I have been involved with my now ex for four and a half years, and we have been dating for three. We broke up two weeks ago, on New Year's eve because we are going to different colleges and rarely got to see each other during the semester, a problem which has taken a toll on the relationship. There are other problems, of course, but that was the big one. Now, we have both acknowledged to each other that we still love each other immensely and don't want this to be completely over with, but that we can't share a relationship until the distance is no longer an issue (ie, when we both graduate, and I'm a freshman and he's a sophomore). So, last night as we were talking online, as we usually do as if nothing had changed between us, we made a decision to continue with each of us knowing that the other still cares. We flirt a lot and our conversations have almost improved now that we're no longer together. He wants me to come visit him (he's living on campus right now) before winter break ends, and I'm sure it will probably end in some kind of intimacy, most likely sex. It's as if we're together but we're not. We're allowed to see other people but also see each other as well. We seem to have an open relationship, although we've never actually officially said that we're back in a relationship, but we certainly seem to have one. I have believed ever since I met him that we're meant to be together (he was 15 and I was 14 when we first got involved, so this is part of the reason why this is so difficult). I miss him immensely and I want to see him and never lose what we had, but I'm afraid that it will just end in more pain. I probably need to get out and date around, but my heart is still fixiated on him, as it feels like it always will be. What should I do? Should I visit him? Should I just end all contact with him and try to move on or should I hold on to what we have and see if it lasts? Either way seems extremely painful, and this is all so overwhelming...