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Ok, I want SPECIFICS, and lots of responses. They say it's not the size but how you use it. Now how can one best use "it".

 

1)Do you like it when a man is rubbing your clit while having sex?

 

2)Comment (or rank in importance) on the following:

-Rhythm

-Speed

-Angle

-Depth

-Power

 

3)Is there an angle that would allow a man to thrust and rub your clit ( or g-spot?) at the same time.

 

4)What is it about a dildo or vibrator that make women climax so much better than than a man could .

 

Thank you LADIES!

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Well technically I'm not a lady but just so you know, the clit is not the same as the g-spot...

 

The clit is at the top of vagina and looks like a little button. The g-spot in inside the vagina (don't ask me where hehe) and is harder to find in my opinion.

 

I think most girls can only have an orgasm by oral sex, it's alot harder by penetration alone. Vibrators are more effective because they vibrate (if you hum softly whilst giving oral sex it has interesting effects hehe).

 

Develope your own technique! If everyone did the same thing sex would be really boring! Well maybe lol.

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First off, I think it's great that you would come here and ask instead of assuming that you know. Men and women can't understand each other's genitals and it's that simple, lol

 

First and foremostly - if you're curious about what your woman wants - you simply have to A-S-K. She's not going to think that you're 'less of a man' or anything like that if you ask. Asking shows that you genuinely care about her pleasure, which is GREAT!! I can't remember back to when I was 18-19, but women my age know exactly what they want and they won't be shy to tell you.

 

1)Do you like it when a man is rubbing your clit while having sex?

 

It depends. If you rub it too hard or if you don't have enough of a rhythm down, it will start to go numb or hurt and be very irriated. It's sensitive and should be treated as such.

 

Something to remember: Women in real life are NOT the same as the ones you see in pornos. We generally don't like the same things. I've seen:

 

- Slapping of the clit. This does absolutely nothing but feel and look absolutely ridiculous.

 

- Fingering with more than 2 fingers really fast and nowhere near resembling gently. You see women in porn just loving this. It can lead to pain. Be gentle unless she requests otherwise.

 

Moving on ...

 

Rhythm

 

CONSISTENCY! You don't have to concentrate so hard on doing it at the exact same tempo that you can't even enjoy it, but it's important that you maintain the rhythm. Sometimes guys will have the rhythm just right, it will be amazing, then he'll switch it and the building of pleasure will basically be lost. I think this is where men and women differ. Women can take forever, men seem to be able to bust a loaf in under 10 seconds if they really try.

 

Speed

 

I can't speak for every woman, but I think somewhere between slow and medium - never super fast unless she requests it. When it's too fast, it can become painful and/ or numb.

 

Angle

 

This is hard to describe. The best (well, the only) way I can describe this is to try and get it so that your hand/ fingers would be in the same area as if she were doing it herself. The tops of index and pointer finger should be flat against the top/ middle of the clit moving in a circular motion. Which way, you may have to ask, but clockwise is always a good bet. Some women also like a finger inserted at the same time - again - slowly and gently! (don't shove it in and out of there like you're sawing away at a log and keep these words in mind - NUMB and PAIN)

 

Depth

 

I am assuming this one has to do with finger insertion. Sometimes women like this, and sometimes they don't (if you're giving oral or touching the clit manually). You don't have to go deep. One or two fingers about 3/4 of the way in should do just nicely. Remember - most of the nerve endings in the vagina are within 2 INCHES of the opening! Pounding away with 4 fingers or your fist (again, don't take advice from porno) won't do a damn thing but cause pain.

 

 

Power/ Pressure

 

Ah, a very important one. For the clit: Never, EVER apply too much pressure. It feels terrible and a lot of guys do this. They push really hard against the pubic bone with the palm of their hand for leverage, then push down on the clit mushing it against their fingers. It really isn't what you want to do if your goal is for your woman to get off. Press gently, just enough so that you feel the clit push down a bit. Remember - slowly, gently, and in the same spot!

 

3)Is there an angle that would allow a man to thrust and rub your clit ( or g-spot?) at the same time.

