TheGreatPotato

You know, I'm bit actually sure how long I've been doing it now. Certainly more than 30 days, in fact probably close to 60. I might figure out how long it's been later, but I don't think it's that important. The question is, do I feel any different since I started? Overall, yes I do. I'd definitely recommend NC to anyone in a rough patch post breakup. That being said, it's not instant gratification. It's still hard from time to time, and I still miss her a lot. I think that a lot of us start to think that once you hit that magic 30 days you'll feel instantly better, but sadly it doesn't work that way. Day 30 is just like day 29 and day 31. There is no instant cure, but a slow healing process. Good luck to all trying to heal. It's not easy, and it's not quick, but it will happen. /ramble

Day 16: Slowly getting better, day by day. My birthday is coming up, is it wrong that I hope she contacts me on it?

Day 7: Emotions are still fluctuating, but overall I'm feeling quite confident that I can keep this up. I definitely miss her, but I don't miss the way she's treated me, and see no need to reach out to her when she won't reciprocate.

You know, I really don't think that this thread creates false hope, as some people have said. Firstly because I don't think false hope actually exists. The very idea of hope does not indicate any form of certainty, so I don't understand how it could ever be false. More importantly however, reading these stories has, at least for me (although I'm sure many others would say the same), helped me to get through the harder moments. Whenever I feel down about everything, I find myself coming to this thread and reading a few of the stories. It helps me get back on track with my life, cheers me up, and stops me from doing anything stupid (like calling my ex).

Day 2: feeling pretty damn great. It definitely helps to get out of the house with friends.

Firstly, I'm new here, so hi! I've been lurking for a while, and I guess it finally felt like it was time to start posting myself. This NC challenge seems like a great place to start, too. So, Day 1: This isn't the first time I've attempted NC, so I guess I'm getting used to the variety of emotions that accompany the first few days. I've been having some pretty strong mood swings throughout the day, from anger at her selfishness, to sadness for what I've lost, to yadayadayada, whine whine whine, but I'm happy to say that for the most part, I've been feeling quite good. There is definitely a certain level of relief that accompanies the knowledge that you don't need to contact them. If they want to talk to you, they will, and your time is better spent becoming the best version of yourself as possible. Whenever I've felt down about anything, I just remind myself that at the moment, nothing can be done. She's not interested in me, and why should she be? I've become horribly co-dependent, and far too reliant on her as a source of happiness, when really, my happiness should be internal. Maybe one day we will get back together, but right now I need to focus on becoming the sort of person that would be worth knowing; i.e, a happy person. It's also a slight relief to know that the last time I spoke to her I think I made a pretty damn great impression. This of course is not a guarantee that we will get back together, but surely it can't hurt to leave it on a good note before going NC indefinitely? /rant.