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  1. Why is My Boyfriend Ignoring Me? We've all been there—wondering why the person we care about the most is suddenly giving us the cold shoulder. This particular variety of romantic vexation seems to have plagued many. "Why is my boyfriend ignoring me?" you may wonder. Well, you're not alone, and the path to understanding and resolution might just be a few steps away. Being ignored can feel confusing and hurtful. But before you jump to conclusions or let your imagination run wild, it's crucial to dig a little deeper. This guide aims to provide you with a comprehensive view of the issue, complete with actionable steps. Not only will we explore what might be going on in his head, but we'll also examine what you can do to bridge the communication gap. The conundrum of a boyfriend ignoring his partner isn't necessarily new, but experts have varying opinions on the subject. According to relationship psychologist Dr. John Gottman, the act of ignoring or 'stonewalling' is one of the 'Four Horsemen' that can predict the end of a relationship. That being said, it's essential to act rather than dwell in confusion. Let's consider a more optimistic angle. Often, the problem might not be as severe as it seems. Temporary silence could be due to stress, work overload, or even a simple misunderstanding. But it could also be indicative of deeper issues within the relationship, which we'll explore later. Feelings of neglect can be emotionally draining, but the good news is you don't have to navigate this maze alone. We've outlined 7 steps to help you decode the silence, unearth hidden issues, and chart a path forward. Let's get started! Before you proceed, please note that every relationship is unique. The advice given here should be adapted to fit the specific dynamics of your own relationship. For complicated cases, it's always good to seek professional help. Step 1: Reflect on the Situation The first step in dealing with a boyfriend ignoring you is to take a step back and reflect on the situation. The immediacy of emotional distress might cloud your judgment and prevent you from seeing things clearly. Give yourself permission to pause and think. Has there been a particular event or argument that triggered this silent treatment? Or did the ignoring happen out of the blue? Understanding the context is crucial for figuring out your next move. Furthermore, identifying a specific cause may help you realize whether the issue lies within the relationship or if it's something external affecting your boyfriend. During this reflection period, try to keep a journal. Yes, it might sound old-school, but putting your thoughts into words can bring clarity and relieve emotional stress. You'll also have something to refer back to when you're assessing how the situation evolves. While you're at it, remember to be honest with yourself. Are you part of the problem? Could you have contributed to this situation in any way? Sometimes, acknowledging your part in a disagreement can be a huge step toward resolving it. Self-reflection is more than just an exercise in contemplation; it's a strategic move. By understanding the situation deeply, you're better equipped to approach your boyfriend for a conversation later. This is not about assigning blame but understanding the dynamics at play. Lastly, don't rush this process. The temptation to reach a quick solution can be strong, especially when you're eager to resume normal communication. But quick fixes rarely solve deeper issues. So, take the time you need to fully grasp what's happening. Step 2: Assess the Communication Dynamic The next critical step in addressing the issue of your boyfriend ignoring you is to assess the communication dynamic between the two of you. Every relationship has a unique way of exchanging thoughts, feelings, and information. Some couples communicate effortlessly, while others may find it a bit more challenging. A healthy relationship is characterized by open, honest, and timely communication. However, if your boyfriend is ignoring you, it may signify that this dynamic has been compromised. Are you the one who usually initiates conversations? Or has he always been the one to reach out, and this silence is an abrupt change? One thing to ponder is if the quality of your conversations had been dwindling before he started ignoring you. Were you two having more arguments? Was there a lack of emotional connection? Sometimes the act of being ignored is the culmination of several smaller issues that were not adequately addressed. Research supports the idea that communication is vital. According to a study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family, poor communication is one of the top reasons for relationship dissatisfaction. So, it's worth investing time and effort into understanding this aspect of your relationship. When assessing this dynamic, take into account both verbal and non-verbal cues. Did he stop saying 'I love you' as frequently? Are his text messages short and unemotional? Sometimes, it's not just the words but the unspoken signals that can provide insight into what's really going on. If you find that there's a severe breakdown in communication, don't despair. It might require work and maybe even professional help, but improvement is usually possible. Knowing the state of your communication landscape will provide you with the tools you need to approach the problem more efficiently. Step 3: Try Non-Verbal Communication When words fail, body language and actions can often succeed in delivering the message. Trying non-verbal communication could be a beneficial next step if your boyfriend is ignoring you. In many cases, what we can't convey through speech, we can often transmit through actions. Leave a thoughtful note for him, make his favorite meal, or engage in physical touch like a hug or a comforting pat. These gestures can be powerful in expressing love, concern, and the desire to fix things. Remember, communication isn't just about talking; it's about connecting. Non-verbal cues can also give you an idea about his state of mind. Is he avoiding eye contact? Is his body turned away from you when you're in the same room? These signs can help you gauge how deeply the