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Hi,

I'd be really appreciative if someone gave me some good advice! Thanks soo much!

 

I'm from Japan, and I think I'm gay or bi.

I'm 16, and I love this boy in my class, or so I think. I'm really not sure.. I've had girlfriends, but I started realizing I liked boys more than girls at some point.

I'm not all that bad-looking, and I've had plenty of opportunities to be with girls, but I never found it as exciting as what I feel for this boy now.

 

Anyway, about this boy. I always think about touching him, and even when I brush against him in the hallways at school, I have this tingly sensation inside. I just can't stop looking at him! It really was quite a shock at first!

 

I don't really believe I'm either gay or bi or hetero or whatever. I think it just matters who I fall in love with, and there are no real distinctions in my case. I've really loved some girls too. (And I really don't like (just my sexual preference) boys that act 'girlish' or act kinda artificially gay, or wearing bras and that kind of stuff! I can't stand that to be honest.. I like 'boys' as they are.. if that makes sense..)

 

So, it so happens that we are setting up for a festival this weekend together, just by coincidence. We're working at the same stall. It's kind of my chance to do something with him, since I've only talked to him at school, and occasionally gone out with him with other friends.

 

I don't know if he is straight or gay, but he seems to be looking at me at times too, and we've had several times wrestling and feeling kinda close. I don't know though, because I'm probably just fantasising most of the time.

 

So, what is to be done? Is it wise to take him out to a movie, bring him to my house, and what should I do?

ADVICE IS GREATLY APPRECIATED!

 

btw, there are quite a few gays in Japan, so it is not as looked down upon or rejected by society as some parts of the US. homosexuality was quite common in Japan for a long time, until Westerners came.

 

 

 

 

(a sub-note nothing to do with above, I feel fine about blowjobs, not about anal sex.. just does not seem "right" at the moment!! What are people's views on this? )

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Hi,

I appreciate the 102 views I have for my post, but I would really like some advice from those of you who are experienced!

Even a little would be fine, I know it seems really silly for you, but this whole deal means a lot to me.

 

You see, I am terrified to be in love with a guy! I am a student with the highest GPA in the grade, and I don't want to ruin my life in highschool forever.. if you catch my drift..

 

But, I still can't get my eyes off him.

 

I should probably just keep it inside forever, but sometimes, when those hormones get high, and he's sitting next to me, I have this urge to kiss his beautiful lips!

 

Anyway, what is the best strategy to go about dealing with a person, not knowing if he has ANY INTEREST whatsoever in me! I know I'm fantasizing..

What should be done? at my school, people do laugh about 'homos' and at least 90 per cent of my class wouldn't accept me I don't think!

 

Should I approach him like a 'straight' man, just say I have a porno video to watch or something and kinda lure him in that way?

Even listing some ways of going about this would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks so much!

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hey safari. sup dude. i how you feel. see im a freshman in high school and i just found out im bi. it was a little strange for me cuz i had never really thought about it. but when i started hanging out with a new group of friends one of them caught my eye. my classes got switched around and i ended up having one of my classes with her. at first i didnt realize i had feelings for her but after about a month they got really strong. i already knew she was bi so i figured i might have a chance, i didnt. we both sent signals to each other but i knew that her signals werent because she liked me. i had the same temtations and i still do. some times when we're just sitting there talking i would just watch her. some times i have to bite my lip so that i dont just lean over and kiss her. but the best thing i did was tell her how i felt. a lot of people at my school arent open minded so some of them will make comments to me about it and i just smile and tell them what they want to know. so you should go out as friends, just the two of you, and casually ask him what he thinks about gays or bi's. that will give you some information on wiether or not you want to tell him you think you have a crush on him. hope i helped a little. later. rc

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Hi, thanks for the advice.

We were semi-intimate today if you consider 'intimate' as kissing or sensually caressing one another! It was cool being real near him, and he didn't mind. but i think the mood was more 'playful than 'sexual'.

 

I'm getting mixed signals. I swear I notice him taking glances at me when we aren't right next to each other, and we have these moments when our eyes meet, and I can't take my glance down. The glances we have are somehow 'longer' than those with friends, and seem to mean something, although i fear I'm making some of it up, dreaming. He's a bit on the shy side, but he likes to touch me.

 

I don't know what to do. I have this fear he will tell everyone in the grade that I'm gay, and brake my 'status' at school and brake out a secret to everyone that I havn't even told my parents.

 

I feel I love him more and more.. I keep thinking about him, and I don't have the same feelign towards any girls or guys other than him.

 

what to do... what to do...

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