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  1. Why not just take him at his word? If down the line—later this year, two years from now, whatever—he realizes he 100 percent wants to have a child/children, then you two will deal with that divide then. Or is it that you feel like his about-face is insincere, more of a reaction out of fear (of losing you, being alone, whatever) than a genuine rethinking of his future on his part? Does he have a history of reshaping his beliefs/interests to accommodate yours? Do you envision yourself being happier in a relationship with someone who is adamant, like you, about never wanting children?
    4 points
  2. Please do not prolong this. You'll just get more attached and more angst over this dealbreaker issue. He didn't make this decision because of an individual epiphany he had -it was in reaction to you now determining you definitely don't want kids even though at points you said you might be open to it. Please let him find someone who wants children with all her heart and soul so he can realize his dream of being an awesome father. He's waffling because he's so afraid of losing you . Do the humane thing and let him go so he can be a dad. Or at least try to, with someone who can't wait to be a mom.
    3 points
  3. I decided to cancel having the Bariatric surgery in September. I have given it much thought and it doesn’t sit right in my gut having surgery. I’m instead getting a personal trainer and going to loose weight naturally. I don’t think surgery is the answer. I found a woman trainer who is supposedly one of the best in my area. I have a consultation with her Tuesday June 29th.
    3 points
  4. Does this guy make a habit of just volunteering completely unnecessary, steaming piles of awful takes? Like yeah, his opinions are bad enough on their own, but the results aren't even in yet. Dude's really determined to make sure he doesn't come in a second late for an opportunity to berate you. There are so many layers of petty to peel there. A lot of folks have provided some great comments with regard to the misogyny and lack of mutual respect. What I'll chime in with is that more generally, it's a huge red flag when somebody sees someone they claim to love enjoying success or have something good happen to them, only to not just think, but express themselves cynically in response to it. Being married now, what benefits myself or my wife tends to residually benefit the other anyhow, but beforehand, I never had a feeling of somehow having been slighted whenever she happened upon a happy surprise or good opportunity for herself. It always weirds me out when I see supposed partners jealous or bitter over the other's benefit. It's very "misery loves company." And especially here, he's put you in a position where you can't "win" with regard to your relationship. Even in the ideal case you both get the promotion, he's already denied you your merits. If you get it and he doesn't, he'll be even further embittered. If he gets it and you don't, in his mind he'll have somehow dunked on the matriarchy, and-- again, in his mind-- you're such a novice you couldn't even get it despite being a broad living life on easy mode. That he'd spit out the initial rant was a bad enough look. That he's turned it into a theme throws away any vaguely good faith you might extend that it was just a bad moment rather than a sincerely internalized opinion and attitude.
    3 points
  5. btw, remove "other" from man. He was not the "other" man. He was the man you were dating at a time - totally on the up and up because you were not in a relationship at the time with the guy you are talking about He is treating your situation with a man that you dated after you broke up the same as if you cheated on him - which you did not. Please stand strong and end it for good. What you see is what you get. He has proven that this is who he is. I would run away before he convinces you that marriage will change him --
    3 points
  6. I have been drawing nude models in a professional setting since I was 14, and went to art school...and NOPE, ZERO times I have ever been attracted to a model. And I have been a few photo shoots with art photographers, and NOPE, No sexuality behind it. Either you need to take a deep breath and relax, and learn to love your own body to realize, it's just a naked body, or you two are NOT a compatible match, and that is okay. Not everyone can be cool with all professions out there in this world.
    3 points
  7. It's ok to have a crush, but don't make things awkward for her or your brother. Find another girl to date.
    3 points
  8. I don’t know, OP. People get curious. Sometimes I look at the pages of people I knew way back when in primary school, or even an ex I parted well with. It doesn’t mean I am into them. It just means I wondered where they were at in life, as a passing curiosity. I would be more concerned with the fact you violated his privacy. That’s not okay. If you’re insecure in your relationship, then it isn’t the right one for you, regardless of your bf following an ex on IG. My husband still talks to his ex every now and then and it doesn’t bother me one bit because I understand there isn’t anything to it. But, if you’re not comfortable with that then end the relationship and stop emotionally punishing your boyfriend for something that happened 6 months ago. You either trust him or you don’t, and if you don’t then you need to end the relationship because trust is the very important and necessary foundation of all healthy and successful relationships. Without it, there is no relationship or future. Sorry you’re going through this.