issue may be rooted and what kind of approach may be effective. In a study led by Dr. Albert Mehrabian, it was found that 93% of communication effectiveness is determined by nonverbal cues. Hence, neglecting this form of communication would be doing your relationship a disservice. However, a word of caution: non-verbal cues are often open to interpretation and can be misunderstood. Always couple your actions with a follow-up conversation to ensure that the message hasn't been misread. The point here is not to replace verbal communication entirely but to supplement it in meaningful ways. Think of non-verbal communication as a bridge that can lead to verbal dialogue. Actions can sometimes thaw the ice and pave the way for a more comfortable, honest conversation about why your boyfriend has been ignoring you. Step 4: Involve Mutual Friends There's a saying that "it takes a village," and sometimes resolving relationship issues is a team effort. If your attempts at communication have failed and you're still in the dark about why your boyfriend is ignoring you, involving a trusted mutual friend might help. Friends often have a different perspective on situations and might offer insights that you hadn't considered. They can also serve as neutral mediators in facilitating a conversation between you and your boyfriend. But choose wisely; you'll want to involve someone who can be impartial and genuinely wants the best for both of you. Before you approach a friend for help, be sure both you and your boyfriend are comfortable with involving a third party. Some people regard relationship issues as private matters and might not appreciate external interference. Always respect your boyfriend's comfort zone, especially when it comes to personal matters. When you do pick a friend to help, brief them on the situation but avoid painting your boyfriend in a negative light. The goal here is constructive mediation, not creating sides for people to pick. Emphasize that you're seeking to understand, resolve the issue, and better the relationship. There can be risks in involving mutual friends, such as potential bias or the situation becoming awkward. However, many people find that a trusted mutual friend's involvement can serve as a catalyst for resolution, providing a fresh set of eyes on what might seem like an insurmountable problem. Remember, your relationship is ultimately between you and your boyfriend. A friend can help facilitate communication, but the final resolution needs to come from the two of you. Step 5: Use the 'Time-Out' Strategy So, you've tried talking, non-verbal communication, and even enlisted the help of friends, but nothing seems to work. It's time for a tactical retreat. Sometimes, a step back can offer fresh perspectives that a step forward never could. This is where the 'Time-Out' strategy comes in handy. Everyone needs space to think, breathe, and evaluate. Your boyfriend ignoring you could be a manifestation of his need for personal space. You need it too, especially if you're feeling emotionally drained from trying to fix the issue. During this time, focus on yourself. Revisit your hobbies, hang out with other loved ones, or simply take some alone time to relax. Self-improvement and self-love are never wasted efforts. A University of Toronto study found that individual well-being and personal growth have a positive impact on romantic relationships. You'll likely come back to the table with newfound insights and emotional resilience. Set a specific period for this 'Time-Out,' maybe a few days or a week, and communicate this to your boyfriend if possible. This ensures that the pause doesn't become a permanent stop. You're taking a break to reassess, not to break up. Be prepared for the outcomes, though. This pause can lead to different conclusions. You might realize the relationship is worth fighting for, or you may see that it's time to move on. Either way, it will offer clarity. It's crucial to respect this period of silence and not to break it unless it's absolutely necessary. Giving each other the gift of time and space could be what your relationship needs to hit the reset button. Step 6: Seek Professional Advice If you've tried all of the above and are still grappling with your boyfriend ignoring you, it might be time to consider professional help. Therapists and counselors are trained to dissect the complexities of human emotions and relationships. They can serve as a neutral third party, helping you both communicate more effectively. Many people hesitate to take this step, often viewing it as an admission of failure or a last resort. However, seeking professional advice can be one of the most proactive things you can do for your relationship. A study published in the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology found that couples who sought therapy had relationships that lasted significantly longer than those who didn't. Therapy offers a confidential space to express yourselves and explore issues with guided expertise. Sometimes the act of scheduling a session can serve as a wake-up call for both parties, emphasizing the seriousness of the situation. There are various types of couple's therapy, so do your research and find the one that suits you best. Also, be prepared for individual sessions as these can offer valuable insights into your personal contributions to the relationship dynamics. The goal here isn't to get your boyfriend to stop ignoring you instantly. Therapy is a process that requires time, effort, and willingness from both parties. But it's a step towards understanding, healing, and growing together. Remember, both of you need to be open to the idea of therapy for it to be effective. Forcing an unwilling partner to attend sessions is likely to be counterproductive. Step 7: Evaluate the Relationship You've tried communicating, you've given each other space, and you may have even sought professional advice. Now comes the hard part—evaluating the relationship as a whole. Is your boyfriend ignoring you an isolated incident, or is it a symptom of deeper, unresolved issues? This is where you take stock. Consider the good times, the bad, and everything in between. What has this relationship brought into your life? Joy, happiness, and growth? Or