shortstop543

omg! ok....i just got out of a one year relationship...so im kinda vaulnable right now... ok...i go to a church, there is this really hott guy that goes there...his name is trent.....we never use to talk until my friend hannah started likeing him [[ thats when i had a boyfriend ]], so i tried to hook them up and it really didn't work out between them, so this morning i went to church and right before chuch started me and trent were talking about his g/f that lives in ohio and how there long distance raltionship isn't working and how hard it is to keep a minogmous raltionship[[ they were on a break when i tried to hook him and hannah up]]...but we ended up missing the whoel church sermon b/c we lost track of time just by talking in the aprkign lot for an hour and a half and he told me that he liked me and was surprised to hear that i like him too, so now we sat together at church that night and it felt so perfect adn we just finnished talking on the phone and he is so sweet and nice....but here's the catch...1)he's got a girlfriend 2)my friend liked him and 3) he has a bad rep and all my friends that know him better say i shouldne't date him b/c he's a man * * * * *....but it feels so perfect when its just me and him like sitting there just tlaking to him and i dont know what to do like at all...i mean do you thinkt that i am just vaoulanable or what?? i really like him but thing is my friends and adults at the church will prolly look down on me even if they heard that we hung out together alone as friends, should i do it and just keep it on the DL for a while??...idk.......need some insight.......

wow...this is a story i know all too well my ex bf broke up with me about a month ago and we were dating for about a year and a month....and when we first broke up i oculden't stop thinking about him...every where i went it was influneced on him, i even changed the route to my classes so i could see him more...and then he started seeing this girl and i felt totally miserable....and i know where you are coming from, i know how you are feeling about this girl i was and still am madly in love with my ex...but i am taking that advice of my friends and teachers, they said just to not talk to him...and i htought...how can i NOT talk to him, thats how to get him back is to talk to him and i was constanting IMing him and calling and i relized he was just getting sick of me and wanted away, so i am finnaly taking the advice of many people and i stopped talking to him and stopped acting like i cared for him at all and now he is IMing me and tryin to talk to me at school...maybe if you do that she will relize how much she loves you and come back b/c right she knows that she has you in the palm of her hand and knows that she can go to this other guy and leave you but if things dont work out in the end with this guy that you will still be there to catch her and this will be a never ending cycle...if she thinks that your not going to be there to catch her when she falls then chances are she's not going to jump...do you see what i mean??? so stop contacting her and tlaking to her at all...and i know this is going to be hard....even when you see her in the hallway, dotn look, or wave at her or anything just walk right on by and it might just click to her how much she likes you....b/c you never know what you have until its gone...and right now your not gone.....

she might like you...its hard to say, but stay with her talk to her, get to know her for her not just for how well she kisses....maybe if you do that, it will change her mind....how much do you know about this girl? maybe she just got out of a bad realtionship and doens't wan't anything like that and she wants to take her time....there could be so many reasons why....

she's a typical girl....when she knows that your looking she'll look away and gaze at a guy to make you "jealous" to make you want her more...even tho she is doing this, she may be doing it subconsciously... i say go for it....go up and talk to her b/c that's what she really wants...

yeha i deff agree with that one b/c if you do them to much or too often the the girl would feel somewhat smuthered

1. DON'T FORCE HER TO DO ANYTHING. [she won't trust you if you do & it'll be awkward] 2. Grab her hand when you walk next to each other. [she always gets butterflies when you do it; it makes her feel like you want her] 3. When standing, wrap your arms around her. [it makes her feel like you really love her.] 4. Cuddle with her. [she'll feel like your there for her] 5. Hug her from behind [it makes her feel special] 6. Write little notes. [she smiles. They're cute; The end] 7. Compliment her Honestly. [No girl likes a liar and no girl likes a person who lies about it when you compliment her] 8. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible. [it makes her feel wanted] 9. Be super sweet to her. [All girls like a super sweet guy] 10. Call her at night to wish her sweet dreams. [she'll go to bed with a smile] 11. Comfort her when she cries. [she'll feel like you'll ALWAYS be there for her] 12.Wipe away her tears [it'll show you'll always be there] 13. Love her with all your heart. [Not with your brain... or your you know what] 14. Pick her up and flirt with her (she'll scream and say put me down but really she loves it). [it's true boys!] 15. Be a gentleman (hold the door for her). [Every girl loves a guy who is a gentleman] 16. DON'T let your friends talk trash about her, it'll get back 2 her [& it'll make her feel like you aren't really there for her] 17. Take her for a long walk at night! [she just wants to be alone. & that's not always bad. The world can be annoying sometimes & you just need to be alone.] 18. When it's cold outside hold her close [You want her to be happy & she's happy in your arms] 19. Draw on or rub her back as she is tryin to rest or sleep [This just feels good HAHA!] {not with a pen you idiot, with your finger}