    3 points
  9. Well you can do what you like but here is what I think. It doesn't really sound like this guy is looking for a relationship. He said to you that he's open to one but he's not really looking for one. You also said he started sexting you even before you met, right? That's a bad sign and probably means he's just looking for a hookup. I find it off putting when a guy starts sexting before they even met a woman. I don't necessarily call a guy a jerk just because they're looking for sex but if they're not being honest about it then that does make them a bit of a bad guy. If they were honest and upfront and just said they want casual sex then I'd be like: "Cool but I don't so good luck to you". So if I was you I guess I'd be thinking whether I want to just lose my virginity to this guy because he wants sex and I want to experience sex. Or whether I want to lose my virginity to someone I'm actually in a relationship with and make my first time more special. I think there's no right or wrong answer here. If you want to have sex because you feel ready to have it in general then go for it. But I don't think this guy actually wants a relationship and it may be just an FWB thing. If you're OK with just a sexual relationship while you're still looking for other guys then that's OK. Then if you find a boyfriend you can just be with him instead. But if you don't want to start off your relationship and sexual experience with just FWB then keep looking for someone else.
    3 points
  10. Thank you, everybody, for these responses. I think that I've been lying to myself a bit about my own feelings, and about what is actually happening in my relationship with my mom and my sister. It's really helped to start putting things out here for others to review and share their impartial opinions on the matter. I said in my initial post that I've stopped hoping that my mom would grow out of her need for validation. But I realize that this is not true. There is still some part of me that wants her to acknowledge and correct what is happening. I also think that I've been ignoring the fact that the two of them literally don't respect me. Sure, they say that they do, and they would be deeply offended if I suggested that they don't. But to quote the old adage, "actions speak louder than words." Finally, I think it's pretty clear that I need to take a stand. I'm not looking forward to the anger, tears, recriminations, minimizing, and self loathing from my mom. But I've weathered all of these things many times before, and I know I can handle a little more blustering. That's actually the least of my worries. My biggest worry is the impact on my family. Not just my mom and my sister, but my aunts and my cousins. I don't want them getting involved. This is going to take some time to plan and execute. There are so many little footnotes that I could add to each of the sentences that I'm writing. I have to work through this situation thoroughly before I can be really effective. What I'm saying is, it's not going to happen by August lol.
    3 points
  11. Well I always find that it's really hard for me to get over feelings or a crush on someone unless I tell them and I actually get rejected. Then the rejection usually helps me because I actually get an answer and I get closure. Otherwise I keep wondering "what if". I'm a woman and I even told guys I had feelings for them and I just went for it lol I certainly got rejected sometimes but sometimes I didn't. I asked basically my partners out myself. I think you could tell her how you feel to get it off your chest. I mean, if she's not interested in you romantically you probably need to know so you can work on moving on. If she's not interested then you should probably have some space from her to try to get over her. Otherwise you'll just feel jealous and hurt.
    3 points
  12. The thing about cheaters is that they are extremely selfish. They may hide it but inside they are very selfish and often time do what they want without ever thinking about who they will hurt. You aren't the one that is broken or unlovable, he is. Cheaters cheat to fill a void, a void not because of anything you did or didn't do or provide. The void is within them and was there probably before you met. They cheat to try and make themselves feel better about who they are or how they see themselves. They are broken and use people to feel better about their life and who they are. Using others is what they do along with lying to themselves and anyone they need to so they can keep kidding themselves that what they are doing isn't wrong. Justifications, excuses or blame shifting are the usual tools they use. If you asked him straight out all the questions you wanted he would just lie to you. Not because he doesn't want to tell the truth but because he probably doesn't know the answers, not the real answers anyways. My now ex wife answered all my questions after I caught her and you know what? It didn't change anything. She was still a cheater and our 20 years together was over. Any words he speaks to you will not give you closure, you have to make that happen for yourself. Looking to a cheater for that is a fools errand. Focus on your daughter and your new life without that selfish jerk in it. Lost
    3 points
  13. If you sense that he no longer wants kids because he wants to make you happy, then break up because remaining in a relationship is just wasting everyone's time. It's sounds like he wants a family someday and he's acquiescing to you in order to keep the peace. I agree with you, it's better to let him go so he can have a family someday especially because he mentioned his desire to have a family someday.
