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Ever since I had sex with my boyfriend I just cant seem to stop having it... and i havent used protection with him yet! I'm only 14... I'm totally addicted to sex... you probably think I'm a sk@nk but I'm really not... anyone have any advice?
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Well...I'm sure alot of you have already been following my story. here is a short rerun for all of those who havent. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. He cheated on my 1 year ago and we broke up for awhile....he begged me back promised he had changed. That was about 6 months ago. Things were great. We moved in with each other the beginning of this month (June 2006) Well just last weekend I learned he has recently cheated on me with 2 girls. 2 different situations. He says he doesn't do it to hurt me he is just insecure and when he is with other girls it makes him...have a higher self esteem. I was talking to one of my friends who is a phycology major. And she brought to my attention that maybe it is an addiction. I started doing some research. I honestly believe thats what he has...just as if it were drugs or alcohol. I blamed it on me for the longest time...that I just couldn't please him or we couldn't have sex enough thats why he strayed...but that isn't the case. All the lies and excuses he comes up with denying it going out of his way for it when he could easily just come home to me for it leads to what they say about sex addicts. I dont really know what kind of advice I want from you guys maybe this was just for me to vent. Maybe some one knows a good councelor or some kind of help line that way I can help him of course if he wants to be helped. I have told him I will leave if he doens't figure something out. I told him if he wanted to go to counceling I would go with him if he wanted or I would do anything but he needed to do something sorry this was so long
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Can anyone help me with some words of advice? I always lead a sheltered life as regards sex as i was very very shy in my teens and early 20's, when i was 20 a friend introduced me to massage parlours which like most red blooded 20 years olds i though 'this is great' Bascially 12 years later i still go to them. My sex life is quite boring with my wife whom i love dearly, but i cant stop going to the parlours, the sex is walways protected, and recent tests have shown me clear of sti's but the guilt is tearing me apart, I hate myself. Im a slave to my sex drive and I feel totally out of control. I go to a aprlour probabaly 3 times a month and i cry every time after, yet I still go and go again, ijust dont know what to do.
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Umm I dont even know if this should be in this section or the infidelity section, I am not sure, I dont really care I have come here to get this off my chest as i really have some serious guilt trip and stuff. I am a 23 year old female, happily in a relationship with another chick. We both have had a lot of problems, and I mean i love her absolutely, iw ould die if anything to her, i cant imagine not waking up every night next to her, and losing her, or her dying or anyhing like that, because I think I would commit suicide. Weve been together since I was 19, we just had our 4th year anniversary and weve been living together for 4 years now. Theres not a doubt in my mind that i want to spend the rest of my life with her. However before her, I had been sexually active since the age of like 11. i slept with way too many guys, i dont think i remember the number of guys I slept with. I also engaged in a lot of drug usage behaviour and risky activities that could have landed me in serious trouble. Ive been diagnosed with many mental disorders all throughout my life, ranging from bipolar to GAD, and recently I suffered some serious panic attacks where I was having them every day. I settled down with her and I never thought I could cheat on her, and i thought that everything I had done in the past would stay there. i was happy and content so why did I need to have sex with other people. Tehn 2 years into our relationship, I became having these thoughts where I just wanted to have sex with other people, and before knew it, I acted on it, and I had sex with a guy. She never found out about it, but I was unable to hide the shame feelings I felt and I ended up telling her I had fooled around with someone else. She forgave me. and we moved on. A couple of months later, I met this girl and I became really confused over my feelings and I ended up again cheating on her, I guess. She found out about it, I cant lie, i feel like * * * * afterwards and I give it away and although she believes I only got confused, and nothing happened, she forgave me and then thats when It all started to confuse me, and I becamse really crazy. After that, i started random encounters with men, i never had sex, but I let them touch me, and I touched them. This happened twice. She never found out about it, but every time after the encounters, Id become so ashamed and so depressed, And everytime I would cry and I would say I wont do it again, and I just would. It was like I couldnt help it. I went about 6 months without doing anything because I had such a guilt trip from the last time, it felt so bad, I felt like such a piece of crap, nut all this time, it was as if I wasnt completely satisfied with out sex life and I needed more. I felt like I couldnt please her at all, and this made me feel so imcomplete. So i was pleasing others. then recently, two days ago, I dont know why, i came onto the internet and I recently purchases a WebCam, I never had one, but Ive always wondered. I woke up one day with huge sexual desires I couldnt control, to get on the webcam and show myself to a starnger and have them show me. i ended up having a webcam session with two different men. I let them see me, and I saw them. I felt like absolute garbage. I felt like I was betraying her and Like She doesnt deserve me. i felt like "why do I keep doing this to someone I love"?? I cant stop feeling like this, and I cant stop wondering if I have some kind of problem where I cant control my sexual urges. the problem is, you might I say Im a heterosexual, or you might say I just dont love her, but thats completely innacurate. I dont like men, I always had sex with them, but I never felt anything. I cant be in a relationship with one, and while they turn me on, they will never satisfy me like she does, and they will never give me what she does. We both get turned on by men, but we love each other and if we broke up, I would be in a relationship with another girl, and so would she. And I do love her, no one is inside of me, and I would die if she was not in my life. I love her more than I love my family, I moved to a different country because of her. but I dont understand why I am doing this, and why i cant seem to stop it, no matter how awful it makes me feel, it always seems to drive me to a really dark place and i always get so caught up about it. i didnt even have any sort of contact with this people, I just let them watch, and i watched, but it still feels wrong, and terrible and like Im being unfaithful in every way, even in my heart is still with her. i am really torn and confused, Im not sure what to do
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Hi all. Let me introduce myself to you. I am 50 year old; Indian by origin, migrated to one of the developed county in 1998. Now citizen of the country I migrated. I have 40 years old wife married 20 years back & have two sons. I am waiting for heart transplant surgery as my heart is severely damaged one year back as a result of massive myocardial infarct. (Heart Attack) I came accross this site accidentally & was impressed by the quality of advice offered in most of the scenarios. At the same time, by reading other people's experiences, I realised that I am not alone in what I am going through at the moment. To be honest, the real purpose of writing my problem is to take steam off my chest rather than seeking advice. Of course any input / advice are welcome. After migration, I started business & incurred heavy loss as a result I became bankrupt. My wife could not cope up with this and became chronically depressed. She is on anti depressant medicine since then. I tried for job but could not get it for want of local experience so eventually I accepted the job offer for Middle East country. However, my wife got teaching job here so I had to go alone to Middle East for a job. I used to join my family for four weeks after 11 months of working in gulf country. When I was to return third time from Gulf, the airline I was travelling offered 50% discount if I travel one day before my scheduled journey as they had some seating issue. I accepted the offer & did not inform my wife as I wanted to give her surprise. I never knew that going one day earlier, my wife would surprise me. When I reached home at night, I saw my wife in compromising position. My wife's active participation in adultery like her passionate kissing, removing her clothes voluntarily, parting her legs for final assault, to & fro rhythmic motion, her moaning in ecstasy literally humiliated me and was a trauma for me. Even though I was devastated & hurt, I controlled my anger. I realised that open communication is the only way to go now. I discussed her extra marital relations without blaming her with a view to get her confesses everything. It worked & she confessed everything. When I departed for the first time to Middle East, her first sexual encounter began in just second week after my departure. So she was being shagged for three years in my absense. I told her that I am ready to forgive her if she promises me to stop sleeping with any man other than me & remain exclusive to me in future. She was reluctant to promise or commit anything. I was surprised as to why she do not want to give up her promiscuity so I took her to the professional counsellor. Professional Counsellor concluded that my wife is oversexed and has sexual addiction. She can't control her strong sexual urge for 11 months. She has compulsive sexual disorder. Because of her unusually prolonged depression, he sent her to psychiatrics for her mental health assessment. Psychiatrics diagnosed her as a person with Borderline Personality Disorder. He said that she uses sex as a coping mechanism to deal with day to day stresses as she has a very low stress tolerance threshold level. He suggested that I quit gulf job & stay with her so that she would not stray. I acted on his advice and stayed back. He again suggested that I take care of her sexual and emotional needs adequately as person with borderline personality Disorder are affair prone. I saved my marriage by staying with her. One year went well. After that I got serious heart attack. My heart was damaged in the attack. I went through by pass surgery to open up blocked arteries but severe attack damaged heart muscle irreversibly. I can't walk more than 100 meters unless heart is transplanted. Sex is simply impossible with this condition. What I understand now is my wife is again involved in sex romp. It is on going now. I know she is having good time when she leaves home on different pretext. I have been trying my best to live with this condition and cope with it but when I see love bites on her breast or neck I get traumatised and takes long to get past that helpless feeling. I simply don't know what to do ? Any advise appreciated? -
Wondering how do you know when your need to be close to your partner sexually/intimately is at the brink of addiction? Say you feel the need to be close with them constantly in that way when you are in their presense; you may have even just been with them intimately and you dread that its over or that you have to do other things. I'm not talking about a physical need... I'm speaking emotionally and psycologically when does it become "not normal" or imbalanced... how do you know when you are too needy to the point that is is unhealthy. What is the definition sexual addiction?