stress, neglect, and a dwindling sense of self-worth? This isn't just about him ignoring you; it's about how you both contribute to the relationship and what you both get out of it. Also consider the context. Have external pressures like work stress, family issues, or health concerns been impacting your relationship? Sometimes, life throws curveballs that we don't handle well, and our relationships bear the brunt. Knowing this can offer a clearer picture of where you stand. It's crucial to evaluate not just the emotional but also the practical aspects. Are your life goals compatible? Do you share the same values? Can you both compromise and adapt to make the relationship work? For some, this evaluation can lead to a renewed commitment to work through the issues together. For others, it may be a realization that the relationship has run its course. Whatever the outcome, the key is to arrive at a mutual understanding and move forward accordingly. This step can be emotionally challenging, but it's critical. The aim is to gain a panoramic view of your relationship, so you're making decisions based on comprehensive understanding rather than momentary emotions. What NOT to Do When Your Boyfriend is Ignoring You It's natural to want to solve the problem immediately when you feel like your boyfriend is ignoring you. However, some strategies may backfire, worsening the situation. What should you avoid at all costs? First and foremost, avoid playing games. You know, the classic 'ignore him to make him miss you' approach. While this tactic might provide short-term satisfaction, it often leads to long-term issues. A study from the journal "Communication Monographs" suggests that manipulative tactics can erode trust and satisfaction in relationships. Also, don't spam him with messages or calls. Bombarding him with communication will likely push him further away. And avoid public confrontations or airing dirty laundry on social media. This only serves to exacerbate tensions and erode trust between you two. Resist the urge to involve his family unnecessarily or resort to ultimatums. These are nuclear options that should only be considered in dire circumstances, not because your texts are going unanswered for a day or two. Another critical mistake is ignoring your own needs and boundaries just to keep the peace. Compromising on your own values or letting go of your self-respect will not improve the relationship in the long run. Last but not least, don't jump to drastic decisions like breaking up without first going through a comprehensive evaluation process, which we've discussed earlier. Emotional decisions are often regretted later. If you steer clear of these pitfalls, you are already halfway to navigating this tricky situation more successfully. Remember, your aim is constructive resolution, not destructive escalation. Uncover the Hidden Issues: Emotional Triggers and Personality Types Not all silence is created equal. Sometimes, what seems like a simple issue of your boyfriend ignoring you can have deeper emotional or psychological roots. Understanding the underlying factors can be pivotal in resolving the issue. Start by looking at emotional triggers. Have there been events or discussions that might have triggered an emotional retreat? Are there recurring issues that provoke the same reaction? Understanding these can help you address the core problem instead of just treating the symptom. Personality types also play a role. Introverts, for example, may need more space and alone time compared to extroverts. Understanding each other's Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) can offer insights into how each of you copes with stress, conflict, and emotional issues. A professional can often help you identify these triggers and personality compatibilities, providing tailored advice based on your particular situation. Sometimes, knowing that your partner's silence isn't about you but about how they process emotions can be a game-changer. Be open to the possibility that the issues may also involve mental health challenges like anxiety or depression. If this is the case, the approach should be even more sensitive and might necessitate medical advice. Remember, understanding each other at this deep level is an ongoing process, but it's crucial for the health and longevity of your relationship. It helps in diffusing future situations where your boyfriend may be ignoring you. The Role of Digital Communication: How Technology Affects Silence In this digital age, the realm of communication isn't limited to face-to-face interactions; it extends to texts, emails, and social media. And guess what? This technological labyrinth can either alleviate or exacerbate the feeling that your boyfriend is ignoring you. Read receipts, last-seen timestamps, and active status indicators can feed into your anxiety. Knowing he's seen your message but hasn't replied can be excruciating. However, digital communication has its own set of norms and misunderstandings. For example, some people read messages and plan to respond later but forget. Also, the emotional nuances of face-to-face communication often get lost in digital interactions. A text message doesn't carry tone, facial expressions, or body language, often leading to misinterpretations. Researchers at UCLA noted that up to 93% of communication effectiveness is determined by nonverbal cues, something sorely missing in text messages. Consider having important discussions in person or via a voice or video call. Digital media is useful for many things, but for critical emotional negotiations, it often falls short. However, technology isn't all bad. Apps for couples to improve communication are on the rise, offering interactive ways to build emotional intimacy. Tools like 'OurRelationship' have been shown to improve relationship satisfaction according to a study published in the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology. If you find that the digital realm is adding to your concerns about your boyfriend ignoring you, it might be wise to shift significant conversations to a more personal setting. Balancing the digital and the personal can be a tightrope walk but it's essential for a balanced relationship. The Anatomy of an Apology: Making it