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  1. You do whatever you think you need to do to get out of your situation. Tip: don't discuss it with them or tell them. Once you get yourself a job, move out and as you are walking out the door, tell them you are moving out to be on your own, make a dash for it.
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  2. I agree, as well. It's the same as whispering in front of people and not sharing the secret--even when there is no secret, it's a deliberate exclusion of others. Bad manners.
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  3. Choc. That's some set of friends, including boyfriend, that you've got there? Surely you can do better than this immature lot!? Why do you put up with such unpleasant treatment? How do you know "people" consider you boring? Why put on that label "introvert". Kind of buzz word at the moment. Socially awkward is a different matter. Or trying to be a people pleaser. (Look up "The Disease to Please"). Put more value on yourself, work on your self-worth, keep away from those on the make and on the take. And ditch that "boyfriend" as in NOW. He's no friend.
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  4. Merry Christmas everyone! 🎅🏾I’m usually pretty upbeat or try to be as optimistic as possible and show gratitude for all of my blessings, especially when so many are suffering, but I guess it just hit me today that for the first time in my life I won’t be spending Xmas with my senior parents. I choose to be safe over taking the chance of traveling to see them, but it’s still depressing on top of everything going on in the world. And we’re in different states, so I can’t even do a drive by—a video chat will have to do. I’m sure other people are feeling the same, so maybe this is the place t
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  5. It sounds like the no gifts is the tip of the iceberg. Other than "because I love him" why are you with him? If you won the lottery tomorrow would you stay or go?
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  6. SHANDA arrived early last night, we took a walk around my neighborhood with no balking about the hilly terrain. Ten minutes in, she took my arm and held my hand. I gave her a kiss on a scenic overlook and she clearly liked it. Back home, I gave her flowers and she surprisingly gave me a perfect gift I didn't expect: a vegan cookbook that featured classic soul/jazz/hiphop song pairings. She kinda nailed it with that one. For dinner viewing, I gave her the choice between two classic Xmas movies but offhandedly mentioned an offbeat hard-science-fiction 70s flick in passing. She immediat
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  7. Gaslighting for sure. That's a jerka$$ move. If I were you I would never have confronted him...yet. I would have contacted his friend with the proof and told him. I would have copied all the text messages and contact those BFs that are being cheated on. And then let the S#$%storm begin with you kicking him to the curb.
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  8. Absolutely!! I have herniated discs in my neck and low back. Definitely recommend. The original workout is from the 80s, so get ready for some leotards lol!
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  9. Sorry to hear you are going through this, especially during these challenging times. Better to find out now than waste many more years on this guy. I know of several (married) people who cheat. Once they start with one, more come into the fold and the lies they spin would blow your mind. Also realize it is not you, it’s them. You are very likely neither the first person he has cheated on, nor will you be the last.
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  10. I agree with Wiseman about excluding the boy's GF speaking in a different language...that is so rude. I think the girl's comments were out of jealousy, and her BF redeeming himself to her to keep in her good graces. She sleeps with him so he's gonna side with her. I bet if she wasn't there it's would be a total different atmosphere. Just the way somethings work. Have you had a conversation with your BF about those comments? He can have a talk with them himself, which he should. I get it, not everyone is going to like you, but it's no excuse to be rude.
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  11. Merry Christmas! Stay home stay safe!
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  12. Consider befriending older adults. They're past the petty schoolyard stuff and can mentor you into some confidence. Read 'The Ugly Duckling' and embrace your inner swan. Then switch your focus away from the duckling pond and go swim in a lake with the mature birds.
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  13. Yes, I think she is just articulating feelings as they come. I do it too, when I am distraught. Helps me get it all out. When I do it, I am totally aware of my unhealthy thought patterns. I write them down so that I can see them, so that they don't hide under shame. I think that's sort of what HeartsLament is doing, too. It can trigger people, I know. But it's really just stream of consciousness.
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  14. Pippy wishes everyone Merry Christmas!