    2 points
  14. Hey, OP. Sorry you are dealing with this. For context, I turned 26 this year, and I also recently split from a relationship, in significant part, because I do not want biological children (there were lots of other issues that informed my decision to break up, but that was the biggest). So, as a side-note, it is comforting to know that I am not alone in that mindset. My ex-girlfriend also was also very keen on having children one day. She was, especially after one of our children conversations, always posting about babies, etc. on social media. We eventually split, and she knows that was a reason. If I were in your shoes, and my ex suddenly did an about-face, I would have trouble believing her, too. So, I think I can empathize with your dilemma here. I think two scenarios are reasonably possible: (1) he has sincerely weighed the pros and cons and has decided he prefers having you as a significant other to having children, or (2) at this point, he is dealing with the loss of the relationship and responding only to that overwhelming pain - despite the fact that one day he really wants kids, you are at the forefront of his mind at the moment. It is up to you to determine what scenario is more likely true, and accordingly to weigh the pros and cons of getting back together or staying apart. Hope this helps.
    2 points
  15. Be easy on yourself.. it takes time to change, fully. So, start small (as I have been changing my eating as well- slow changes). I made a page up last year on FB, 'What's Good for the Body'. Over time, I have tried some decent diet pills- ones that do have good stuff in them.. Plus, I have lessen the amount I eat in a day, and changed even my liquid intake, to more water. So, I buy more vegies, eat fish, oatmeal, yogourt, rice, etc - all stuff that is good for you ( there is also 'healthy' fats.). As for exercise, I walk my little dog most evenings now, so doing some exercises, plus I stretch - similar to yoga. Anything to start working on 'good changes'. So, get into the changes gradually.. and little positive is still a positive ❤️
    2 points
  16. Kids is not something you compromise on. I think it is time to part ways.
    2 points
  17. I know someone who wanted kids but agreed to never have any so she could marry the man she had been dating. She never did have any but she is very wistful...she would have loved to have kids. She became a schoolteacher, but it isn't the same.
    2 points
  18. You do realize this situation is the primary cause of your mental health issues, right? This relationship certainly isn't helping, at the very least. You fear the emotions you'll feel when you breakup, but don't fear the emotions you're feeling right now? I promise, get out of this situation and get the support you need and you'll find yourself feeling much better mentally and emotionally.
    2 points
  19. I think you do need to let him know that this isn't working for you anymore and yes, do it over the phone because of distance. Only then decide if you two still want to travel and meet face to face for closure. He might not want to. You may also find that he is not going to be happy with traveling to see you only to get dumped by you. That's not very nice or very mature and it is wasting someone's time and resources for nothing. Same goes even if you do the traveling to him. He may clear his schedule to see you only for what? Be honest and give him a proper heads up and then decide if seeing each other is something either one of you really wants to do. Break ups are break ups. The only immature thing to do is to string the person along promising to stay friends and hoping that you'll change your mind and come back to them. That is not just immature, it's pretty cruel.
    2 points
  20. Reading your post I also think that would be best.
    2 points
  21. Exactly. OP, he got this room for himself and a girl. You know it and he knows it, too. Your relationship is done in all but name. It's time to move on and set yourself free of this mess. He isn't going to marry you and it's time you stopped listening to his BS.
    2 points
  22. Yeah...sure....he totally rented a hotel room to sit around chastely and sip wine and talk about the latest developments in physics research. If you are buying that.....I've got a bridge to sell you. You feel ill because you are in complete denial that his guy is a cheating, lying, gaslighting, pos that you need to dump and stop talking to forever. I don't care what fake number he tries to reach you through - hang up, block, delete and keep doing it until he gets the message that you are not the fool he thinks you are. OP, he doesn't love you, he is cheating on you and he loves fooling you. All that "chasing" is a control game. Duping you into taking him back and sticking around so he can cheat on you some more is the ultimate high. Please stop confusing this bs as caring. He only cares about himself. Also, get tested for STD's asap. Btw, cheating is a form of abuse, OP. Stop putting up with that and walk away already. The sooner you get rid of him the sooner you'll start to feel sanity return to your life.
    2 points
  23. Whether he agrees with the process or not, a partner should treat you as a team rather than competition. When one of you does well, it's a celebration for both of you. It seems he's easily threatened by the idea of you gaining any success he might not, and that's real bad news.
    2 points
  24. Slow down and keep things consistent. Let her come to you and text you the next day. I'm usually a next day texter also but I also text at the same time each day. lol so people know when they're going to hear from me. I think you're placing too much importance on phone messaging. It doesn't matter anyway. As long as you pace yourselves things will unfold naturally. There are always dating jitters and nervousness getting to know someone you truly like and get along well with. It's exciting and nervewrecking at the same time. Can you not read the energy and just see whether she's interested in being more intimate that way on your dates? You don't have to take on the burden of moving things forward exclusively. Enjoy yourselves and deep breaths.