Right When the issue that led to your boyfriend ignoring you gets resolved, an apology often follows. But what makes an apology effective? According to Dr. Gary Chapman, author of "The Five Languages of Apology," the key elements include expressing regret, accepting responsibility, and making restitution. Before you apologize or expect an apology, make sure you both understand what exactly went wrong. Vagueness won't help. Saying, "I'm sorry you feel that way," won't cut it either. An effective apology addresses the specific behavior and its impact. Remember, apologies aren't just about saying "I'm sorry." They also involve showing that you mean it. This could be through changing the offending behavior, or through actions that prove your commitment to not making the same mistake. On the flip side, be prepared to accept an apology gracefully. Holding grudges or staying angry defeats the purpose of the apology. Accept it, but also communicate what steps can help avoid the issue in the future. Restitution is another significant aspect. If trust was broken, what steps will you both take to rebuild it? Sometimes, saying sorry is just the start; you have to walk the talk to fully restore the relationship. When it comes to apologizing, timing and setting also matter. Choose a moment when both of you are calm and can focus on the conversation. This is not a chat to squeeze in during a commercial break while watching TV! How to Move Forward: Plan for a Healthier Relationship Once the air is cleared, it's crucial to have a game plan for moving forward. Resolving the issue of your boyfriend ignoring you shouldn't be where the work ends; it's actually where it begins. Developing better communication habits is key. You might consider setting aside a regular 'relationship check-in' where you both discuss your feelings openly. The idea is to establish a safe space for transparent communication. Look into other resources like couple's therapy or relationship seminars. According to a report from the American Psychological Association, couples therapy improves relationships for 75% of participants. Don't forget to work on individual growth as well. Sometimes, the best way to improve a relationship is to become better individuals first. Whether it's emotional intelligence, stress management, or conflict resolution skills, self-improvement has a direct impact on relationship health. Also, review your emotional boundaries. Are they realistic? Are they clearly communicated? Knowing where each other's boundaries lie can prevent a lot of unnecessary drama. Finally, don't ignore the fun factor! Relationships aren't just about resolving problems. Make sure to inject some joy and laughter as well. A shared hobby or mutual interest can go a long way in keeping the spark alive. Conclusion: Lessons Learned and Next Steps So, what can we take away from this complex issue of a boyfriend ignoring you? The takeaway is that it's usually not a straightforward issue. It often involves multiple layers of emotional, psychological, and even technological factors. It's crucial to address the issue head-on, but also to be aware of potential pitfalls. You've learned about self-reflection, communication dynamics, and the dangerous traps to avoid. You've also gained insights into emotional triggers, digital communication, and the anatomy of an effective apology. But remember, each relationship is unique. What works for one couple may not work for another. The essential thing is to communicate, respect each other's boundaries, and continue growing both individually and as a couple. This isn't a one-off fix but a continuous process. Use this experience as a stepping stone to building a healthier, more resilient relationship. As you move forward, keep seeking knowledge and advice. Whether it's from credible books, professional advice, or trusted friends and family, never stop learning and growing. Your relationship will thank you for it. Good luck and may your future be filled with understanding, love, and open communication.
  2. Alrighty well quite a while ago I came on here and wrote a few poem-type things that were really happy and everything was going great. For some reason I've been having quite a few issues lately, not with anyone else really just within myself... I decided to write down how I feel so this is what I came up with. It was longer then I thought, but you never really know how these things will turn out... I appreciate any and all feedback, whether it be constructive criticism or just a reflection. Without further ado, here it is: Everyone else believes it. Everyone thinks they see. Everyone else believes it. Everyone else but not me. I stand on the stage of the world, And as the cutain rises I gasp. I reach for a spotlight to claim, But they all slip away from my grasp. I sit in the dark and I ponder, why somebody else stole the show. My mind starts to race and I curse at myself Why them and not me? I don't know. Perhaps it was flaws in my singing, a few little notes out of key. Perhaps I was just bad at dancing, and they were all laughing at me. I sit and I think and I question, too occupied to notice or realise That as I sit in darkness and question myself, Chances are passing before my eyes. Then I notice too late and the questioning stays A viscous cycle which seems without end. I sit and I wait and I think and I curse Not budging not willing to bend. I search inside for answers Ingnoring every kind-hearted hand. Inside I question if the moment in light is even worth starting to stand Because the moments I feel confident And rise to reach out for the light The times that I fail settle into my head and the failures just fill me with fright. My mind ignores the victories, the losses fill my heart I don't even stand as often stopping myself before I start. Every drip of self doubt is another piece of hay upon the pile on my back which broke along the way. Everyone calls out to me "Don't give up keep trying" 'What use is it?' I answer before breaking down and crying. They tell me all these stories all these things that I could do. They tell me tales of happy endings and how to make them come true. They try and try to show me but I still just cannot see. I sit alone in darkness and I cannot believe in me.
