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    Why does he ONLY look at REALLY YOUNG teen porn?!

    I am so confused..... and considering calling off my wedding. I completely understand the desire to look at porn (I look at it too) - but what I don't understand is why my fiancee ONLY looks at the super-young teen stuff. He is 34 years old and I am 29. Occasionally out of curiosity I look at his "history" of websites visited. I do not get upset when I see porn in there (which is almost daily). But ALL the sites he looks at and the pictures he opens are of very, very young girls. To me, some look like they are 14 or 15 (although they say they are 18 or 19). It worries me because does this mean that he doesn't find me attractive? I do not look younger than my age at all... and what happens when I am 40+??? And what about if we have kids and when our daughter is 13 and has girlfriends come over? I am worried about him being a pedophile or something. I need to know IS IT NORMAL for a man in his mid-30's to masturbate to pictures of girls who look like children? I am full-figured (large breasts, butt and hips - size 14), but the pictures he looks at are of girls with teeeny tiny breasts (or no breasts at all), and no hips. NOTHING like me! I can't take it... I will never look like those girls, so I might as well just dump him and let him find his dream girl (or child)..... I have never felt so old and hideous in my life....

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    hmm...

    Hey, that doesn't seem normal at all, and I would definetely talk to him about it... Do you guys have sex though? Cause obviously that will show that he has physical emotions for you... If it is a fantasy well... still... I don't know, have a chat with him and keep us updated, good luck!

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    Thank you for your response... Yes, we do have sex... but not as much as I would like. (He works opposite hours than me, and has a physically demanding job). So, maybe once or twice on the weekends. I admit that I am not feeling fulfilled sexually by him and perhaps that is why I am over-sensitive that his hand and these girls on his screen get him 4 times more than I do! Thanks for your reply... I really want a man in his mid-30's to tell me if they prefer the teen stuff too...? Thanks,

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    I'm a touch past my mid 30's, but no, I don't go for the teen stuff. Way too young for me. I prefer mid or late 20's up to my own age.

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    Sorry, but I think that's just not right. If he's looking at that teen stuff DAILY, there is something else going on there. If I were you, my last concern would be whether he was attracted to me or not. When you are together at the mall, is his eye drawn to high school girls and such?

    I think you guys need to go to a counselor. Meet together at first, then meet separately with the same counselor. There may be things on his mind that he doesn't feel comfortable talking about with you there.

    I also think you need to seriously consider your own future. If he is looking at this stuff on your computer or your joint computer, there is a possibility that he could eventually be tracked and prosecuted for this kind of thing. Do you want to be connected to an investigation and that sort of thing? Do you want that hassle in your life? Would that affect your own career?

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    Thank you, I appreciate your reply. I agree that we should get counseling. And I understand what you are saying (about the computer and trouble, etc.), but I am not too concerned about that happening... The sites he is looking at are legit and they all swear that "all the girls on this site are above 18". I guess 18 just looks much younger today than it did when I was that age. I admit that I talked to him today about this..... because it has really been bothering me. (We do communicate with each other a lot). And in his defense he swears that he looks at all kinds of women (teens, 20's, 30's).. not just the teens. It just so happens that when I have snooped I have only found the teens (?).. He also made me feel a little better by reminding me of the pop-ups on those sites. Yes, he may open one teen site... but 10 other young girl sites and pics will pop up and those are also stored in the "history" section on his computer. I am just freaking out because I am insecure I guess.... I just wish that he would look at women closer to my age and with a little meat on their bones so maybe I can believe him when he tells me he loves me and is attracted to me. I can't believe it when the girls he masturbates to are completely the opposite of me. Oh well... we have discussed counseling, and I hope it helps! Thanks so much everyone!

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    I think it's ok to fantasise. These girls are obviously the 'opposite' of what you are, and I think maybe it's a way for his brain to take a break from things.
    Sometimes I look at some transsexual porn, and I am not gay.

    I guess in a way this kind of porn relief stops guys from going out there and doing something silly like maybe cheating on you with a teenager.

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    i no it probs dont count im only 19 and so is my bf but he watches porn alot but even he finds it odd when girls in porn look two young two even be legal so i find it odd your partner would want two watch these girls

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    You say that these websites do say that the girls are aged 18 or 19 though. Well maybe they are? Maybe your guy thinks he is doing nothing wrong looking at them then. I know that ALL guys I know love the young girls, but obviously not kids! There is a thin line I think, but I dont think your guy is in danger of being a paedophile. I think you are worrying too much. Dont you think that he would know and would try to hide it?

    Well all look at porn and like the look of someone, it doesnt mean that we need to have our partner look like that because we love our partners for who they are and their personalities along with how they look, their general look.

    You could talk to him, but I think he would be really upset if you accused him of being a paedophile.

    I agree with tn above to some extent, things I would look at in porn, I would NEVER do in real life, its about fantasy and that is separate from real life.

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    Don't worry about the legal issues - what you're describing is not true pedophile porn. And he's right that when you look at porn sites, especially free sites, there are lots of pop-up windows.

    I watch porn that depicts women of various ages, though the "barely legal" type porn doesn't do much for me, so I would find it odd if someone only viewed porn with very young looking girls. But maybe he's telling the truth about that.

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