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I usually advice against willingly getting into long distance situations regardless if it's casual or serious. Everytime I got into something with someone living far away I got burned. We overinvest and fill in the gaps of the long distance relationship/courtship with our fantasies and expectations and it rarely goes well. I'd just delete him and block so that you can move on.

Nman, let me give you the benefit of many years. She's in high school. You're going away to college. There is almost zero chance that she will be the one you're going to spend your life with. When you get to college, your life is going to change dramatically. And in your absence, this little partying high school girl will not sit by the phone and pine away for you. My advice to you is to enjoy your college experience. Meet new people, and leave behind your high school days.

When you had a chance to talk to her face to face why didn't you go over and chat her up and see how into chatting you back she was? I'm sad that most young people these days will only pursue if its behind some type of electronic screen. Maybe she flaked on the day of the dates because she doesn't know you other then the words you typed to her?

Sorry, double post.

EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. Below is a link to more info. https://tavistockandportman.nhs.uk/care-and-treatment/treatments/eye-movement-desensitization-and-reprocessing-emdr/ I have been in normal therapy for over a year and still am due to remaining anxiety but EMDR got rid of my PTSD, DPDR and depression in 4 weeks. Here is a video example. It really does work.

He has a life besides you, so why don't you have a life besides him? Get one, because when you make one person the sole center of your universe, it's smothering to him and unhealthy for you. He texted more before because everything is overblown in the first throes of a new relationship. Make texting less important in your own world. Let him make the first effort of the day and then reply. Then leave it alone. Study. Enjoy your solo time pampering yourself, cooking, volunteering. Spend time with a girlfriend. I read that when you interrupt someone when they are working or studying, it t

I applied for the job I'm currently in 5 times. I got 4 rejections, one of them only about 6 weeks ago. The one 6 weeks ago was a very loud "NO!!!" But I kept trying and I finally got the job. One "no" doesn't mean no forever. It often means "not yet". Good for you for putting yourself out there. That took courage!!

Its not about "judging them on their past" but rather keeping YOUR best interests in mind. You have only dated him a month and you don't even know him yet. Most scammers are very good at being "the best" during the honeymoon period. My final advice: keep your heart off your sleeve, your eyes open and make sure words and actions match.

I agree 5 months is a long time. Electronic correspondence is different than being with someone in person. Life and relationships aren't about 24 / 7 constant, endless amounts of excitement. There are lulls and yes, it gets boring. However, couples learn to do their own thing even when they're together. You don't have to be stuck like glue to him all the time. And, mature men know how to think and converse with women intelligently. I think it's lack of maturity on his part if he gets bored and tired by 6 or 7pm. This is not the sign of a mature man. Inside his brain, he's still

I agree with other posters...you are totally friend zoned. She just doesn't want to lose her emotional t#$%0&. I would never buy the "I need time, it just takes time, give it time" etc. Pull back buddy....don't offer her anything. Your energy is better spent on someone else.

He's leading a double life whether he is bi, on the down low, etc. You are coming across this on his devices, he's not volunteering any info. Just acting "confused" when confronted and offering lame excuses such as that is how he deals with stress. This means you know a fraction of what is really happening. Move back home, end this and get to a clinic for STD testing including syphilis, hiv and hepatitis b and c. Protect yourself and educate yourself:https://www.cdc.gov/msmhealth/STD.htm