kitty1984

Both! (I thought) we enjoyed each others company immensely. Never an issue with us doing things separately or together. He has some quite time consuming hobbies which I have never moaned about, but in his head I was unhappy about the time it took away from us. I have shut down and alternate between crying and just a horrible nothing. I wish I could have faith.

Married 3 years, together 8. This hasn't been our finest year, work / stress / health wise. He told me tonight that he hasn't been happy for 18 months, which I've managed to pin on several big / sad / stressful work events in his life. But I don't want to clutch at straws equally. I thought we had such a lovely life and I'm devastated.

2 weeks ago my husband told me he was generally sad and flat about absolutely everything, including me, and didn't know if it was because of our relationship he felt like this. I have experienced depression in the past and know that it's hard to find joy in anything, but he's slung a bit of mud my way since that I am struggling to shake off and carry on with, as well as support him. We have couples therapy booked to start ina few weeks and he's requested personal counselling though work but this hasn't happened yet. We had planned to spend Christmas just the 2 of us. All the food is arriving tomorrow and I wish I had cancelled it. I just want to run away and hide and cry. It is all so very sad. He is not a bad man in the slightest and is the absolute love of my life. I thought he would be the man I would grow old with. Does he just want to leave me and he's struggling with the guilt? I have asked twice if there is someone else and he says no. Sorry for the ramble. I wonder if anyone else is here or has been here.