Blue Lady

Hi, this morning we had a chance to meet & talk... but ONLY on professional basis because my boss asked me to speak with him regarding some things. Well, I was trying to be nice like nothing happens between us, however, I can't deny myself that we still have 'unsolved business'... After I spoke to him it crossed my mind that I need to raise that topic to him but then I think again I'm afraid that it will not fix our relationship (even make it worst I guess...). But the hardest part is I will always feel uncomfortable & remember that we are having problem everytime I have to deal with him about work (I wonder whether he feels the same... or even forgot it already???...) & this bothers me a lot! Do you think by pretending like this then the problem will solve itself?...

Your advices & tips are helpful indeed to encourage me to take the decision. He came to my office (room) several times today to talk to my colleagues in my unit but I'm trying to ignore him as much as I can (we are completely strangers now). We have not talked to each other until now & I decide to keep it this way (I was just wondering whether he feels guilty at the moment...). I just heard from his buddy that he went home early from the office today because finally he is really wiped out (exhausted... working too much...). I am afraid he does not have enough energy & effort to maintain our relationship at the moment & it's painful to me so I think I have to leave him alone now! I guess I just move on & I don't need to say anything to him about my decision, don't I?...

Thanks for all the advices!!! It is very helpful... FYI - The guy I'm dating with is a workaholic & we have been into that situation (he cancelled the date) twice within 2 months & both occasions looked like I was the one who is clingy/needy but the fact is he was the one who setup date but then when I asked whether the date is still on then he would suddenly cancel it! Strange, isn't it???...

Hi, am afraid I need your advice here... I am dating a guy recently. On the first month he was so warm & caring. He always checked in (through either phone or text) everyday & anywhere he was. He spent his weekends with me & he asked me to go to several events/parties & met his friends & colleagues. It was great & I did enjoy our dates... The second month, it was totally different... He almost never called or text me but he often apologized to me with the reason that he is fully occupied with his works (we are working in the same office & I know that his nature of work is so hectic so I understand). thereforeeee we never spent times together again over the weekend for a few weeks now. Last week, he emailed me to ask whether I want to meet for coffee & do some shopping together over the weekend & I said am ok with that. On Saturday he said he is working so he saved our date for Sunday. Then on Sunday I haven't heard anything from him until afternoon so I text him to ask whether the date is still on. He replied me that he is hung over & needs to get back to work again so he cancelled it (& changed it for lunch next week). On Monday at the office I accidentally heard from some colleagues that they met my date at the swimming pool whole day with his friends/colleagues on Sunday (he was at the pool when he replied my text!). After working hour I told him what I heard & asked him why he didn't tell me the truth (that he cancelled our date just because he wanted to spend his day with his friends at the pool instead of hung over & busy). I was disappointed with his reaction... He kept insisting that in fact he was hung over & working for part of the day. The most annoying answer is... he actually didn't want to meet for coffee in town! I am confused... in fact, he was the one who asked me for coffee over the weekend but then he said that he didn't want to meet for coffee on Sunday???????........... This sounded I was the one who is clingy & asking him to meet for coffee! Can anyone tell me what kind of person he is???... I haven't reacted anything to his 'rude' answer because am still very upset & disappointed at him so I don't want to take wrong decision! & I plan to keep silence until he calls/text me first. Can anybody advice me what should I do to react if he calls again?... If he asks me out again, should I refuse or accept?... Should I give him a chance or just leave him alone?... Thanks!

A friend of mine asked me a very difficult question... "IS IT WRONG TO HAVE A FLING WITH A MARRIED MAN?" Well, it happens to her at the moment, the man whom she has crushed with is a married man! The man likes her too but he's afraid to move because he just wants a short relationship. His wife lives in different country & I guess he's lonely now... My friend said that she doesn't mind to have a short relationship with him because basically she's afraid to have any commitment relatonship as well. But the problem now is... Is it wrong to have a fling with a married man even it's just for short term one?...

You know, I've ever told him that I don't mind if he becomes the first for me but he never believes me! Oh well, he has his own reason anyway to doubt my statement... He always thinks when I said like that I must be under pressure, I want to make him happy & it's not 'me' who said that Eventhough I often told him that it's my decision because I'm old enough to decide with whom I want to do it with so I won't regret it! Let me tell you that I'm kind of girl who doesn't think much about 'sex'. My boyfriend sometimes likes to talk dirty to me unfortunately I just didn't get it because I just didn't get use into it So that's why he never believes when suddenly I talk 'dirty' & something about 'sex' to him Well, I'm quite sure that he has a plan by taking me out of town & I want him to know that I'm ready for that if he wants to, I won't look silly in front of him later Do you think he wants to give me a chance to prove everything that I said to him (that I want him to be my first...)???.... Do you guys really ever consider about it when your girl said that she's ready to have sex with you?... Or just ignore it instead because you might think that she's just kidding or too emotional?... Please share to me, I'm dying to know!!!

Hey-Thanks a lot for all of you who have shared to me about how it feels to have sex for the first time... It's appreciated a lot!!! Now, I'm wondering if any of you can help me by giving me advices how to let my boyfriend know that I really don't mind if he's the one who's gonna be the first for me.... Well, let me tell you that he's kind of type who prefers doesn't wanna be the first but... I know that he's dying to have sex with me! When he knew that I'm a virgin, he was freaking out a bit & up to now he's still afraid to touch me again From his behaviour, I can see that he wants me to be the one who initiates him because I know he doesn't want me to regret it so he doesn't want to push me, it must be my decision... We decided to go out of town together in the near future (When he asked me to go out of town also he didn't ask me straight away, he just offered me & I had to 'pick it up' myself) & I want to give him 'signal' for this time but I want it looks natural because it seems 'natural' is his style... WHAT SHOULD I DO???....

Thanks for the advice!!! But.......... Is it always hurt down there for the first time???... Is that so much hurt????.... Well, you know at that time he just put 1 (one) finger inside me & it did hurt me a lot!!! Or maybe I was too nervous & tense?... (Yeah, actually I was ) Now, is there anyone wants to share her 'first time' experience here & what did she feel at that time?... Please.......

Well, I have ever done it with my Bf before but he was just going down & fingering me. When he did fingering me, it was soooo painful so I asked him to stop! O yeah, for your information... I'm still virgin.... & he's an 'experience' man! Now, I think we're going to do it again in the near future & this time, I won't let him down because at that time he seemed a bit disappointed we couldn't do sexual intercourse as we expected. Since I haven't been into sexual intercourse before, please tell me what should I do to make myself relax & enjoy so I won't feel pain when he is 'inside' me???.... I don't want to make him guilty as I did before when he was fingering me & once again, if it's possible I want to give him bj as well to pleasure him! I need many many advices especially from the experts!!!!