  3. Dear roommate, Here I am, sitting no more than 10 feet away from you, but it might as well be 10,000 miles. You'll probably never read this, or even come to know how deeply I have fallen in love with you, but alas that seems to be the fate of romantics the world 'round. No, I have no grand illusions about what might be hidden underneath your confident yet gentle facade. Everyone has their dark side, their mysterious past full of regrets and unrealized dreams. We all have that voice that reminds us that life is hard, that pain is constant, that it is easier to be cynical than hopeful, no matter how hard we try to ignore it. I'm sure that you are well-acquainted with your own doubting, pessimistic self. I'm sure that she manifests herself in the dead of night when feelings of fear and loneliness are at the forefront of your mind, when the world takes on a more sinister demeanor, when hope becomes that which is reserved for the fools of the universe. I have no doubt that you sometimes find yourself identifying with this voice, listening to her every word and pause, rudely ignoring the heroine of optimism as she lies dormant in the darkest recesses of your consciousness, desperately trying to wake herself from a slumber so deep. Of these things I am sure. But I am here, I have always been here, and despite all sh*tty things I do I would like to think that when the chips are down I would always be there to pick you up, dust you off, start again from scratch, over and over again. I know that our lives are swirling maelstroms of chaos, but at the end of the day, despite all evidence which would seem to indicate that romance died long ago, I believe in love. I have to believe in us, even if we never come to fruition. I have borne witness to hopelessness, despair, agony and frustration. With these things I am well acquainted. But I choose you instead. You, who represent all that is good about the female sex, whose laugh lights up my day more than you will probably ever know. You, who takes long showers after jogging and makes legendary cappuccino. You are flawed and human more than I will probably ever know. But I love you. I love every part of you. The you who gets angry when our wireless internet disconnects, the you who laughs at my stupid jokes even though they're not funny, the you who considers me a good friend. And if the only way to show you how deeply I love you is to let you go, then that's what I will do. But I am always here. I have always been here. You make our place our home. -S
  4. Stalemate Hypocrisy and disaster Slither underlining through the board, Gather spikes with their spawn And remain concealed to the pieces above. Yet those figures who live caught up in light, Who lay hidden under a blanket of lies; That safety of ignorance, Glide further away from common sight. These characters eyes lock once, Impacting each with a different stance, And the years withdrawn commence. One moves forward One moves back One moves right One moves left One moves bent One moves straight. Yet when finally they collide. Nothing occurs, But confusion begins to creep inside. One moves forward One moves back One moves right One moves left One moves bent One moves straight. Finally I push forward, But you pull back...... Till we hit that grey area, Stalemate. That ever consuming abyss, Which disbanded said fight, But made way for another era, Another learnt chapter in life. The futility of us.
  5. Here are some paintings I've been working on lately. Some finished, some in progress. (In fact some of them may look familiar, because I posted them in prog. before.) And, as always, any smarmy PMs I get will be trashed and you will be placed on my ignore list. Constructive criticism welcome, imature comments are not. FINISHED: image removed image removed IN PORGRESS: image removed image removed I saved this one for last because I am open to suggestions about it. I'm trying to comw up with a way to make her look dead without being too over the top and tactless about it. By her I mean the one on top. Yea, since neither of them have faces yet it might not be that obvious who I mean.) Till next time.
  6. My girlfriend of 18 months broke up with me about a week ago. She said that she needs time and space to figure out how she feels and that she just wants to be friends for now. Well we had something like this happen before and she went away for a few days and came back and everything was good but this time it feels a lot different. I'm trying very hard to give her the space she wants but it's hard to not talk to her and stuff. She said she misses me sometimes and there is a channce her and I will get back together but I dont know how i should go about giving her the space she wants. I IM her still and call her once and a while and she said that that is fine but I get the feeling she only talks to me to be nice. I decided to leave for the summer because it will be easier for me to give her the space she wants being almost 1000 miles away rather than four. I just dont know what i should do. People keep telling me to ignore her and what not and I have been trying to but I really want to be with her again and I'm afraid that if I ignore her she'll think I dont care and she wont want to try again, and I cant have that. She said she isnt looking to get involved in another relationship but she cant promise she wont. So anyone out there that has gone through this (I'm sure there are many of you) can you please tell me what it is that i should and should not do given my situation? any help would be highly appreciated. I just cant lose her.
  7. So familiar, too familiar I hear whispers in my head Welcoming smile I've never seen Mind quicker than the eye Illusion Doubts grow in numbers They launch their attack Reinforcements to my aid Declare how much you care Illusion Steep drop warning sign I ignore the guiding truth Preferring my fabrication Avoiding certain pain Illusion Falling hurts when I land Eating handfuls of reality dust I'm thirsty for real love No fairy tale can give Resolution
  8. I am lonely but not alone unkempt, my hair short but long clean but messy my room is a disaster papers are scattered but i don't care I slide the clutter on my bed to make room to sleep I sleep on one side of a two sided bed live one side of a two sided life I close the curtains to shut out the sun I turn on fans because I'm too hot I put more blankets on because I'm too cold People worry because they don't see me but then ignore me when they do. I get phone calls when people want something and voice mail's when I call My mind it tends to wander to the places it shouldn't roam the loneliest place I have found is where I dwell the most So I packed my bags to travel except there were no bags to see because how can I run from something when it lives inside of me..