" I was freaking out too, intent on finding someone to 'fill the void', well and also to show my ex I didn't need him. " there is another thing that i am tryin to work on but its not really working...i show my ex all the time that i need him and i dont know how to stop...i mean i try but everytime he's in the room i feel attracted to him and just want to get his attention and talk to him and everytime i try not to talk to him it doens't work and he knows it....i just dont know how to stop focusing on him all the time...

i am feeling exactly that...like how do i find another guy? and im going to have to get to know him and it will take forever....and im just franting b/c i dont want to do the "getting to know you" thing...its sucks...but i guess i have no choice....

well no i haven't been in a similar situation but have you talked to him about this and have you told him that this bothers you?? maybe if he knows that you dont like it he will stop but it sounds like he had good intentions...he dones't seem to me like hes doing this b/c he doens't want anyone to know that he has a g/f but i would just watch out...just keep your eyes open and dont be nieve...

i haven't had any luck with guys latly my b/f broke up with me about a month ago and we had been dating for a year...then i found this really cute guy and we hit it off but i found out that he has a g/f and didn't tell me about it...so what do i do...how do i get back in the game? i mean its been so long since i have to had to get a males attention?

well i really dont think that there is a "romanic" way to say good bye to some one on the internet...but other ways you can be romanic is send flowers to her house or work or whatever a girl loves flowers but just tell her how much you like her and no i dont think that a week would be to fast...but on the first date...no

no i really dont want to be his jessica b/c she was pittiful...and while watching her destress i kept thinking to my self jessica! your so stupid for dating him and liking him and she seemed so pathetic....i just hope that i dont get sucked into being with him again....

well my ex...rick broke up with me about 3 weeks ago and we had been together for a year....i was his first serious g/f and out of no where bam he break its off....very soon after he had split i see him holding hands with this girl lauren who was supposidly my friend....and then i hear shortly after that, that he is dating her and its had only been about 4 or 5 days after we broke up....then about 3 weeks pass....and he had been flirting wtih me alot latley...and his g/f didn't come to school today so when i was walking to my home room me nad him were kinda walking together and as i went to turn to my homeroom and said to come here and we walked to his homeroom...and walked down this little hall way that no one really goes through...and he stopped and we started talking and flirting...then he grabs my hands pulls me in and starts to make out with....see i am still in love with him so obviously i was into it...then the whole day when we say each other we were still flirting....and now i dont know where we stand...does he still want to pursue me? and date me? or was he just using me? or does he just miss me? or does he still like me, deos he want me more then his g/f? idk?!?! i have all these questions running through my head.... id like to hear what your advice is and what you think about the situation??? erin

well what i would do personally is take it up a notch...if you like this guy and you see another girl trying to take him you better believe that you have tog et his attention away from her and on you...if you know this guy as a friend then its easy...say this guy was talking to ur "competition" walk by them and bump into then when he turns around say sorry ....smile at him and look him in the eyes kinda flirting h=with him and try to talk to him when ever he's alone and talk about him b/c guys like talking about themselves...but if you dont know him them try not to be too much attached to him and try to be his friend first...

ok...i had been dating this guy rick for about a year since last february....he was the total package and everything...then that summer i cheated on him with my ex we broke up then he forgave me and told me that he loved me and gave me another chance everything had been good ever since...then 3 weeks ago he came up to me....and broke up with me....but the thing is we weren't fighting and the realationship was going great....and then all the sudden...BOOM...then the next school day he came up to me and said the he still liked me and that his parents made him break up with me so i believed him, then a few days went by and i saw and heard that he was with another girl and i saw them kissing in the hallway and he pretty much stopped tlaking to me...idk what happened...now today in class he just sudden'tly started talking to me and flirting with me like CRAZY and was like i bet you still want me...and he was like i bet it wont even take 2 days to get you to make out with me b/c you can't resist me, and like i know that you want me...and all this stuff and i was like what about lauren [[ his new gf ]]...and he was like well if you tell her she wont believe you and i know that im not gonna tell her...and it was just mind blowing how he was coming on to me....and i dont under stand at all.....if anyone has any suggestions...[[ maybe some guys ]] as too why my ex bf is acting this way please do tell... Erin

well yeah it is kinda dark but i write poetry to get all my fistrations and anger out....and the person i am writing about was my ex b/f and he hurt me real bad......and thats what this poem is about

