she won't believe me, what do i do?

Okay, about a week ago, my best friend and I went over to our friend Ben's house to drink and party. Well she's like in love with Ben, but he doesn't like her. We ended up getting pretty drunk, but I didn't black out or anything, and I remember the entire night. I decided to take a hot tub, and yes, i was wearing a swimsuit, and then, all of a sudden, Ben and his friend Sean decided that they were going to make a porno, so Ben got into the hot tub, naked, and Sean was videotaping everything. I refused to do anything with him; I wouldn't even kiss him, because I knew how hurt my best friend would be. Not to mention that I wasn't even interested in him anyway. So absolutely nothing happened. When I got out, she was mad at me, and I was like, "no, I swear to you, I didn't do anything with him, and I told him to get out of the hot tub, let's go watch the tape of it", so we watched it, and there was only the beginning of the hot tub scene because apparently it ran out of tape. She believed me, though, so it was all okay. Then, just yesterday, a guy at school came up to her and told her that he'd seen the videotape and that I did things that were so dirty he would never be able to talk to me again. Ben and Sean go to a different school than we do, and they'd told their friends Andrew and Angel that Trish (my best friend) and I were over at Ben's drinking. So Trish refuses to talk to me now, even though there is no tape, and I have proof of that , and even though Ben, Sean, and now even the guy who initially told her about it, have repeatedly told her that nothing happened. She won't believe me. It doesn't make it any better that people at school are saying that it's probably true, either. She says we can regain our friendship only when I apologize and admit it. What do I do? Do I lie to her and admit something that never happened so that we can still be friends? Do I stay firm in the fact that nothing happened, and risk losing her friendship forever? It means so much to me though!!

Ali

Hi alicat,

I am sorry to hear what you are going through. You must be full of doubts right now and for a reason. I can imagine that you don't want to loose your best friend's friendship.

However, there are values and standards in life, you will have to live by. One of those values and standards is being honest at all times. If nothing happened, then nothing happened. If your friend doesn't believe you, it is understandable, because of what happened, but it is HER problem, not yours.

I hope that this answered your question and I wish you good luck ... I hope things will get resolved in the long run.

~ SwingFox ~