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  2. Going to give you some tough love okay. Shut up and move on. Going back reading your other posts you seem like hanging on is something you like to do. Cutting someone off or letting them go is not quite your specialty. Accepting that things are over is also not something you are comfortable doing. You broke it off with this girl, and you move on from her. You don't worry about if you have a chance, or if she will contact you, if you two will ever go out on a date.. you move forward. Think back to your posts from 2017.. you went on and on about your X. You should let your X continue to be an X and not look at them as a "future potential" I know that familiarity is easier to fall back on and being single can be fearful to others but look at your posts. You have dated and I wanted to ask you when was the last gap you had when you were not dating/talking/seeing a girl? This girl, regardless of reason she gave you, told you that she did not want to be with you. You can say what you want to soften the blow, but if she said "I met someone else" to "I have to find myself" is all the same... "I don't want to be with you" You have no problems meeting people. You have dated consistently over the past 3 years so why not just let this one go, and move forward and don't worry about what she is doing or thinking? Letting go is one of the hardest things you will have to learn how to do.
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  3. I regret the time spent in the library? The rest? Fond memories!
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  4. If he loved you he would not have refused you so many times regarding your desire for marriage. And now that he is facing financial difficulties and possibly even homelessness he's suddenly changed his mind? No. I'm sorry you are in love with a person like this. He is not treating you in a way that is loving whatsoever. It's all one sided. I'm sorry you love him because you've already answered your own questions and concerns. You know you aren't comfortable with any of this, and you know that you don't want to marry this person. You are still doubting yourself because your love for this person is clouding your very own judgment. "Love is blind" is not just a cliche saying. It really is and can be. I've certainly fallen victim to it, and gone against my own advice to others in the past, because of my love for someone. This judgment is, as Cherylyn has mentioned, your gut talking. And that's a powerful thing. Follow your gut instincts, they really are pretty much right every time. I think that's something most would agree with. If something doesn't feel right in the pit of your stomach, then it's not right. Unfortunately to add to that, I think you need to break up with this person too. It doesn't sound to me like he loves you in any way. He might say he does, but if what you have said about him is true, I really don't think he feels it. He is certainly not good for you, and you are currently being dragged along with him. You deserve so much better than that in life, you really do. There are others out there who will treat you with the love and respect that you deserve.
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  5. Thank you everyone! As I’ve gotten older I’ve realized, I don’t have time to waste on somebody who isn’t sure about me.
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  6. She implied that it wasn't always forced, that she gave in to him in order to please him. This is why we are asking her to get help. The boyfriend was wrong for taking advantage, most definitely, but she kept allowing it,..... that needs to be addressed.
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  7. Do not date a coworker, particular if you are in a position of power over her. No matter how things turn out, there is too much room for awkwardness and unintended consequences. You would first need to check company policy. There are issues of favoritism. There is the chance things don't work out and then you have your work and personal issues overlapping. Plus, you'd be basically together all the time and that's not usually healthy either. It could work out, but there are many landmines that would need to be carefully navigated. Your feelings for your co-worker aren't something to feel bad about. Even people who have the most solid relationship can be attracted to and develop a crush on someone else. We're human and don't stop noticing people that we connect with. I actually think it's great that you have gone this long and only been interested in being with one person. The question is, how do you feel about your girlfriend right now? Do you still love her and want to be with her? Other than this one issue, is everything else okay? And would losing her be with the "freedom" of pursuing someone else? It sounds like you need to talk with your girlfriend. Express that you feel like you've apart and would like to share more of each others interests. If you've been together this long, it's worth it to try to work things out. Also, a couple doesn't have to be interested in each other's jobs, as long as they are willing to listen to each other. I know by best friend has no interest in accounting work, but she is always willing to listen to how my day went and hear me vent frustrations because she cares about me and takes an interest in how I am. Likewise, I have little interest in a fashion or reality show she watched, but it's important to her so I listen. The same applies even more in a relationship. It's about being together and showing you care for the other person. As long as you have enough in common, you don't need to have everything in common.
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