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  1. Yes but again he's not doing that because he wants to get to know you as a person - or become a closer friend. He's doing that just like a young child keeps saying mommy mommy mommy because she's on the phone or heaven forbid took a minute to pee or sip some still hot coffee. He can "bombard" all he likes. You can only control what you do in reaction. If you don't like the bombarding block him. I am positive he is interested in you sexually. He's not your friend at this point. He's a new chat buddy at most. The toxicity is how you are treating the situation.
    2 points
  2. Kudos to your sister for not responding to this condescension.
    2 points
  3. I met this guy about 2 months ago on an online dating site. We finally met in person and he was the sweetest guy I have ever met. He told me he was single for 2 years so and he was looking for a long term relationship. Everything was great between us, we even things planned to do when lockdown is over. I have have a sleepover already and he told me how much he loves me how crazy he was about me. And showed me through his actions too. No red flags yet, we talked yesterday in morning and everything was ok. Didn't hear from him during the I thought he was busy. So I wished him good night and went
    1 point
  4. This is getting more and more confusing as you continue to add to your story in bits and pieces. In any event, it seems odd that your husband is going along with this.
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  5. I would pull back, and respond with short comments once a week. It will dwindle away to nothing. it sounds like it has become a burden.
    1 point
  6. "Out of bounds" doesn't exist to some people. I just don't feel like you should have to be doing all these mental gymnastics. Maybe he'll return to acting how he used to, but maybe this is an early sign of problems and drama. Who's to really say? Let him be him and you be you and, if it feels like it's not a healrthy friendship, then leave it in the past.
    1 point
  7. Take more control of your life and stop responding to any texts that make you uncomfortable especially from strangers you hardly know over social media. From what you've described this person sounds like he's busy with a life and that is all. If you don't like the way he's speaking to you though, you can choose to opt out. Keep nurturing your other real time relationships in real life. This means looking for other ways to connect with people and situations that you can vet better or understand more clearly. Don't set yourself up for 'tricks' or strange behaviour. Take care.
    1 point
  8. He's weird, strange and acts abnormally. Pay attention to your gut instincts because it's always correct. Your online friendship with him has since run its course. Tell him nicely that both of you have personality differences which means it's time to go your separate ways. If he can't take a hint, then tell him that it's time to end the friendship. If he continues to be relentless with either contacting you or reacting to your social media, then ghost, block and delete him. Don't retain odd people in your life because sooner or later, they will become your endless headaches a
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  9. All I can say is keep this simple: If you get a bad vibe, something just doesn't feel right or something makes you feel uncomfortable, feels off, then you end it. You don't need any explanation. If it's not working for you, then you quit. Simply tell him the truth ... "it's not working for me" ... and then block/end all contact. You don't have to keep friendships going when the vibe is off. Simple as that.
    1 point
  10. Damn. :( I hope your back sorts itself out soon. Yes, hoping Wednesday gets here quickly!
    1 point
  11. You two rushed into a relationship without taking the time to properly get to know each other. You didn’t know what you were signing up for when you took the big step of moving in together too quickly. Unfortunately, he’s not the guy you hoped. When you’re thinking of therapy after just a year and you’ve felt sad and insecure and disrespected for at least half that... you don’t have a relationship that is going to work out. This isn’t what love and long-term happiness looks like. He’s not The One, OP.
    1 point
  12. There is nothing to be baffled about. Unlike you, he isn't particularly bothered about the whole situation. Hence, he is treating your stories like flipping the pages of a sports magazine, so to speak. Next time around, don't have sex with a guy without first determining whether you both want the same things or not. People can't read your mind and players take advantage of murky situations. It's on you to express and protect your boundaries. When asked, he did state his mind and then proceeded accordingly. Your mistake was not making sure that you are on the same page before having s
    1 point
  13. This guy is awful! He only wanted to sleep with you. That's it. He also had no obligation to you, as you had NOT even been on a date, and you certainly were not dating. Where is your self respect!? Make better choices. Block him!
    1 point
  14. They sure sound delightful MB. Never mind dramatic. But loving fights and insulting people. They don't sound very stable. "They are a very dramatic family, love fights and insulting people..." What the other posters said. It is time for your husband to be firm and stand up for himself. Show that they cannot continue to bully him. Stop worrying about looking bad. Their crazy behaviour says more about them than it does about you.
    1 point
  15. Looks like there is something else on his mind, its definitely not about having anymore kids as he put it. If you keep pushing him to talk about it that would generally lead to conflicts. You cant force someone to have babies either, it just isnt a solid foundation to the whole process. Sometimes focussing on different things in life can give that perspective of how to tackle difficult situations and conflicts in life.
