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    Is it possible to be in love with someone you hardly know???

    I don't know what to do I've been crazy about this guy for over 2 months now and I can't get him out of my head. I thought it was just a bad crush but it hasn't gone away and I'm 21 - I'm too old for crushes!
    I know he doesn't feel the same way and he ignores me sometimes but I'm still crazy about him. Help! I really wanna get over him but I can't.

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    I think it's infatuation/lust! Something you can't have! I don't believe in love at first sight, but then again if I had someone like Selma Blair then........... lol

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    Why do you want to get over him? Do you want a relationship with him? I do believe in love at first sight. Things happen for a reason.

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    Yeah i do but...

    Yeah I do, but I know he doesn't feel the same way so that's why I have to get over him. He used to come up and talk to me and my friends when we were out but then he found out I liked him (not from me & I didn't want him to find out) but now he'll just say hi or he might just say hi to my friend and ignore me, which really hurts. So I need to get over him!

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    You know I'm in your exact same situation, only a little more into it. I knew this girl for only 3 days and she went home (europe) and I was heartbroken. In the 8 months she was gone not one day went by when I wasn't missing her. I've tried to forget about her many times and haven't succeeded. I love her to death.

    So to answer your question I believe it is possible to fall in love with someone you hardly know if you connect with them on a deep enough level in the short time you have known them. I always tell myself it's lust, or a crush, but it's been a year and I haven't had 1 day I pass where I'm not thinking of her. I see her every week now and I cannot justify my feelings for her, they are just there.

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    I can't!

    I can't even look him in the eye anymore, not to mind talk to him! I'm so scared he'll think I'm watching him or that I'm some weirdo or something.
    What happened with your ex?? - sounds good!

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    sorry

    Sorry lostNheartbroken just saw your post now! It's soo hard, I feel really stupid for feeling the way I do but I can't do anything about it. How do you know she doesn't feel the same about you?

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    Well , that happened to me lately , I barely knew this girl..i chatted and talked to her quite a few times and damn it seemed like we knew each other for centuries , was it lust ? i don't think so ..i wasn't thinking about bangin her.. that would be nice.. cuz she was just hot to death .. , it wasn't love , somewhere between ..
    well we lost contact cuz of personal issues but i would pay a "high" price to get with her ...anywayz ..yeah it can happen that u feel that beyond natural attraction ... but if he doesn't feel the same way or do not want to give it a shot ... drop the case ...

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    I know

    Yeah that's what I'm tryin to do, it's not that easy though!

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    Well my situation has a couple extra hurdles thrown in. But I'm still working on it.

    What I've been able to decifer from love at first site is it takes a lot of coincidence, but can happen.

    I think it's the mix of all the emotions mixed with hopes, desire, and some imagination. You first meet a person and have a strong attraction towards them. You quickly form a relationship and view the person as exactly what you want, without knowing them. You maybe do some quick imagination as to exactly what the person is like, maybe visualize some really nice perfect situations you'd love to be in with that person.

    Now, coincidence takes over. If it turns out that the person is just what you were hoping/dreaming for, what does time have to do with it? How nice would it be if no matter whether you know someone for ten days or ten years, and you've realized what they were from day one.


    As far as my situation, I believe she feels similarly to me. But of course, as always things must be complicated. She has a boyfriend, she lives with him, been together 6 years. We knew each other for only 3 days last summer and she was interested in me when she met me. But, same as I, we both thought to ourselves that we were crazy since we only knew each other 3 days. Everyone I asked told me it wasn't right, just lust. So we kept in touch while she was gone, I eventually got a girlfriend and honestly thought about the girl who was gone(referred to as her) the entire time. So then in June she came back, I didn't know she had a boyfriend.

    We started seeing each other, as friends. Eventually she confesses to me everything I had thought in my head. That she couldn't justify changing her whole life over 3 days, though her heart told her to, same thoughts I had. She tells me that she's never met anyone like me, and never felt this way before towards anyone, she then tells me (hesitantly) that she does have a boyfriend. She told me that things were different after she went home last summer, in her relationship with her boyfriend, she'd changed. She told me she thought about me every day and wanted to be with me. I've known her for a year now and yesterday was the closest we've come to having sex. She originally told her parents she was leaving her boyfriend for me, her dad was admitted to the mental hospital for a couple days as a result. Her family loves her boyfriend...she still loves him, but she swears I am nothing like him and she wants to be with me...she's come close but she's scared I guess. She loves her boyfriend, and I'm sure she loves me, just an awkward situation. In previous relationships I've even been jealous, I'm not jealous at all even if I think about her having sex with her boyfriend...I guess because she hasn't committed anything to me.

    I cannot explain this at all. When I'm with her everything is different, peaceful. The other thing I can't explain is the thoughts for her, when I first met her I was ready to sell my car to buy 2 crappy ones so both of us had one, I wanted to take her out and buy her the most beautiful dress I could find, I wanted to write her poetry. I was in a 3 year relationship before meeting her and never had the same thoughts. Hell, this girl is the only one in her family who speaks english! But she has the most beautiful green eyes and fairest golden hair.

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