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  1. Hey, I just wanted to share my thoughts. I'm your age (just turned 30). I 110% am sympathetic to your anxieties! This past like 4~ months for me were anxiety-ridden hell after a bad experience with a woman. It took medication and a lot of therapy to get on the other side of it. I'm not 100%, but I'm doing a lot better. I just wanted to tell you that, you are NOT alone. Be compassionate to yourself and understand what it happening. And understand that your anxieties, that is not your true self. Especially OCD if you are dealing with that (I have minor OCD symptoms that intertwine with the anxit
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  2. I originally told myself I was staying for the children. It was a partly a lie. Part of me thought is was the right thing to do. Breaking up a family is painful. Mostly, I was stayed because I was a coward. After much consideration and a health dose of therapy, I decided to leave for the kids. Their parents were bad examples of how two people should treat each other. More over, I didn't want my sons to think that's the way a husband should treat his wife and that a wife would just sit there and tolerate it. I wanted them to witness what a confident woman would do when facing challenge
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  3. Yes, most definitely. There is grief post breakup with relationships and friendships because you remember the good times and that part hurts. Then reality sets in and you vividly remember personality and character differences, different values and incompatibility which caused the relationship (or friendship) to sour. Once you remember the logic behind the breakup, grief turns into relief and "good riddance!"
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  4. Because romantic love is sharing the innermost recesses of your heart, mind, soul and body with another person and having them do the same in return, you need to have the space available in those areas of your life in order to do so. If those spaces are still inordinately filled with thoughts and feelings for someone from your past, then there simply isn't enough space for someone new to fit there. But there will be if you're willing to give yourself time. Time to take stock in yourself, your feelings and your readiness to give of yourself in a manner that will make that love possible. All
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  5. Ok google "problem drinkers". You are both in denial and both think alcohol is not a problem. Yet...you are nagging and trying to control his drinking and claim it has a negative impact on the relationship. If you want to use semantics to stay in the relationship then try educating yourself on 'problem drinkers', if you can't handle the idea that you are with someone who has an issue with alcohol. If you think his drinking level is normal then consider the relationship is crumbling due to incompatibility. That may help you wrap your head around things. Educate yourself: https://al-an
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  6. It also comes across that you earn big money. You go large each time, surprise weekends away, dinners out all the time etc She has said to go on a cheaper date or asked to pay. This tells me while she is willing to accept you paying, it is at some level making her uncomfortable. Relationships are about communication, and obviously this is not happening well so far. Perhaps, time to start?
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