confused

i'm confused and scared..i have been with my bf for 14 months now. but things upset him and he gets angry, then he gets really sad and stops talking...he says he goes "numb" i don't know what to do anymore...i don't feel i make him happy or take the pain away.

Maybe you should find the source of all the anger and frustration. I know a lot of people that handle their emotions like that, I don't understand it but some people can't talk. If I were you I would just try to understand where it is coming from and maybe if it is you, then you should leave him a lone for awhile, take a break. If it is not you and just his surroundings and he is taking the anger out on you that isn't healthy either, and that might call for a break. If you are really worried about him express it to him and don't yell, I've learned that. Just be calm and oh yeah if he is acting out violently let him know that you don't want him to hurt himself by doing anything stupid. I hope i helped you out!

Take your boyfriend to counseling to see if there is more going on that you know about.

Also...

Discuss with him things that may upset him and ask him if he makes you unhappy anymore.

Don't give up things will get better.