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  1. OP abusers will never leave you alone until YOU put a hard stop to it. They aren't sorry, they don't change ever. The contact and you actually answering the phone is a power play for him. He still has power over you in his mind every single time you respond, every single time you humor his bs "I'm sorry" he is getting off on duping you. He already knows that you are weak and vulnerable to abuse, someone who can be manipulated. Yes, you walked away, but he also knows that eventually you'll have a weak moment and he can pull you right back into more abuse, so he keeps contacting you thinking tha
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  2. The best answer is here: https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=548602&p=6975445&viewfull=1#post6975445 I don`t care he has cancer. I don`t care if he doesn`t have cancer. I also don`t care about your feelings or his right now. I care for the simple truth of how good he is at what he is doing. After all he did, he still got you thinking about him, caring about him, answering his calls, crying about him. I don`t judge you, believe me. But you have to wake up girl. I mean right now please. I said that I don`t care about your feelings because your feelings and your security a
    2 points
  3. I read your past thread and feel so much for you. 😔 He was a monster and you are finally free from this. You need to block this guy, you owe him nothing. Don't get sucked back in, please stay far away. Answering his calls only shows u have a soft spot for him. You deserve to feel safe.
    1 point
  4. He's trying to get that emotional pull and hook out of you. Don't succumb to his manipulating trick even though he's telling the truth about his cancer. You need to cease all contact with your ex-bf once and for and all. I agree with others regarding blocking and deleting. You can ghost him, too. However, if you wish to remain tactful,tell him gently but firmly that while you're very sorry to hear of his diagnosis, it's time to go your separate ways PERMANENTLY. Then end your relationship and correspondence with him immediately. As long as you continue to revert to your previous tox
    1 point
  5. Your poor gf. You told her and she laughed... she must really trust you and the relationship. Believe me, when I say this, that is a credit to her, not you. I find what you're doing despicable. The insecurity you are creating in your gf, will be a challenge for her for a long time. Stop being selfish. Don't cheat and if you don't want to be a relationship with your gf, then end it. Don't make it about the other woman. Be an adult. Don't use people satisfy your own ego.
    1 point
  6. Remember, he had it in him to tell you directly that he didnt want to date. You know he's capable of telling it like it is. Expect no less than him to be equally direct about his intentions for contacting you now, especially after you having asked him not to. Do you know for sure he's been single all this time? Is it possible he really met someone else and it didnt work out? I may be wrong but at the same time I wouldnt be surprised.
    1 point
  7. I still feel there is a deeper issue, but at least you got what you wanted in the end. It only took getting twisted out of shape, sulking, and the threat of ignoring him and he jumped in to rescue. Did you end up getting him a card in the end?
    1 point
  8. You can scream to the heavens you’re healed and over him but your quoted post ‘need to get this off my chest’ and this post scream the opposite. The fact that you not only allow your abuser to call you twice a year but answer the phone... Let’s not pretend. I was in an abusive relationship as well so I completely get what a mindf*ck it is and how emotionally damaging it is, I share a child with this man so I forgave him, recognized my own dysfunction and have moved forward. Want to know how I know I’ve moved forward? If he told me he was dying of cancer, beyond feeling grief for my
    1 point
  9. Famous last words, right here--this whole thing--of just about anyone who had an affair, ever. This is how it goes, every time. You can juggle around the pronouns but it's all the same: Her husband doesn't make her happy. My girlfriend and I are having problems. We know we shouldn't, and we both don't want to, but..... .....It just happened. If you read through some of the infidelity threads, just the original post, you'll see the same story. It's amazing how people trip themselves into the same trap over and over again when there are so many alternatives and resources out there.
    1 point
  10. So, you got the impression nothing was going to happen, decided not to buy him anything - or at least a card or note, which you claim is so important, then you kick up such a fuss about him not being thoughtful enough to do something for you. That's entitled behaviour. To buy him stuff and expect him to do things in return because of that is transactional, and entitled also. I do not think you understand love, as this entire thread is a reaction to a perceived slight against you need to feel special to him, which is a result of an infatuation at the beginning of the relationship. The in
    1 point
  11. It just doesn't sound like you two are compatible. You don't agree with her choices, which trigger your trust issues, so there really isn't much to salvage here once the trust has gone out the window. In terms of the stripper, some people might consider this a deal breaker, some not. What matters here is that you're both on the same page, which clearly you're not. The one thing I do take issue with though is you providing input on her divorce settlement. You'll never truly know what happened between her and her ex-husband, what she had to endure during the marriage, and what facto
    1 point
  12. Personally, I’d chill with diagnosing people you hardly know. Leave that to the professionals, you know? If you’re dating someone who makes you anxious and insecure in your own skin—well, that’s a fine reason to call it a bad match. What good comes from turning it into an academic dissertation?
    1 point
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