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  1. I’m very sorry to hear about your loss. Exactly, I would never truly want that - but can’t understand why I think about it so often.
  2. Lately I have been constantly daydreaming about situations where I would struggle and have to be strong. Things like my parents dying and me having to deal with the grief, or being hit by a car and recovering. In these daydreams I’m not afraid. Instead I feel almost like I desire the suffering. And it’s not that I desire pain itself - I don’t want to be hurt - but I want to be in a situation where I can be brave and strong and be a fighter. Generally I struggle with depression which usually causes apathy and lack of interest in life, so I thought maybe this was me imagining dramatic and li
  3. Oh wow, this made me so happy! Congratulations for you guys. We were worried about the love fading if we stayed together, so its interesting to see that the separation worked out for you. I'd be very happy marrying him in the future for sure - but I'll definitely not focus on it, but on myself for now :) Thank you so much for sharing your story!
  4. I guess it was avoiding one type of struggling over another. If we did long distance we would struggle to have time for the people who are present in our lives where we are at. We would struggle to focus on work and self-development - after all, we aren't in the same place to be able to enjoy the real benefits of a relationship - it seems like we would just be hanging on to each other because we are too scared to be apart. I struggle alone now, that's for sure, but I don't struggle because he is a bad person or someone who hurts me. For me, that is a better type of struggling than feelings
  5. I suggested it originally - having seen many friends struggle to the point of their relationship being irreconcilable. He was upset at first but very quickly came to be in full agreement. It was very strange - our relationship continued to be as perfect and lovely as usual right up until the day he left when we had to call it off!
  6. My boyfriend and I were together for a year. It was my third relationship and the most healthy experience I have had with a boy. We were loving and kind, we respected each other fully, we were madly in love, travelled the world. It really couldn't be much better. Unfortunately, at the start of this year we decided to end things as he is studying abroad for a year and I am back home, in my final year of university. It was the hardest decision we had to make - but both of us agree it was for the best. We didn't fall out of love or even love each other any less than before, we just realised t
  7. Thank you for your response! We aren't actually in the long distance relationship at the moment, and still are in love as we can't seem to get rid of each other without running back!
  8. I'm writing this to have a little bit more perspective and try and understand better my ex boyfriend and our relationship. I started dating my boyfriend almost two years ago and this summer, whilst in the peak of our love, we both decided mutually to go on a break as I would be going to University whilst he was in his last year of school. We didn't do it because of university, but rather because we both wanted him to have the best chance of doing well in his last year without having to constantly message and maintain our relationship with work. We also wanted to have a friendship so that our c
  9. Thank you all so much for your replies - it's always nice have new views to freshen my head. The thing is, I still don't know how attached we should be at this age. He's 18 and at boarding school, but tells me he doesn't want any more friends - just family and me. Because he's at boarding school, I tell him to spend the one weekend every 3 weeks he gets off with his family which he does. So I usually only get to see him once or twice over the month maximum. We text everyday but his parents don't know about that. I kind of think he's still a momma's boy because she is very touchy with him and
  10. Hi all, I'm 18 and currently in a year long relationship. My boyfriend is a real momma's boy and I've been as supportive as possible throughout our time together. At the start of the relationship, he said he couldn't hang out with me much because his family would think he was neglecting them. I was ok with it at first and slowly started to accept it. Over time we naturally became closer and didn't feel like it was a hurdle. A few months in I wanted to meet his family because I knew how much they mean to him. It was a hit! We got a long so perfectly well, and his mum encouraged us to spend eve
  11. Hi everyone, Recently I met a guy on a study programme and we became really close. We went out for lunch and hung out in the breaks. After the course ended we started texting and calling, and decided to meet up and hang out. On the first meet up we held hands, he paid for my food, held my bag and let me cuddle up to him. Although it seemed quite date like, he is a shy guy and finds it difficult to say how he feels. We didn't define it as a date and neither one of us said we were into the other because it never really came up in conversation. We kept talking and decided to meet up again o
  12. Thank you so much for your help!! As far as the "relationship" thing, I completely agree. You're right - it was a "fling", which I understood.. HE was the one who always defined it as a relationship, he always made it serious and due to my nature I've always just followed the flow - if he calls me his girlfriend when we've hardly gotten to know eachother, I just accepted that and went with it! And that was the wrong thing for me to do for sure~ I suppose the thing that annoys me the most is that throughout this whole "thing" he was more into it than I was (like he would always make it more s
  13. Hi and thank you for your response The only thing I don't get is the HUGE difference between skype and reality, I mean he liked me when we hung out in real person when we were working together, and surely skyping is face to face and so it's not like text where you don't see the persons mannerisms and they have to have the courage to talk on skype more than message. And what confuses me most is that he felt like he wasn't ready to date, or I wasn't the "one" in the last few minutes of a 4 hour date? How does that even happen? Any advice on how to get over him?
  14. Hi everyone, I'm super new to this so I apologise in advance if this doesn't really come out as coherently as expected. I met this guy around a month ago whilst doing a play/musical, I first spoke to him when my friend wanted me to ask his age and from that moment we hit it off. It sounds incredibly cocky but I completely new he was into me, because he continually followed me around for the week we were working together. On the final play night he asked for my number, and by the next day we were texting almost constantly. I think the longest we didn't text for was 7 hours whilst I was slee
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