Ill take this twisted dagger From the infected wound in my back Ill let all the pain bleed away All wounds heal and thats a fact The pain and blood will all come out Along with my feelings for you This wound will heal into a scar On my back, I have a few It took me a while to understand But I realized what your all about You gained pleasure from twisting the dagger When I trusted you to pull it out

ok i have been dating this guy, rick for about 4 months now and i like him alot. But Before i started dating rick i was dating a guy named donald, and i liked him alot but he broke up with me b/c he said that he wanted to "see other people", well now donald is telling me that he still likes me, and this is after he broke up with his g/f. and i have never fully gotten over donald. and donald is hanging out with me more and rick doesn't like him and donald doesn't like rick, and rick knows that donald still likes me...but no one knows that i still kinda of like donald, and i know that it would be wrong to dump rick and date donald when i already tried dating donald and it didn't work out. and rick and i fight alot with each other and donald thinks that he disrespects me adn so does the rest of my friends and every one is telling me to break up with rick b/c he doesn't give me respect witch to a certain extent he doesn't butr he does most of the time. and now donald chewed me out yesterday because "im not being senistive toward his feeling for me"...becuase i told him once that it hurts me to see him with other girls and last night he was like "i think girls are stupid, i mean they say it hurts to see me with girls when you are all over your b/f and that isn't supose to hurt me??" and i dont know what to do in this situation that im in right now...........got any advice??

yeah i geuss so

ok i met this guy named donald...and he is so cute...i met him at a party and we had an instint attraction and then we started talking thorught the week and since we go to diffenrent i was going crazy cuz i couldne't see him...then 2 saturdays ago i went to a chrimas party w/ him and was all over him and liked him so much and i had so many feelings for him then that night he asked me out and now we are dating...then after saturday like monday and tuesday i coulden't get my mind off of him like he was all that i could think about...and i didn't want to be with any other guy at all...then as the week went on my emotions kinda went downward like i dind't like him as much and now i don't even kno if i like him any more...but i dont get it....y would i be head over heels for this guy 2 weeks ago and now im like barely attracted to him??? and now i wish i was with these other guys and i think about cheating on him all the time... and i would never cheat on a guy i mean never... that word isn't even in my vocabulary and now im like well maybe.... and i kno i shouldn't and i prolly wont but i mean i never even thought about it with my ex b/f's when i was dating them... i just don't get it...and i cant break his heart i mean he has already told me that he loved me and i when he said that i didn't kno what to say and he was like..."you dont have anything to say?" and i felt bad cuz i can't lie to him i mean i still like him...not love him and i actually thought i loved him at one point in time or at least could fall in love with him....but now i dont kno what to do i mean i still kinda like him...and he "loves" me and he is all the time telling me "u mean the world to me" and "ur all that i can think about" and " i dont kno what i would have done if it wasn't for you" and stuff like that and i feel bad but what can i do...i just cant come out of no where and tell him i dont feel the way i use to any more...im just stuck between a rock and a hard place...please help me...signed~depressed and stressed~ or ~shortstop543~

Staring at this blank page.. I want to write these words down but I can't.. I just can't accept the fact that we have begun a new life with someone else... This feeling it follows me everywhere I go, its almost as if I'm the one following it. I know this was all my decision and it was for the best, but I just can't take this test that life has given me to try to be happy... Breaking apart from you I know wasn't exactly what you wanted right now. But later on you wont ever see the love on this paper, you'll have forgotten about me, which is what I wanted... For u you to be happy... I know there is something better out there for you, better than this old body... But for me to realize this, that I wasn't good enough, was more that I coul'd take I brake... So just tell me I'm right because I don't want to fight, you're a whole lot better without me there to bring you down .. But this internal conflict still goes on, this agonizing feeling that nothing is wrong.. I will always second guess myself, were you better off with someone else, other than me... You can TAKE MY LIFE --> And brake it , its already broken just no one really sees it. I guess I need to throw away my dreams of writing because it just takes me back to sadness.. All I really want is to shout all of these words so that everywhere in the world, my voice can be heard... I WILL TAKE MY LIFE --> and start over all over So if you could copy me onto a piece of notebook paper and cut it up into tiny pieces.. And rearrange the mess to find these same exact words written in between the creases.. I had to write this three times over again because the tears from my eyes washed away the ink from my pen.. Its hard to defend this thing called love because its something that I have no controll of... So we can... TAKE OUR LIVES... .. and start over .. -Kenny Thompson