    2 points
  25. I don't agree with this line of thought. Speaking as someone who's husband had emotional affairs, it's not me that's an issue, and trust me, the women were toe up, and I'm not saying that to be a jerk, but oof, yikes. You can be an amazing badass wife, lover, mother. It's the tip of the iceberg is what you got to see, but in underneath the tip of it all is a vastness of whatever. Either way, it comes down to the cheater being 100% SELFISH. Don't blame yourself any further. It happens a lot, and take a long time to heal from it. Whatever you do though, practice self-care!!! And lean on friends and family.
    2 points
  26. I just want to say, even if it's obvious and you know it intellectually, none of this is your fault. ❤️ It can be so hard to seperate our parent's stuff from ourselves sometimes. There's that part from when we were younger and depended on them so much to love us and take care of us and show us how to navigate difficult feelings, and the little guy always takes things straight to heart and figures it must be something I'm not doing right if a parent isn't able to fully recognize and accept us. But there's nothing you could have done or do now to change your mom and sister. It's not your fault. It's not reflective of you, though I know it's hard to process that after years of them trying to put it on you.
    2 points
  27. Kids don't understand constructive criticism. Adults who can't see how they are wrong doesn't make them right. Think of this way, you and your wife are having a meltdown over a six year old calling someone their mom. It's like shaking a baby for crying. I can only imagine how you respond to "yo mama" jokes.
    2 points
  28. Well, you chose to ignore it. You initially benefitted from her cheating so you didn't care. You were excited to "win" her. Now you're seeing it from the point of view of the poor guy she was cheating on when you started sleeping with her. Water under the bridge now. All you can do now is rid yourself of her and make sure you don't do this again. To yourself and to others. I would be proactive and file for divorce. Why wait for her to decide when you get to move on with your life?
    2 points
  29. You won't be ready to date anyone else for good, long while yet. And that's okay. You are going to need plenty of time to process, and heal. 3 weeks out is still the beginning, so be patient with yourself. It hurts. It hurts a lot. You will okay days, and you will have bad days. The key is to trust the process of recovery and trust that time will help you emotionally untangle from all of it. I feel for you, OP. I was betrayed in a long-term relationship, many years ago now. It's disorienting and leaves you with so many questions. But the strength you will realize you have, in moving past it all? There are few greater feelings. Once you're past the worst of it, you will be amazed at how resilient you are and how far you have come.
    2 points
  30. I totally understand it really hurts but where I think you're going wrong is that you still keep talking to her. I think you really need to block her on everything and not speak anymore. You're really hurting so why continue torturing yourself and looking at her social media and all this? What if she starts tagging se guy on social media, do you really need to see those kinds of things? Personally I wouldn't be falling for her bs lines like: "Who knows what the future will bring, maybe we'll be together again." It sounds like she's just throwing you breadcrumbs and maybe keeping you on the backburner in case it doesn't work out with other guys. I think you should just cut her off and don't give her another chance again. She snooze, she lose! Lol
    2 points
  31. No, you are not right. Get your own woman, dude.
    2 points
  32. Yep. When speaking with the child, most people likely refer to the man's wife as 'your mother' and so the term 'wife' is a less familiar term to this child. So a child viewing the adult female of a household as 'the mother' makes sense to her. It's not an insult, it's kid logic. Getting offended by that is ridiculous.
    2 points
  33. I tend to agree. Three months isn't very long. Meeting her family is a positive sign. Some people are much better in person. My boyfriend, for example, never ever tried online dating. He is a self-described "live act." Some women (myself included) prefer that the man does the 'chasing.' Bottom line is that there are many possible explanations for what you are experiencing. Don't rush to the assumption that you like her more than she likes you. That could be way off base.
    2 points
  34. Well I think the thing about being in a relationship is that your partner may very well be in situations around people of the opposite gender. That really can't be helped. He may work with women, have some female friends and of course just be around women in general. E.g. Be served by women in a shop or a cafe. What needs to happen is you need to have trust in your partner that they are with YOU and they choose you above all other people.