    1 point
  16. Around an hour after he told me that they had sent messages like this before but it was completely innocent and nothing more than a friend leaning on him for support. He said the message were about arguments with her husband and that she’s know I read his messages so sent them like that because she didn’t want me know. I’m grateful he told me but I can’t help but feel so upset that he lied to me in the first place. I’m so hurt by this and my mind is in overdrive wondering if there’s more lies. What do I do? I see you had issues last year regarding this. Yeah, a woman friend you don't even
    1 point
  17. Ok, I'm in Canada where we have pretty strict rules. I'm constantly shocked at how lax rules are in the US. What your family does and would like to do regarding masks would result in many fines up here, you just cant do that. So my opinion comes from how we live up here. Wearing a mask with your nose hanging out is almost as bad as no mask at all. Given how all of you have had covid, rules really should be adhered to. If I was you I'd get married at city hall with just parents as witnesses and save the reception for a year or two from now when hopefully things are better.
    1 point
  18. This is a sucky catch 22 situation. You cannot enforce everyone to wear masks properly at a wedding. That would be the venue’s job to enforce because THEY will be the ones fined and shut down by the health department if people are not social distancing/wearing PPEs. Venues are under heavy scrutiny with gatherings since COVID... so good luck finding a Venus to agree to hold a wedding- especially with cases spiking now. Plus you will have to consider hiring extra security... more money to thrown down just to keep drama out. Also your fiancé/husband should NEVER be put in a position to
    1 point
  19. She's the youngest person I've ever dated by far. My other relationships have all been women within 3 years of my age. I met her at work and we hit it off based on shared interests and mutual attraction. We didn't work together for most of our relationship, though. My other relationships, as you can tell, ended. Some amicably, some messily. There actually were no parent-child things going on here. Contrary to what another poster also had to say, it was often the exact opposite. I always stressed that I wanted us to be equal partners. She even came to me at one point to ask if I
    1 point
  20. To be honest he sounds like a player and someone that doesn't really respect women. I don't think he's looking for a relationship and he only wants sex. I think you absolutely did the right thing that you unfollowed him on social media and you don't speak to him anymore. I would actually recommend that you also block him on everything. This doesn't seem like a person worth knowing who actually cares about the feelings of the women he's hooking up with. I recommend next time to be careful and if a guy only wants you to come to his place, no dates , that means he just wants sex. If you don't jus
    1 point
  21. After only a year together he can't keep off of seedy websites, you're talking about couples therapy and having a week's break from each other. None of that should be happening. Don't kid yourself that you're in a good relationship, that he wants the same things as you or that he will change. What do you think he's going to be doing on the week when you go no contact?! Don't go on a break for a week, but make that break permanent. You are too young to be stuck in a relationship with someone who lacks respect for your feelings.
    1 point
  22. The reason he still looks at your Instagram is simply because he can. Nothing odd about that at all really. He likely is looking at everyone’s Instagram. If you don’t want him casually looking at Instagram stories on his feed then don’t be on his feed. How was he supposed to know that you like him? You went over to his place 4 times without a date organised. That doesn’t tell him you like him? That simply tells him you are willing to hook up with no effort on his behalf? “We were supposed to go on a date but he cancelled the date and he invited me to his the following week
    1 point
  23. Your FIL can push or suggest all he wants but at the end of the day, your husband has every right not to go through with it, not attend counseling and he really doesn't need to explain anything at all. Your FIL is meddling (but don't tell him that). Avoid confrontations and heated verbal altercations with your FIL. Remain peaceful, however, don't allow your FIL to tell you or your husband what to do. It is not his domain to do so. SIL refuses to attend and everyone needs to respect her decision. Don't do anything. Don't take any action. Let your FIL fall on deaf ears.
    1 point
  24. First of all, this is your husband's family, he handles them, not you. Second, words like "I don't think" are too wishy washy. Your husband needs to say to his father that the two of you are not going, period. He does not need to explain himself, he just needs to make it clear. Further, when your FIL starts harping on this tell him you understand his concern, but you no longer wish to discuss this. If he pushes it, you leave the room.
    1 point
  25. I'm sorry you're in this mess, but I'd avoid interacting with her parents/family. Keep in mind that blood is thicker than water.
    1 point
  26. Hi, My heart goes out to you it truly does. The ending to a relationship is very painful and you go through various stages of grieving. I am going to be single for a year before I start looking to date seriously. I am learning to be happy and content with myself by being single right now and I know you can too. I think the first few weeks will be the hardest to deal with loneliness. I know they were rough for me. It gets easier the more time you immerse yourself in hobbies, work and spending time with friends and family. You start to feel freedom a weight lifted from your shou
    1 point
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