..it's like he has done sooo much stuff to hurt me, for example: once i went to his house and found and email to another girl saying i love you, a girl called and he said it was a guy AND I HEARD HER VOICE!!! lol... went to prom with another girl (i was really depressed at the time, took pills ) but i got over that deal. when i am with him i am happy, but then afterwards i know that i shouldn't have hung out w. him because of all the crap that has happened. he still says that he loves me so much, but yet ... when i call him he is out with his friends and stuff. i KNOW that he is not at home thinking about me. i am really not happy anymore. i know that once i meet someone new it would be easy to forget about him. but it's REALLY REALLY really hard for me to "accept" that it is over. the longest i have went w/ out calling him was 5 days... and the i gave in. i wish i could stay strong. but it feels like he has this control over me, and that i can't be strong. if you listen to my story...it doesn't really sound like i am in love right, so why do i continue to hurt myself like this? I think about this guy EVERY SINGLE WAKING DAY OF LIFE! everysingle moment...my therpist says that i am addicted to him and the best way to get away from him is to HAVE THE NO CONTACT. but i always give in and call him and then i wish that i wouldn't have... what do i do? i am an emotional wreck... i am always crying, although tonight i am getting out and going w/ friends it's like i always do this: Well it might work out, maybe i should forgive him, f**k what my family thinks, but then i just become miserable again... i just can't imagine him being with another girl... and he still says that he Loves me soooooo much, but during those 5 days he called once and wrote me an email that said "where are you?" and he didn't even COME TO MY HOUSE! what should i do?????? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me. ummmmmmmmm... It's like sometimes when i am away from him i get really confident...i used to be so confident so happy, i had a great body and now, when i'm with him i search for confidence through him, and it's bringing me down.. he gets really mad when i talk to him because like i said i will hang out with him, call him and then i get depressed and say "we shouldn't talk anymore" and he says that i'm playing w/ his emotions and leading him on ... and stuff. and i realize that but how come i can't stop calling him? i wish i could just BREAK up ... but like i said i only lasted 5 days... and yesterday was 2 but then i texted him and called him and he said "I thought you didn't want to talk anymore" i love his family, and everything. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE give advice! he is my first love, and i lost my virginity to him...