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  15. Hey Seraphim and all, Thank you so much for all your support and kind words. We have been doing well; supporting each other. My wife is not always the most at ease expressing herself emotionally, but I think she has felt safe to do so. Overall, we are OK. We have a nice dinner planned tonight for Christmas, and a quiet New Year, so just being there and taking it as it comes. Thank you all again and Merry Christmas! T
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  16. All I want for Christmas is a vaccine 😁🎅🎄..... And a covid free 2021 for all.
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  17. Ok, this is just one couple who were rude Your BF can have whatever friends he wants, but you don't have to like them or their GFs. Next time you're out with people, make sure the conversation remains in the language everyone understands. It's rude in multilingual settings to have side chitchat that excludes people. As far as your interests, make your own friends based on clubs, groups, sports, etc. that involve your interests . Gossiping is not an "interest", just a bad habit. Don't engage in it. You need to be less suspicious of other's motives. People are who t
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  18. That's the most important thing. Taking care of yourself now. You can't rewrite the past.
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  19. Happy birthday to my mumsy. I miss you every day. I did all the Christmas baking this year by myself. Weird times, and do I ever miss cooking and baking with you. So many good memories you created with me of Christmas, mum. I'm grateful for it every time Christmas rolls around. Some people are reminded of sadness, loneliness, and other difficult emotions around Christmas. For me, it will always remind me of you and dad. The energy you put into us as kids, I wonder if you really knew what a huge gift that was. I carry that forever, knowing you both truly loved being parents. Remember talking as
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  20. Merry Christmas to you all. I hope you have peace, joy and love this Christmas and I hope the New year brings good things. ❤️
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  21. Trust your gut instinct, most of the time it's 100% right. A person can read another person behaviors, they can tell the change in tone, or in efforts and communication. You noticed right away that it changed as soon as you mentioned meeting, that's a red flag. It does sound like you're company for her right now that gives her an ego boost but she's not wanting you as an actual fulltime boyfriend. At least that's the vibe I get from reading what you wrote. Right now you need to slow down. Realize that she is not perfection and that you don't know her. You know an internet
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  22. You're worried about the wrong person here. He isn't the problem. She is. She isn't over him and she's letting him stay in her life. He could not meddle and cause issues if she didn't allow it. She allows it because she isn't ready to let him go. So he isn't the one who doesn't understand the situation - that would be you, actually. Trying to start something with her right now is a bad idea, and likely to bring you pain. She isn't in a place to truly offer you more than friendship. Her heart and mind are still with her ex. Until she is well and truly over him and stops responding t
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  23. We are headed home now. Saw both our families. It was good. Tomorrow is the day my husband and I got engaged many many moons ago.
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  24. You can do it. It hasn’t sunk us after 32 years. 😉 We have weathered EVERYTHING and nothing can sink us. You can do it too.
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  25. She just sounds confused to me and devastated. The problem is people who are devastated or in transition may think they are okay but you'll have to make that decision for yourself - whether this is what you want in your life. Take this as a learning experience overall. If you are also going through your own trials or are new to dating or a little rusty, take this with a pinch of salt. Don't over-read into it, don't overanalyze her or judge her character. It's a waste of time and energy, imho. Keep that focus on you and remind yourself or go over what you're looking for in a partner
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  26. I agree with above post. With women they think sex buys them a relationship...with men it's doing favors and buying them gifts, dinner etc. When you give and give and nothing is equally reciprocated, you stop, and jump ship....get the hell out of there.
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  27. Although I appreciate your viewpoint Wiseman, I disagree. I think this young lady is doing quite well despite. She is opening up and talking about things. She missed her appointment due to a cough. As for happiness and unhappiness, you're dismissing completely how someone might feel terrible due to terrible treatment and a failed relationship. Not too many people are going to feel happy after going through that. This guy as well did have a part in not treating her well. She may not be a "victim", per se, but she most certainly has valid feelings concerning how she was treat
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  28. Dropping off my act of Christmas kindness. Excited about this one.
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  29. Seems like nostalgia, closure or guilt . Sort of wanting to be viewed benevolently in spite of it all.
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