  9. So I was listening to a song, one that my last love and I liked, and I felt I wanted to write about the night I was sure I was in love with her, and got turned down =/, its a song by Kate Nash called Birds. (I know I'm a girl lol). This isnt much of a love poem but more of that desperation, and sadness =/ lol. Love and War We were walking under moonlight You mean the world to me I say with a smile, and I ponder a second to see what she may think She frowns, You really shouldn't she says, apathetic I am pathetic I am a soldier, tripping over wire, dodging shells of her attack I love her. I stammer, stuttering, my words tripping over wire I, uh.. Well its like, you..you are the only person who can make me nervous when I see you, talk to you...but uh, make me calm when I do talk, I love you ya know? Oh? she frowns I smile, confident, a shield, ignoring her, the mortars, the knowledge, common sense retreat. retreat. We continue our conversation she wants to go inside, I make her walk another lap, its such a lovely night her perfume is almost toxic, Side by side we walk, I should of just went home, but I'm not one to give up. The air is much too dry, and the sky is much too bright and her eyes shine like emeralds and my pride jumps over the moon I make my stand, the soldier the man, trying to defeat, I sneak for the attack but she counters with What about him? of course I am Jealous, I exclaim All I want is to understand you All I want is to understand me to she says I smile, an asinine smile a fake smile a defeated smile So we walk back to her house goodbyes, and truths You cant love me I wont let you. I wont tell you how I feel You don't love me Your lying You can't. I see how it hurts you I'm fine I say absorbing defeat my shields are down I'm crashing, I'm crashing. I walk home alone. I'm exiled a soldier no more I can't love now I couldn't feel then no one can understand no one can comprehend how I felt so I walk alone and I hear this song in my head I cursed this song I cursed her I cried I died I revived and I lied when I said I was fine all I wanted was for you to understand but I never lied when I said I was in love with you.
  10. well i was supposed to have a date tonight. i met this guy through myspace but never actually met him in person. we have had this date planned for a few days and about 7 hours ago he instant messaged me as soon as I got online and said he was going to ride his motorcycle for awhile and wanted to let me know the date is still on and he will get ahold of me later. well that was 7 hours ago and i havent heard from him and its getting late. i know he was home like an hour and a half ago because he was signed on to myspace. i called him but he didnt pick up and hasnt called me back. i dont understand it at all....we have been talking for the past few weeks and he is always the one that initiates contact. he will call me, instant message me, send me messages through myspace. he has said he cant wait to see me. and hes 25 years old which is 5 years older than me i figured he would be mature enough by now to not stand someone up. he could of at least made up some excuse why he couldnt hang out instead of just ignoring me and leaving me hanging. my best friend said she has had the same thing happen to her a few times before...does anyone have any ideas why guys do this??? whats his deal??
  11. Loves Lost. Loves can grow and some will fade against the curve along the grain I will pull myself from death I will long to be myself I wont be your mattress to lie on, lay on, ignore I wont be your heart cold, tore, and bored I'm not your perfect world I've got flaws like every man But appreciate the human spirit that lies inside us men I wont change for anyone not anymore, for you Appreciate me for who I am or I will forget about you. oh wait, who are you? -------------------- Eternal My love for you is like a spring a flower without a weed it grows and grows so beautiful ever blossoming Eternal is the sunshine that I see over your face the way your eyes they sparkle as I see the clouds fade The sun begins to dry your petals so beautiful they fall but what happens when their all gone your nothing at all, your nothing at all.
  12. I been feeling really ignored lately. I used to think i had good friends and people in my life, but now it seems they don't care. I rarely get phone calls from people anymore, and heck even when I turn to this thing I am lucky when I get one reply back from people. Same thing with emails and stuff, I hardly ever get emails from people.. and its like what the heck is the point on checking my email anymore. It just makes me want to run away, even if that means being homeless for awhile. I mean, like anyones even going to notice if i run away anyways. I don't think I did anything to piss people off but maybe I did. who the hell knows. No one ever tells me anything anyways. I don't want to kill myself, but I really truly do want to leave the country without telling anyone. No one would miss me, and then if I felt lonely at least it would be my own fault I felt lonely, cuz I ran away somewhere where I didn't know anyone. I think I'm going to finish my university degree (I'm done in 4 months), then leave the country, not tell anyone where I'm going, and just disappear. What do u guys think.
