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I wish I could agree with you but I just can't with this one.

I did leave her alone she's the one that called me after a week of NC she's the one making all the calls to me I haven't made one outgoing call to her since her telling me the break up part which I have a strong feeling it's going to morph into FWB.

But say she refers as she did to the younger siblings this is my friend.. why do I still have to hide myself? Sounds backwards.. I try to kind of call her out on it without saying anything like I don't have my earbuds in and I don't hide my phone around my friends.. I would hope she gets what I'm doing by that. As I said in the post below the guy the ex she dealt with before me that beat on her is older than her she feels to need to be attached because of his kid which I told her it's not hers so she doesn't need to be. I can almost assure you when she gets back shes going to want to meet up by talking or sex.

I didn't get into the ex part but the crazy thing is (the reason why she moved to the east coast) Is he beat her she told me about the fights they got in and I wondered why she waited so long to say anything (didn't tell her parents) btw the guy is in his 40's and shes 26 she was telling me she didn't know how to tell them.. I had to almost twist her arm to get her to tell the parents and they were pissed she waited so long to say anything.. my ex left so fast she left her car behind and this guy was going to drive from CA to NV to go get her car.. he trashed everything in her storage unit ripped up her passport.. I was with her when he kept spamming her phone with text messages and said to her she would be a horrible mother and hopes she never has any kids. (She wanted kids with him but he didn't want anymore) He has one son who my ex watched grow up and I told her you don't have to stay attached to him because of that.. you didn't birth him.. I was a little blunt but it was the truth.. One person told me it was trauma bonding my ex got slammed, punched..

She slowly let me see some of them but not the main members (mom/dad) I just saw the cousins.. one in which she didn't want me to meet yet but ended up letting me see anyways I think she blew it up to be a bigger deal than it needed to be. I still think she has me as baby Mikey on her phone she still hides when people are around that shes in a facetime call with me by moving her phone down.

We met online but what do you think about it?

This is long but I will try and make it short.. So I (37m) was dating my girlfriend (26f) for 3 1/2 months got along great and all that very supportive and all but a few things that stood out.. the first one was family not here (back in her home country) it was ok for me to be seen.. however her cousin in NJ she tried to hide me but she figured something was up when she was giving me a tour of the house.. when she didn't have her bluetooth headset on she wanted me to put myself on mute.. skip forward a month we planned a 5 day vacation to Miami beach.. it was amazing had a great time and all.. So the same cousin that she toured me around the home the one she didn't want me to see yet or whatever.. I ended up meeting her and she was nice (I don't get the big deal) ok fast forward a few months she had an ex that I kind of told her she needs to do something about (he was spam texting and calling) It took a hell of a lot of convincing to change her phone number (she has a lot of job contacts) She resisted but she finally did it and told me that it was not as bad as she thought. Anyways all was good.. then until one day she was like I kinda need my space (I just woke up) I was confused and she just said she wanted her space like she wanted to break up but even she said I don't know but I think you know what I mean. She told me to take my stuff out and just go back home... On the weekend she told me to come her to her place and I asked her what's up and she's like I just wanted to spend time with you before you go back to work. mind you she used to send me a lot of emoji's and I love you's to me and I noticed it slowly stopping.. I told her I sensed that she didn't really speak on that. So A few times I tried to kiss her she tried to pull away and give me her cheek but she kissed on the lips anyways.. I got upset because I sent a text at 7:10 am and she didn't respond (sent 2 more texts) until 6:10 pm asking me what's up.. and that is when I noticed she liked a post on IG 2 min after it was posted but she was unable to say anything to me.. and her response was "I just didn't want to talk to you" I went off on her how it was rude.. she laughed and I hung up on her (All a facetime call) So for her she blocked my phone number and blocked me on IG and she did that for 1 Week and she sent me a text on this past Saturday saying "call me when you get the time" I called but I forgot she said she was going out to the west coast so the time difference. Anyways she wanted to talk about the break up (why a week?) And why we can't be together TBH it sounded like a bunch of nothing she was more so looking to see where I was at and telling me that the women in the family they have so much love to give that they don't have any extra for the person they are dating and she's like I don't want that to happen to you... (say what?) I let her speak since that was one of the things she hated was me not letting her say everything she had to say. after she said all that it was just like awkward pauses. She said she would contact me later which she did.. she started sending me photos of her and her younger siblings shes been facetiming a lot now the longest we had since the whole "breakup" was a 5 hour facetime call and it was her with her siblings she referred to me as "friend" to them which another thing is when her earbud died she wanted me to mute myself.. if I'm a friend why do I need to mute myself? She again toured me around the home and whatnot. She was going to lay down to take a nap and keep facetime on but that didn't happen. Now she's facetiming from the pool and before she hung up she stuck her tongue out at me.. she's sent me photos of her in her swimsuit she's changed into her swimsuit in the bathroom she called me last night a 25 second facetime call asking me what's up and just letting me know she was going back in the pool at night.. I was a little puzzled she seems to want to keep me involved. IMHO it seems like she's unsure about the break up or shes just trying to make me feel a certain way? I noticed a pattern if she texts me and I don't respond almost 90% of the time she will facetime me. I wont like I still love her we got along well but this is just confusing for me.

Oh yeah that’s always the case.

The fact that she beadcrumbs is bad enough

The more I think about this the more I dodged a a huge headache.. so word has it that she’s into a guy who is the complete opposite of me.. smokes, rough type and all that and she’s all into healthy stuff doesn’t smoke, drink and all that.. He told me he just wants to check being with an Asian girl off his list.. the crappy part is this girl has a 10 year old son so it’s not like it’s just her.. I think we all know what’s going to happen.. once he's done with her she’s going to come crawling back.. then I can tell her to kick rocks for good.

Yeah when I was talking to her even a few times she wants to move out of state but not sure what state.. then shes not sure if she wants to go the air force.. she always asks me what do I think or what should she do. I wont text her as much

I'm not sure if the mix up here is just for the fact that we text back and forth.. I don't bring up anything sexual she lets me know how shes feeling.. I do remember at one point she was asking how did I feel about wanting to move to Florida.. I don't know where that was going but I told her it would of been nice but I can't.. As for the cake and eat it what I meant by that is not into the guy but wants something else out of it. Yeah she's polite I will give her that shes a health nut so shes ends up wondering what stuff I'm having or if I have enough water.. will it change I don't know I just play it by ear like I said in the post above we text each other sometimes she will text me at 2:56 AM during her workout it's cool. She texts me outside of work it's not like we don't interact.. even if I don't say anything all day as what happened on Friday. Excuses?

I feel bad my ex-wife is like this but the sad thing is I have two kids with her.. I won't get into total details but yeah I saw she sent my friend a text telling me I'm lazy (I did a 50 hour work week) and she was sitting home on social media.. only working 2 days out of a week only bringing in $120 after taxes while I brought in over $1500 after taxes. It drove me insane... we too dated for 6 months before getting married..

Well how the second date ended abrupt two days before its kinda sounded like someone told something to her because it still does not add up and I feel like she is saying that to justify.. I could be wrong but to me if you did tell me that you were ok with Italian I would be like ok the 2nd date is a go But who knows... Most women now want their cake and eat it too.

If that's the case she would have not said "I don't think I'm going to let him go" right now I'm hanging back a bit people even came up to me asking how come your not with so and so as much.. I'm just kinda seeing her actions and I'm kind of seeing if shes keeping me around for my income but that's a whole other thing to get into.