 

Again, I can't speak for every woman, but I've found that if both people are consentual (sometimes women aren't), doggystyle is pretty convenient. The man can usually give a 'reach around'. However, try maintaining the rhythm of your thrusting with the rhythm of what you're doing to her. THAT should be the real challenge.

 

I've always believed that the woman shouldn't have any shame in doing it herself. Why not? She knows what she likes and the man doesn't have to concentrate on more than one thing (which can be hard for men ). Ask her if she's comfortable. Sometimes if you haven't really been with her for long, she won't be, but after a while she should trust you enough to let you into her little world. Lucky you if she does.

 

4)What is it about a dildo or vibrator that make women climax so much better than than a man could .

 

I wouldn't say that it's better than if a man gets down there and gives some good oral. There's no way that a machine is better than a man who knows his way around down there orally. But if you want to play with toys while you're having sex, so that she can get off while you're doing your thing, then great! But again, it's a bit of a sensitive subject for a lot of women. If she doesn't trust you yet, she may be reluctant. Also, some women are more traditional and would be against it.

 

If you really want to please a woman, know your way around with oral. Most men think they do, but it's usually sub-par. Ask her. Also, don't stop after 5 minutes. It takes time for a woman to reach climax.

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1) It is practically impossible for a woman to have an orgasm with penetration. The proper stimulation of the clit is not enough. So sorry guys, they are faking.

 

2) Oral S is the best way for a woman to orgasm especially if done by "sucking" the clit instead of just licking them (not enough stimulation)

 

3) Vibrators and hot tub jets act quicker than hands and mouth because they have more constant pressure.

 

4) If any woman here has found the "G" spot kudos for her! I still think it just doesn't exist.

 

So guys: learn to stimulate her properly down there. Use hands and mouth while asking her how quick she wants you to go, how much pressure.

 

Hint: there is one position that allows the woman to have intercourse and play with herself, which can bring both to orgasm at the same time. It is called the scissors position: man lies on his side, woman lies on her back and opens her legs while man penetrates her. She has her hands free to stimulate her clit. But it would be better if he could do it...

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OceanEyes your amazing that was an exellent post...

 

OK, I just have one question, when I give oral to my girl she uses here legs to sqeez my head, it doesn't hurt...but sometimes she pushes my head in with her legs, and I get out of track....My point being is why does she do that? I ask her and she says she doen't know, but she just does it. Shes doesn't do it that much, but sometimes she does...just a little concern...

 

So can you answer that? anyone?

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OceanEyes your amazing that was an exellent post...

 

OK, I just have one question, when I give oral to my girl she uses here legs to sqeez my head, it doesn't hurt...but sometimes she pushes my head in with her legs, and I get out of track....My point being is why does she do that? I ask her and she says she doen't know, but she just does it. Shes doesn't do it that much, but sometimes she does...just a little concern...

 

So can you answer that? anyone?

 

It's a knee-jerk reaction (of the opposite intent) to a good feeling ! lol

 

In other words, a lot of time people might /pull back/ when it feels best just as a muscle reaction, even tho it really felt good. It's just how the muscles contract and release when certain areas are hit.

 

*And speaking from experience, more recently than anything...

I had wanted to get some 'embellishment' down there (if you know what I mean), and what I choose has been quite unique. It makes this act much more intense, even if I found it took some R&R for it to heal. Drop me with lines of questions if ya want It was something I did for myself (and not for anyone else, don't need no one's permission!) and had researched it for 3 years before doing it.

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Just a note: Sometimes I like it when my clit is rubbed at first, to kinda "get me going" but when I'm really excited I HATE it being rubbed because it makes me cum too quickly and then I'm super sensitve and ya better not touch me for a good 20minutes!! hehe

 

But I mean, if ya gotta get it done quick, then go w/ the clit.

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Something to remember: Women in real life are NOT the same as the ones you see in pornos. We generally don't like the same things. I've seen:

 

- Slapping of the clit. This does absolutely nothing but feel and look absolutely ridiculous.

 

Ocean, this comment made me burst out laughing at my PC! So true, girl.

