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    nakedbob20002000
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    I want my girlfriend to use a strap-on...

    I am a man and enjoy it when a women uses a dildo or a strap-on with me. However, I have had mixed result when bringing this up with girlfriends in the past. A few have been really into it (which was absolutely amazing!!), but most have been turned off or reluctant participants.

    So here are my questions... Do you think that I should tell my new girlfriend of my interest? To the women out there, what would your reaction be if your boyfriend asked you about this? Have you done this with your man before? Thanks.

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    I cannot say that I have ever done this before. In order for you and your girlfriend to have a good open relationship you two need to discuss you likes and dislikes. Ask her what she likes, dislikes, and would never consider doing. That gives you ground to work with to help you decide weather to tell her or not, and to determine what you need to do next. Talk to her, and see if she is one of the girls that is interested in experminting and things like that. I always tell my boyfriends up front what I don't like during sex so they know not to do it so I don't get mad or upset during sex. One of my things that I refuse to do is have anal sex. I tell my boyfriends if they want to have anal sex they need to get a boyfriend (no offense to homosexual men out there). That is one of my things that I refuse to do. Others may have other opinions and everyone is different so there are things they like and don't like. Just sit down with her and talk about it. I hope I helped.

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    Honestly, if my boyfriend asked me to do it, I don't think I'd like it too much. Maybe because it would basically make me seem more masculine. I would just be way too uncomfortable with it.. no matter how much pleasure he would get. That's just how I am. I would still tell your girlfriend that she likes it, but tell her right away she doesnt have to do anything she wants. Then maybe as time passes she'll have more time to think about it and grow more comfortable with it.

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    Well to be honest with you, if my boyfriend asked me to wear a strap-on I'd start doubting his sexuality...I just wouldn't be able to help it, that's a pretty ODD fetish you've got..Maybe you should wait a bit more before asking your girlfriend, you don't want her getting scared and running away!

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    Hi

    I have the perfect solution.Get a porno with some strap on action.Watch it with her and as the scene goes on, look at her facial expressions or if she says ewww gross or something like that than deffinately no.Maybe ask her then,jokingly, and if she says no, then tell her you were just joking that your anus is a one way street.(dont get defensive just say it like you dont really care,then she'll never really know for sure if you were serious)

    ^^^cleverness

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    I think I would also doubt his sexuality as well...but on the other hand if it really was something that he'd like, maybe it would also grow on me after thinking about it for a while.

    Initially, it would be a bit of a turn off. You'd have to be really solid with your relationship to bring something like this up.

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    I think this is something you'd want to introduce the idea of GENTLY, start with less "radical" ideas and toys, and see if she's open to the basic idea. She's going to need a sense of adventure and a really open mind to be able to indulge you here, so take this a step at a time!

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    i think lost's idea was pretty cool, and yeah youd get an opinion through expressions, so try it.
    initially i would be shocked like most women and probably doubt your sexuality.
    but still she could see it from the point, that your sharing your sexual fantasies and shes participating so you can share hers. you never know when things are a bit ''out there''.

    kel

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    just ask her

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    My boyfriend just asked me to do this. I questioned his sexuality at first but when I sat down and asked him about why he wanted to do this, he told me;

    "It's because I trust you. I'm up for anything once and I would only be able to do this with you. I could never ask another girl, ever."

    The fact that the trust is there makes it even more of a turn on for me.

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