  13. I somehow found myself in a poetry class this semester. Could be that it's required for creative writing I'm supposed to do a persona style poem- a poem written from the viewpoint of someone or something else. I sat down and wrote this, no revisions, and thought I'd see if it needs something else. Slow burn Red, raw, aching I'm screaming, and I KNOW you hear me Tepid liquids rush by Vain attempts to placate, to stifle the fire My anger rages on. I KNOW you hear me I know that you feel me. Don't ignore me, you CAN'T ignore me, the source of your discomfort Slow burn, Scarlet, boiling, seething Crying out for attention Only time will relieve you Of my tantrum Of my infection
  14. Thers A Lady Who Asks Question's Why? So She Wear's Her Mask As A Disguise. She Dosnt Want No One To See Her Cry's. So She Hides Behind The Masks So She Could Ignore' And Dose'nt Have To Reply. Thers A Lady Whos Sad On The Outside And As Well As In. So She Wear's Her Mask As A Disguise So No Can See With In. Pain So Deep She Cant Even Speak...she Wears A Mask So No One Can See The Tear Roll Down Her Cheek. Ther's A Lady Asks Question's Why...do You Wear A Mask As A Disguise. She Dosnt Give A Reply....... Thers A Lady Who Walks The Streets @ Night. Wondering Why God Why ? Why Do I Hide Away From My Life? God Dosnt Reply........ Thers A Lady Who Stares @ Her Own Reflection....and Stares...works On Her Expressions. ...the Expression Looking As If She Dosnt Care. She Works On Her Emotion's And That's Her Mask. She Dose It So Much It Starts To Become Her Laugh. The Old Her Is The Thing Of The Past So This Is The Lady Behind The Mask Thers A Kid Walks Up And Ask....why Do You Wear Your Mask And Stay So Stern.......and She Looks And Says. 1 Day You'll Learn. [/b][/color]
  15. You pulled up next to me I'm going to work You're going to work We're both going fast and we're both speeding I'll probably never see you again You'll probably never see me If I had a minute of your time I'd say something witty What would I tell you? What would you tell me? Would you want to know i feel like hell today I'd like to know your story if I may I dont' want people who know me to know I'd rather you know, so badly Somehow I think you'd care a lot more The people around have me on ignore You're just a stranger, as am I to you We both have weights we want the other to have I'll take your weight and you take mine My exit's coming, i dont' have much time How do i trust such a stranger and nobody thats close I know what i'd tell you I saw you driving next to me and I fell in love Here's my exit, goodbye, I pray I pass you again, I love you
  16. I don't understand what is going on here. I slept with this guy last night and all of a sudden i see blood on the condom. Went to the toliets got some tisseu and i was still bleeding. I am not due to come on my period yet. Please help me. Has anyone has this before? Now the guy is ignoring me too i think beacuse of this. Will this put men off? oh and he isn't my boyfriend. thanks
  17. It's exactly two months today Since you walked in the door so late that night I ran to hold you, you pushed me away I knew immediately something wasn't right The lies that ensued hurt more than the crime Deception and dodging insulting me more I knew I'd find truth in a matter of time There it was impossible to ignore I'd moved to another country for you Left a good job, independence behind Given up my life, everything I knew Within six months you'd robbed me blind You left me no choice but to leave in a rush I grabbed what I could, barely enough Now I live in a room, not fancy, not plush While you enjoy the luxury of all my stuff I'll hate you forever for how you treated me I was a very good person, someone to trust Now I'm numb, broke and just completely empty But at least now I can put myself first
  18. Written last year in under 10 minutes by me. It's self explanitory the way things were back then... It is so releaving to write poetry.. I had a good online friend that got me into it...glad she did because it has made me feel better. ****************************************************** HOPES PASSED I stand here on the shore trying to just ignore,but what am I ignoring? I'm deep in thought of what my life is now or what it should of been. A girl for me to love and an airforce pilot she could love back. Thats the thought I hold true and someday I wish I could know you. I open my eyes and soon realize,that it was only a thought,a wish,a dream...My life is lonely and hopes have passed...
  19. The one I've got, it's fine I want want want though Want new, want exciting I'm motivated by the possibilites. Fresh feeling, thrilling endangermant Hard work about to be thrown from window In the name of lust and new distraction Nevertheless it's all looking pretty damn green. The one I've got, it's old But it's solid and full of life It's not going anywhere (good) It's not going anywhere (bad) Having both feels tantalising Thrill of having that new one We could both ignore the old And live and live and live....... our brains out. No no. This isn't going anywhere The guilt will kill us (I mean me obviously, since this is all about my throbbing, lustful, aching......ego). Damn I want to anyway.... But if I didn't feel guilty about it Or know what everyone would say I would've posted this in "relationships". Instead of "poetry".
  20. Noun. The natural physical law by which everything beautiful disappears. Medusa follows Midas as midnight follows morning. So little time we are given. So much poignancy to ignore. Shame on the rainbows the diamonds and the birds for being what I'm almost sure they are. Shame on my eyes for seeing color. Shame on my soul for having need. No one leaves the heart because no one's ever there.