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Damn Ocean I was rolling on the floor with your post. I agree with you on the asking her what she likes and for the rest I have now memorized it. I hope to improve my skills at oral. I am not orally challenged because I know what I am doing but, sometimes a guy can get carried away while he is down there. Thanks for the great info will try to incorporate them into my routine while down there.

 

Hubman 8)

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Guys, don't feel bad if you don't feel you know your way around the female genitalia very well. I didn't know how to give proper blow/ hand-jobs until my first serious boyfriend taught me properly. I was all over the place and didn't know what went where until then. It's impossible for a female to understand the penis because we don't have one, and vice versa for guys and vag.

 

Ocean, this comment made me burst out laughing at my PC! So true, girl.

 

Isn't it true though? Whenever I've watched porn, the girls on there appear to enjoy things (a LOT) that I would literally burst out laughing at! It's sad for a lot of women too because those of us who are normal women who can't reach climax from having a penis between our breasts are left with men who think they can.

 

Another example of porn-chick behaviour that no man should assume is normal sex stuff:

 

- This one is HILARIOUS. It's when the guy gets up and puts himself into the girl's mouth (she's usually lying down), so it's basically like he's humping her mouth and throat! I mean it looks like she's 2 seconds away from heaving her lunch. It's not even sexy (the way the male's legs are spread and the camera is coming in from behind - yikes), and it looks uncomfortable, borderline painful for the woman. But guys seem to love it!

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- This one is HILARIOUS. It's when the guy gets up and puts himself into the girl's mouth (she's usually lying down), so it's basically like he's humping her mouth and throat! I mean it looks like she's 2 seconds away from heaving her lunch. It's not even sexy (the way the male's legs are spread and the camera is coming in from behind - yikes), and it looks uncomfortable, borderline painful for the woman. But guys seem to love it!

Hmmm....the girl might not enjoy it, but they guy probably does, I know I would...but I think it's a little too kinky.

 

Isn't it true though? Whenever I've watched porn, the girls on there appear to enjoy things (a LOT) that I would literally burst out laughing at! It's sad for a lot of women too because those of us who are normal women who can't reach climax from having a penis between our breasts are left with men who think they can.

Yeah I wouldn't get my self off my putting my penis on a girls breast..that would take ages.

 

Guys, don't feel bad if you don't feel you know your way around the female genitalia very well. I didn't know how to give proper blow/ hand-jobs until my first serious boyfriend taught me properly. I was all over the place and didn't know what went where until then. It's impossible for a female to understand the penis because we don't have one, and vice versa for guys and vag.

 

What? the penis is very simple....its so simple I don't even have to explain it....On the other hand, some girls don't even know about the g-spot. For guys....I'm pretty sure all guys know what their penis has...the penis its like a banana expept you don't..

* bend it

* peel it!!!

* And never never never bite it!

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I've never understood the fascination of a t*t w*nk either. To me it looks ridiculous , but if I guess u really like breasts u could enjoy it.

 

I know i would never do it seriously and would only do it with a gf that i had been with for ages if she wanted to do it.

same here, unless she wanted to.

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What? the penis is very simple....its so simple I don't even have to explain it....On the other hand, some girls don't even know about the g-spot. For guys....

 

It's not exactly simple to touch it in the same way that you yourself would do it. Believe me, it's possible to not know how to handle it properly.

 

Also, isn't the male g-spot in the anus or very close to it? I don't know about you, but if I go anywhere near that area my boyfriend moves faster than I've ever seen him move, no-go with him.

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I think you might be talking about the prostate gland OceanEyes. Yes you'd be able to feel that through the rectum. I dont know about most guys but I've had that examined several times during medical exams and its NOT pleasant (why do doctors think that every time a male gets sick they HAVE to check the prostate!).

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hahaha Avman

 

I had a fear i might of had to be checked out down there, but luckily i found what i think is the problem on a website to do with embarrassing problems. Think its "Proctalgia fugax". Luckily it isn't a problem i have to see the doctor about as they cant do anything anyway and their not sure why it occurs. It would appear there are quite a few sufferers of it. But once every 3 weeks or so i'll get it after taking a trip to the loo

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