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  1. Maybe. I didn’t ask to be friends. As a matter of fact I pointed out that we can’t be friends without sex. I think her and I both know that if we stay friends, there will still be that physical chemistry and we would act on it. Maybe she was feeding her ego to see how I’d react to her “attention.” If I delete or block her it would seem like I’m hurt and I truly believe she didn’t want to hurt me. I am hurt but not by her. My biggest upset here is that I’m dwelling on this way too much which tells me I have some work to do on my self confidence. I think her and I both do. She would get red w
  2. I wish I’d read this a few months back. Not to say I wish this happened to anyone. Obviously when you match (not tinder for me but same idea) you check out their profiles etc. I looked and there were a lot of pictures with a guy. Naturally on our first date I asked what she was looking for and she was straight forward with me. She said it ended a month or so ago. I figured screw it, let’s see where it goes. It went with amazing sexual chemistry, and we never had a dull moment, but eventually she decided she wanted to keep dating. We kept it up physically, until she told me she had a date
  3. She’s got plenty of ego boosts. I’m not disagreeing with you it’s just what I’m thinking. You’re right she did make her choice. We haven’t talked for almost 5 days. I’m not super distraught about it just curious. I don’t have any animosity toward her or how it ended.
  4. After saying good bye she comments on a post of mine. I don’t understand.
  5. It sounds like the “connection” factor she said she was missing was me not being able to get rid of her pain. That’s why she’s back out looking and dating again. I almost feel like I’ll hear from her again. It’s a toss up whether I want to or not. I can’t lie the sexual chemistry was so good. I would do it again but it would only be if we are both on the same page. I feel like we were on the same page but not in the same mind state.
  6. Unfortunately I agree. I told her that too during the whole thing. We had all of these discussions. I left it in the best place I could. I left the door open but I can’t be around waiting for her.
  7. We met about a month after her relationship ended with him being the one to call it off. We dated for a month and did the other dance for about a month and a half. She told me that the last year of their relationship was full of fights so she was relieved it was over. It was a 4 year relationship. I went along with the benefits thing and promised her a clean break so I don’t plan on breaking that promise but I miss her. I don’t really know what I could’ve done differently. I know I would’ve liked to do more for her and with her. I’m also not convinced she’s totally happy breaking it off wi
  8. The more I think about it, the more I know I shouldn’t. Honestly it almost boils down to this- I think it was a case of fear. I did everything that made her smile and it seems like, at least from how she acted around me, that I was someone that she just wasn’t quite ready to let in. After her break up and her ex keeping something they shared mutually, I feel like I was just too much too soon. From things she said to how she acted I could tell she didn’t see herself the way I saw her. I didn’t know that so I did what felt right but like I said, it probably felt like it was too much to her. I
  9. All About Love- bell hooks Honestly the only book I’ve read 3 times. I’ve bought it for 6 people and two of them as a wedding present (for him and her). It’s a great read for anyone going through a tough time or for someone who wants to be more mindful when it comes to relationships. Romantic or platonic. Also, did you know that the reason she doesn’t capitalize her name is because she doesn’t want to be seen as “better” than anyone else?
  10. Why say that it is when I say it’s not? Thank you either way. I don’t need an answer I just sometimes feel bad that I’m here only when I have an issue and it makes me feel very selfish. I like to learn and be better. Thank you for the time you guys take to talk! I wish I can be there for someone like this as well.
  11. I want to ask a question to everyone responding to this. What makes you look on your phone or computer or whatever and to read, analyze, and respond? I just feel like everyone is so stuck in their own lives and desires that they rarely come to places to share their feelings. I work, I volunteer, and I try to date, but I don’t seem to find my way back here unless it’s an unwanted dating situation. I wish I came here for a different reason. It’s not a passive aggressive question. I volunteer to help people but it’s an organization. You guys take on a one on one level. What makes you do it?
  12. I’ve been posting on here for years for better or worse. It feels like in every relationship I’ve been in I’ve always tried to find a reason to hold out, be it the woman’s habits, the way she approaches things, down to a physical quality that I may find unattractive. Just one small thing that doesn’t mean much in the big picture, but would make it easier to dwell on when it would “inevitably end.” Maybe it would give me something to fall back on because I didn’t have enough confidence in myself to make it last. That clearly never worked since I’m still here posting about break ups years later.
  13. Disappointed- maybe Angry- no It’s not ego that makes me omit the details. I know it’s bs and won’t happen but if she happens to stumble on this and realize it’s about her, she’ll feel bad. I don’t want that and frankly I don’t think the details matter. The end result is that we’re not doing whatever we were anymore. Could be the out of this world sex I miss or it could be the good kind funny person it was with but the point is it was gonna be over and i knew it and now I’m sad it ended. She knows it too I told her but I never made it awkward. She had a break up about a month before we m
  14. None taken! I was just always raised to do good for others without expecting anything in return. Something my dad taught me. I agree though some people do expect and react when it’s not reciprocated. It makes it hard to trust people’s intentions sometimes.
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