well...i went to party this past saturday with a few friends...and i flirt which is one of my specialtys i mean i LUV to flirt with tha guys and i can't help my self...so anyways i was flirting w/ this guy named josh and he was flirting back w/ me then all tha sudden people are commin up to me and asking me "hey do u like josh" and i never gave them a REAL anwser i was just like"...uuuuhhh i dont kno"...and then josh left and this really hott guy shows up at tha party named donald and i was instantly attracted to him...and as tha night went on and we flirted...alot!!! then he took me home b/c i coulden't find another ride home and my parents were asleep...and i didn't want to get in trouble by being out so late so i let him take me home...so when he pulls up to my drive way and HE asked ME if it was ok if he walked my up to tha door and i thought i was harmless...and hes really hott to lol and by that time i had liked him alot well i still do but anyways he walked me up to my door gave me a hug...then one thing led to another and before i knew what happened i was making out w/ him...and after he left i was like OMG i was so so so excited!!! and i gave him my number and everyhing...and the next day i told my friend what happened and didn't think about telling her not to tell anyone b/c she was in a different state...but she has a friends down here that went to that party and she told pava what happened( gurl who went to party) and now every one that was at that party knows that i made out w/ donald "the really hott guy" and camillia and pava( 2 of my best friends that were at the party) came up to me today and kinda brushed me off and i was like r yall mad at me and they were like no we just have to get to class and i asked another gurl brittany that was at the party what was going on between them and she told me that EVERYBODY knows about what happened!!! and so i went to camilla and asked her again why she was mad at me and she was like "im not mad at you im just mad at the situation and just dont get it...like i mean u like josh one minuate then your all over donald tha next and i really like donald and he told me that he thought i was cute and that it was unforunate that i had a b/f"(camillia talking)...and i was like ok??? and now it just all up in tha air and i dont kno what to do??? i mean i like donald so so so so so much!!! and i kno he likes me and he told me that he thinks cheating is so totally wrong and it goes against his moral values and stuff but he supposeldy said all that stuff to camillia before he knew that i liked him but again i dont kno...and this is where you come in...what do you think about this situation??? thanks in advance ~shortstop543

hey... well here are the details...im dating this guy named jason when i first started talking w/ him i thought he was perfect...but then i learned more about him via his friends...his friends told me that he goes out and parties and gets drunk almost every weekend...and hes not a virgin witch i dont agree w/ and on top of that he is shy and i hate it when guys are shy cuz im am totally opposite and then you have silent moments which we have all the time...i mean i need a guy who will hold my hand in the hall way and will put his arm around me and someone i can come up and kiss in the hallways and he wont care whose watching and i can't do that he has told me that he doesn't like to kiss in public and i dont mind but still...but you would think then just go and break up w/ him but its not that easy...he is a senoir and every body knows him and is friends w/ him and i kno all of his guys friends and were friends were friends w/ them before me and jason knew each even knew each other (thats how we met through his friends) and im afraid if i break his heart that everyone will hate me cuz his friends tell me all the time that he talks about me all the time and that it seems like he is in love with me and i feel like i dont have the balls to break up w/ him and i geuss im stuck between a rock and a hard place so this is where yawl come in please give me so advice about my situation thanks in advance ~shortstop543

well... i was in the exact same position last year and what he did to try to ask me out was he gave me this note and inside the note wrote his home and cell phone number then he gave me his s/n and email address and then the next day i gave him my digits and s/n's and what not and then he called me and he got to kno me first and then when we felt confortable with each other he asked me out so i geuss what my answer to your problem whould be just start out one step at a time just dont go up to her and ask her cause for one that puts her on the spot and i dont if if gurls in general dotn like it but i kno i dont...but gradual ease in to it like get on speaking terms with her first and then just go withthe flow and see how things turn out....hope fulyy they go ur way ~shortstop543

hey ppl, there is this guy named Jason and i like him...and he looks at me in the hall ways and we exchanged stares and smiles, but we have never really talked to one another. So my friend Ryan who is also his friend as well tells me that Jason told him that he is into me and i told Ryan to tell Jason that i am into him also. So the next day Ryan comes up to me and gives me a note that Jason told him to give to me...in the note he wrote his home and cell phone numbers, his email address and his AIM s/n and in the note it simply said "hit me up sometime". So today as i was puting him on my buddy list his name popped on the screen and my AIM server said he was on so naturally i said hey to him and told him who i was. like 30 seconds after i sent the IM he immedianlty signed off and i havent spoke to him since...that gave me the vibe that he really doesn't want to talk or he isn't into me at all but people tell me at school that he is...so its kinda confusing *any comments whould be appreceiated in advance thank you* ~shortstop543