    2 points
  35. Dude, why are you acting so weak and pitiful, like you have no power and this woman is a puppeteer yanking your strings? If you don't want to be friends with her then don't! If you find her behavior hurtful, keep her from hurting you! If you truly want to move on, block her on everything and change your phone number. Once I wanted to get rid of a guy I left the state! lolol Self-preservation is the #1 rule you should be following. You aren't handling this from a masculine strong position of strength, you are being a wuss. Stop it.
    2 points
  36. Keep in mind that at one month in, you can't possibly be sure about this. You just know that he has a great resume. And you also know that people lie on their resumes all the time.
    2 points
  37. Do you mean he ogles them, cranes his head over his neck to stare at them, or that you get jealous when he peers up at the waitress to give his order, or that you expect him to stare down at his shoes while you two walk together in case he spots someone more beautiful and takes off after her, yanking the leash out of your hand?
    2 points
  38. You're not a bad person if you don't call him on Father's Day. Don't feel guilty nor obligated. However, you can learn to forgive him. Forgive means to move on. Forgive does not mean forget. Forgive does not mean to give excuses to those who've wronged you. Forgive means not to wish ill will nor hold grudges against perpetrators. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself so you can heal and move on with your life. If you feel that you want to be the bigger person, then call him yet keep it well mannered, gracious, kind and brief. You don't have to be pals nor get friendly. Practice good diplomacy while maintaining a safe distance. No one can undo the past. However, both of you can heal even though your relationship with him is fragile.
    2 points
  39. I haven't spoken a word or seen my father since my 18th birthday. I am now in my mid-50s. I don't feel guilty at all because he doesn't. He had plenty of opportunities to show he cared about me and my siblings when we were children but HE chose not to. That was his decision and from what I've been told he stands by it, blaming our mother when HE was the one who didn't pay child support or provide for us. I may be the wrong one to give advice on this, but I do not regret my decision to remove him from my life. Some people will say I'll regret it when he's gone, but I disagree. Again, this was HIS choice, not mine. I feel no guilt or regret or remorse for choices HE made. I'm just responding to his lack of love and caring. You are not a "bad person". Remember, Father's Day is a nice idea but is really just a day. Don't let the greeting card companies guilt you into calling him on that specific day if you don't feel comfortable. If you truly do want to reconnect you could do it on any day of the year.
    2 points
  40. If my SO was saying things like that, First I would go throw up, and realize I have been sleeping with and emotionally invested in a sexual deviant, then pack my stuff up, jump in my truck, and drive into the sunset.
    2 points
  41. There is nothing wrong with showing interest. Obviously she is into you! Personally, I find it refreshing when a guy I like is really into me because no one needs to play games and you can enjoy the unfolding of the relationship. If you start to show less interest, she may think you are gaming her. If you gently want to tone things down, go ahead, but not too much.
    1 point
  42. Rather than continue to participate in this game, isn't it much easier to block her? Of course, you already know this. In short, you can't move forward until you let go.
    1 point
  43. Both of you don't trust. Then, you let him.. be single. This pushing & pulling is damaging! It all is. Your relationship with this guy is NOT healthy. Sounds like his attention is all on everyone else.. but you! His actions are affecting you deeply 😕 .. You are so unsure about him & his actions. Isn't it time to just walk away from him, instead of letting him ruin you emotionally?? Give yourself that inner strength and leave him in the dust. You deserve a lot better than this! You know it 😉
    1 point
  44. You'll need to make up your mind whether you want to be with a fickle man. It's not the kids /no kids that's disconcerting. It's the numerous back and forth and that he was willing to give up a life with you at one point regardless of what the future holds. That would be such a turn off overall, looking past that and being as engaged in the relationship and invested is not an option for me personally. Don't blot out your own emotions or misgivings about this. For some reason I'm sensing that you're trying your best to be objective but you're not checking in with yourself and how you really feel about him changing his mind at the last minute.
    1 point
  45. I guess I am really going to have to try, I'm just scared of the wave of emotions I am going to be hit with, as I have in the past multiple times. I have tried therapy, but I think I may need something more long-term. I cheated on him (guy2) with this man (guy1) 😞. Things were going well, Guy2 was aware that I was still in contact with Guy1, and was fine with it, because he knew I had made it clear I was with Guy2, and he asked me to meet for "closure", again Guy2, was okay with this too, as he trusted me. When I met Guy1 for closure, Guy2 had randomly stopped speaking to me for a few days, because he was going through a rough week, but did not tell me this, so I was very confused, as we had only made our relationship official that same week. When I met Guy1 for closure, he tried initiating a kiss multiple times, and I pulled back multiple times, until he went in for a kiss out of anger when I told him who guy2 was. I didn't see it coming and kissed him back, I messed up. I told Guy2 the same night, and a few weeks later he ended things with me. Since then he has tried to get me back, but I have told him about me being in a relationship. Sorry, this is probably more information than you wanted. I am just feeling very mentally unstable at the moment, and writing things down is helping me. Bottom line is, I was not ready to get into a relationship with guy2 at the time, as I was not over guy1. Better yet, I should not have agreed to meet guy1 for closure, and I should have known that was just an excuse.