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I have been sleeping with my ex boyfriend for almost 3 months now and I can't stop. I know it is wrong, I know I should tell him to take a hike but it feels so good to do it that I give in. Not only do I give in, I seek it out. I want it and I think about it all the time. How do I stop? How can you stop doing something that makes you feel so good? I know in my head its wrong, I just can't tell my body to listen to me.
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Ok... Well, this is my first post here on ENotAlone, in fact it's my first day signed up, but i need some advice... My, now-ex-gf and I were together for about a year and some and throught the whole beginning of it, i was cheating. I cheated for about 5 or so months of it. In fact, when we got together, i was the bf of several different women. I'm not gonna try to justify it or anything... but i certainly am going to say that i was going through some ***. I was very much a sex addict... among other things... point being, i lied and cheated for a good while, but she found out... before i could stop. and i was trying to stop. however! point being, i didn't, and as you can imagine, it absolutely devistated both her and the relationship. It took a lot of work, but i got myself out of the mindset i was in very near completely, and haven't cheated on her for about 7 months. In fact, i don't cheat now, even though we're not together... because i love her and don't want to be dishonest. Additionally, i've no interest in anyone else. Either way... any advice as to how to fix things between us? even if we don't end up together, which my sincerest hope is that we do (As it's much more possible then i'm making it sound), i still want to fix things. And i know a lot of you are going to say just to move on and that'll be easier for both of us, but it's not an option. I know you'll probably ask why, and you'll kinda have to trust me on this... Anyways... any takers? I'm well aware of what a despicable kind of thing i've done. and well aware i've got a lot of ground to cover... And while i don't think the people here are the type to remind me, it's usually what i'm reminded of when i ask for advice... Hence my journey to a place called eNotAlone. Thanks to all who reply and Godbless.
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Hello , I am not weak but underweight, just 52 KG. (Height 5.7 inch). All the people are trying to lose the weight. I want to gain weight. What are the possible causes for not gaining weight easily? What are the ways to gain weight? One thing is there - I work for more than 16 hours a day. IS THIS THE REASON? I also have lot of stress and liabilities, IS THIS THE REASON? Previously I was addicted to sex, and used to watch adult movies and read adult material. Last 1 1/2 year was really hard for me, I am getting out of it slowly. IS THIS THE REASON? I request you guys to help me out in this case. Thanks in advance.
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Hello, I am a 28 yr male. I am married and have a daughter. I am happy with my wife and have regular sex with her. But I am kind of addicted to sex. I used to see porn movies and see nude images earlier. I have stopped using any kind of sexual material now, but whatever i did from last 10 years is not getting out of my mind now. I see every women as a sex object. I try to stop those thoughts but I am not completely successful in it. I want to grow in a good way and I always afraid about mistakes. I never had sex outside my marriage and I have stopped viewing porn material. That way I think I am not totally addicted to porn. I want to respect other women and don't want to think bad about them. Sometimes I feel really depressed. WHAT SHOULD I DO TO GET RID OF SEX ADDICTION? AM I REALLY ADDICTED OR CONFUSED. IS IT NECESSARY TO RESPECT OTHER WOMEN? AND HOW? Poor Guy
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Is to many sex partners looked at as being a s l u t .lucky,addicted to sex,or just normal in todays society.I have had about 30 to 35.Im 32 years old.And no i have no stds.Dont preach i know they are out there and very possible to get.Its not to brag but is anyone afraid to commit to a person that has had that many partners.
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I hope this is the appropriate place for this. Also know that I'm a guy and so is the person I'm in a relationship with, but I think this question can transcend the boundaries of sexual-preference. Ok, so here's the quick back story: I've been seeing this guy for about 4 months, and both of us really care for each other. At first I wasn't sure how I felt about being in a relationship and put up a lot of roadblocks to moving forward. He was very patient and allowed me to go through what I had to in order to become closer. We were sexually involved just about every time we saw each other. Since early July, I've pretty much become comfortable and committed to the relationship, and I had never been happier. But the 3-weeks or so we haven't been having any sexual relationship at all. I started to get pretty suspicious. So Tuesday night I slept at his place. Monday morning I got up early because I was having trouble sleeping. I left him in bed and went to check out the computer in the basement. In my looking around, I clicked on his email program and one message subject stood out at me as a response to an online ad. I wasn't intentionally on his computer looking for incriminating evidences, nor did I initially intend to read any of his email. But this message caught my eye and I opened it. After reading it and a few dozen others that he had there, I formulated the opinion that he was sleeping around, hooking up, without my knowledge. I only had a few weeks history there, but from what I can tell I can only assume that this has been going on for a long time. So longer story shorter, I confronted him about it. He was initially very disturbed that I read his email. He said he has issues he's working through and this is one of them. He seems to get off on attention and "the chase" of getting someone to be with him or find him attractive. He also said he's a very sexual person. But he doesn't want to talk about it or answer any of my questions about this problem. He says he needs to be able to work through it on his own. I was able to have him promise not to hookup from now on. So my question is this: Does this sound like something I need to let him work through? Is it something I should end this relationship over? I need a way to be able to talk to him about it without making him feel self consious or embarrassed. He says he's still very committed to me and wants to make things work. But he's also hurt that I violated his privacy by going through is email and needs to get over that before he feels guilty about what he did. He's the most amazing person I've met and I don't want to lose him. I just don't want my emotions for him to get in the way of my better judgement. Sorry for the long post. Feel free to ask questions if something's not clear, this is just off the top of my head and not much proofreading has taken place!