  21. doesn't it make strangers of us all they hardly recognize you now your dropped defense for recompense in what your heart allows to enter and might there be some truth in saying ignorance is bliss it takes a kind of fool to find some magic in a kiss but I have never known a feeling even close to this I have with you so call me fool I went to a supermarket on my lunch break today. I think it was a Vons or something. Ten thousand different items for sale, all colorful and eye-catching in their ten thousand spotless and dust-free corporate-designed disposable containers. But I'm like, no. I just want one thing. I just want an apple. So I go to the produce section and I pick up an apple. But not just any apple. A perfect apple. I cupped it in my hand and it fit like we were made for each other. I took it up to the express lane. Fifteen items or less. One is less than fifteen. So I had my rights. But the lady who rang me up looked at me like I might be crazy. Clearly, nobody else had the same idea. Nobody else had come for just one thing. "I'm not crazy," my eyes shouted back. "I have the perfect apple. I spent forty-five cents and I'm the happiest man in the world. They're all crazy for buying nonfat, cholesterol free, high-fiber, low sugar antibacterial cereal. It's oats. Plain old oats. They're paying through the nose for it, and they bought it because it came in a spotless and dust-free corporate-designed container with red ink on it. And because they didn't want people to think they were crazy for wanting just one thing." I took my apple and we took our leave. doesn't it make strangers of us all they hardly recognize me now a bridge of sighs massed butterflies and feeling I could drown in pleasure and might there be some goof in seeing cooler heads prevail the warmer ones get all the sun and thereby hangs the tale oh, we were so impetuous the night that I unveiled my love for you two little fools mmmmmh two little fools
  22. And I find it really comforting right now, when I've been dumped and am sad. I remembered thinking about it on the bus coming home, and I thought I'd post it here, because it's so beautiful. It's about learning to love yourself again. "Love After Love (Derek Walcott) The time will come when, with elation you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror and each will smile at the other's welcome, and say, sit here. Eat. You will love again the stranger who was your self. Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart to itself, to the stranger who has loved you all your life, whom you ignored for another, who knows you by heart. Take down the love letters from the bookshelf, the photographs, the desperate notes, peel your own image from the mirror. Sit. Feast on your life." I love these lines: You will love again the stranger who was your self. Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart to itself, to the stranger who has loved you Just thought I'd post it here because it is so beautiful and moving, and really comforting.
  23. I know you love me but, your like my enemy. Sometimes we battle on these grounds of my home my mother pounds the door for the sounds to stop but our pains and hate for each other drowns out her wishes and intermissions. Oh, i love you too but, only now as my misstress you not worth the misses, the kisses, me to listen, or to even be my misses. Not even the memories could save us. This damn pride is enslaveing us but, I cant get enough of you your my only one, your my drug your hugs are like heroin, your smell's cocaine, your sex, taste. Oh its extasy but, like that very tumor you've grown on me and I need you cut away from me. Despratly. The wars we go through the only cassualties, me or you. I've even asked john legend, musiq, or even trey songs what to do. john said "Take it slow." musiq said "Dont change, ask her how to love." trey said "Y'all just gotta make it strive for what was." But I cant wait. But John and Trey said "when all else fails just cheat." Then Musiq looked at the dishonesty as dishonorable and said he disagrees then a shuffled argument aranged between the three. So I said stop without yall im pressing forward cause this problem or dilema is hard to ignore. I droped to the floor asked the lord what to do give me a sign or somthing cause im torn because of you. Nothing. So this how it ends no lovers or friends just enemies til the end but this vicious circle is the reason we'll be back at it again.......... Tell me what yall think my first time letting people see what i do like this except my sister or cousins i need more feed back.
  24. Your friendship was all I wanted To be close To be heard But you threw everything I had away It was my fault It was all my fault- I let you down I could not let go the ignorance and jealousy in me Childishness indeed I stare at your photos now at the person I knew since a child Whom is anything but these days Always with a smile upon her face Though my heart aches I wish the best for you I hope you wish The best for me too Good luck with him He's the only one you'll love That and new friends The door closes on me To your heart Here it ends Brown hair beauty Hazel eyes Found her way alone achieved responsibilites through strife Angelic face, always tried so hard Never let them see her weak At least not as she grew up I will miss what she meant to me The fun days we had, just connecting My closest friend, I hurt you the most Her parents and sister hurt her for show But now they are all her best friends She truly is a beauty I never believed it would end It hurts to lose you This time we won't make up Dont ever think I used you I just knew nothing else to do But show my emotions, raw and all I'm sorry you didnt understand me I'm sorry I blamed you for this Even now, I wish you did and accepted me dearly As I always have of you and will miss sincerly
  25. More of a little ditty than a poem. The calendar states that today was the day, I went on a treasure hunt and I must say. I had hope and I had the power, I ignored the nay sayers and went within the hour. I got to the X that supposedly marks the spot, no gold did I find and nothing too hot. I found a useless tool that was broke and with scars, I look back now and thank my lucky stars.
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