    1 point
  46. It's about incompatible goals and outlooks. In 2001 I was in my 30s and met a guy online who was incredibly handsome, literally brilliant with a prestigious career, very romantic and easy to talk to. And very promiscuous. And unapologetic about it. And he actually was serious minded in one way but his strong preference was to have sex right away and exclusivity didn't matter. I made it clear on date one that wasn't my thing at all - told him about my stance on it. Date three he invited me to his home. I agreed and told him exactly what I was comfortable with. He still tried but not in a harassing or assaulting kind of way at all. For about two months we'd have sleepovers and no sex. I was over the moon about him. And no I wasn't leading him on - he knew exactly where I stood. We were somehwat intimate and did not have intercourse. He ended things after two months. About 1.5 years later he asked me out again. Told him I still felt the same way. We went out 3 times maybe and he ended it again (no we didn't have sex). He actually met his future wife a few years later and invited me to the engagement party (they didn't marry till years later, after he moved to another state far away). We stayed in touch. He'd flirt with me once in awhile over instant messenger, complain that his wife couldn't have sex right after giving birth, and yes he cheated on her while they were dating and engaged (not sure if when married). I tell you this because yes he did "settle down" eventually -I met his wife, lovely woman and very very smart. I have one other example of a reformed player (no I am not "judging'" -he described himself this way and I'd known him and his family for a long time before we dated) I dated who then later met his future wife and contacted me inappropriately a couple of times. But - those are two examples. Many many people I am sure who later on want a serious relationship find one and are faithful. What I am saying is that at the time they are not looking for serious it should be a total dealbreaker for you and especially if the person has been promiscuous as an adult (especially) there's a higher risk of him wanting to continue that lifestyle longer or perhaps be very very tempted while in a serious relationship kind of like the old habits die hard. It's not a little thing -it's a dealbreaker.
    1 point
  47. You will be OK ,like you said it’s just blustering to keep the status quo. It might be loud but it’s background noise to keep you in your lane, well your lane according to them.
    1 point
  48. I actually had pain in my wrists about 15 years ago. It was in both wrists, so think it might have been keyboard-related. But I'm not sure. My doctor said it probably wasn't carpal tunnel. She suggested that I wear a wrist brace and seeing if that improved things. If my wrist pain didn't improve, she'd send me for a carpal tunnel test. I got two wrist braces and wore them on both wrists like Wonder Woman lol. And since I had great insurance, I also decided to visit some specialists on my own. First, I saw a hand specialist, who ruled out carpal tunnel with a physical exam. Then I visited a neurologist, who ruled out carpal tunnel with a nerve conduction velocity test. So, I continued with the braces for about a year. Maybe more. Now this is the funny part of the story: I went to back to my regular doctor after a couple months of wearing the braces. I said, "The wrist braces have helped, but I'm still having pain. I know you said it's probably not carpal tunnel--" she cut me off there and said, "You do have carpal tunnel syndrome!" She didn't know I'd gone to other doctors. I didn't bother contradicting her. I just stopped going to her. She was so arrogant. And careless. A minion of the insurance companies, not a healer. The pain in my wrists eventually went away, and I never did find out what caused it. But I'm not complaining!
    1 point
  49. That's your problem, you think he's the only decent man out there so you'll put up with his disgusting behavior. There is nothing good about a man that lusts for another woman. He wasn't even tactful about it. If you believe you cannot live without him or that you'll never find anyone better than him, or even believe that you'll be fine without him, you'll keep putting up with trash behavior. Putting aside your relationship, this man is seriously perverted. He lacks boundaries and even self respect. Flowers and holding doors doesn't describe a man's character. Also, judging by your replies to people, you've constantly mentioned being consoled. You know it's ultimately your job to console yourself. We can only offer advice and some compassionate words but you have to find that inner strength inside. This is why babies are encouraged to learn how to self soothe. You have to believe that you were fine before you met this man and will be fine even if he is gone.
    1 point
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