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Well, just got back from my girls house, and if you've been reading my posts i had problems taking her virginity away. Well i did it tonight, of course her parents were not home. I sure she wanted me to take it. She said it hurts but i told her that it will pass with more experiance. I just hope she dosen't get addicted to sex.She seems to be commited to me though. Thanks for everyones help on this 4 week subject.
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hello. this is the first time ive posted in this website. and the problem i have is very personal and i havent talked about it with anyone at all. so please, this is very hard for me to explain and just post. my problem is that i cant control my sexual hormones where it'll come to a point where i just cant take it anymore. i think im being addicted to internet porn and just porn in general. im not a pervert at all. im a nice guy who respects everyone and who's nice to everyone and who really means well. i just cant control myself. its affecting my relationship with my girlfriend me and my girlfriend have been together for a long while but i just get excited way too easily. and its embarrassing. i cant even get hold my girlfriend without getting excited. and im not even being a pervert or thinking bad thoughts. it just happens. and i hate it so much. i love my girlfriend and i have not lost my virginity to anyone. we're saving ourselves. and i really agree on that. its mutual. im 18, and i know around this age hormones are suppose to be going crazy. but is all of this normal? i masterbate almost everyday and i feel so guilty afterwards because i do it too much and it get excited so easily. especially with porn, i become obsessed with it. because its so easy to obtain. its making my life meaningless. i cant take it anymore. i never had this problem before but now i get excited at the littlest things. but like i said before, im not a pervert at all. i dont talk about sex with anyone barely, im a nice guy. and i want to stop feeling like this. its ruining my relationship. i cant even talk about anything sexual with my girlfriend because im afraid i'd get too excited. and when i become too excited i act weird and i notice it but i cant stop. this is very hard for me to talk about. can anyone help me? should i worry about this?
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thats what my mum and sister are. they have been since they started going to a hypnotist. what should i do? plz plz tell me i will be very grateful
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My boyfriend of 2 yrs. confessed to me last night he is addicted to "lesbian conversation/etc. via phone). We get along great, but since last Oct. I had been finding #'s to chat/date/sex lines and calls to his ex-girlfriend (who is bi). He knew that the calls hur me, ( i found them on his cell bill) and said he would stop. The final blow up was yesterday and he confessed this to me re: the addiction and that it's nothing wrong with me and he does not want me to be involved with women or otherwise, but its problem he has. Is this normal for a guy? It really hurts because any type of sexual conversation outside your relationship is wrong in my eyes. He swears he's not sleeping with anyone else, but you don't have to "physically" have sex to cheat. Please give me your thoughts.
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Hello, Im an English freelance writer preparing articles on love and sex addiction for Brtish publications. Im looking for women between the ages of 25 and 35 to answer some questions for me. The interviews can be totally anonymous - I can send a list of questions to be answered in your own time. Whether youre addicted to sex or love, I´d be happy if you could help. My email address is niamhrebecca@yahoo.co.uk. Thanks.
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Hello, I know I have a problem , but where do I go for help! Am I sex addict or something else? Here is how I am: Ignorant, arrogant, nervous, full of hate! Sex compulsive behavior: in last 9 years I went 5 times to strip clubs (stayed only once), bought 2 "Playboy" tapes, masturbated maybe 5 times, watched sex magazines at airports (never bought one) , watched "Real Sex" show Thursdays on HBO! Before that (10 years ago) at one point I was masturbating every day (for 3 months) and for three years I was regular watching soft porn (never hard-I hate them), gong to clubs... First time I masturbated when I was 39 years old!!! I have problem with premature ejaculation. I have beautiful, caring and loving wife! She doesn't know about my problem! Please tell me where should I go for help? Thank you George [ This Message was edited by: kamurj on 2002-04-04 14 ]
