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    Platinum Member smackie9's Avatar
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    How to break up:
    #1) send a long winded detailed email explaining everything. All the things you are unhappy with, all the things you want to do but can't because of her, and your feelings...laid all out for her to read at her leisure.

    #2) send her a quick text, teller her you have had enough with the arguing, etc..and you have realized you can't do this anymore.

    #3) Be in the middle of an argument, and just simply end it in the heat of the moment, and storm off.

    #4) take her out for dinner, and after the check is paid end the relationship. Say sorry but it's over.

    #5) sit her down, verbally explain everything how you feel (like in the email) and breakup, go home, block delete her off everything, number too, etc. Go call up your friends and say it's done...now who's into a good night out with drinking beer around a bonfire!

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    The sooner you liberate yourself, the sooner you can heal and eventually find a better parter.

    It's better to learn how to build your own social life independently, so then you won't load that 'requirement' onto a potential partnership that offers good simpatico between just the two of you. That of itself is already rare enough. Great family and friend relationships can either be icing on that cake, or they can just be a side matter that's your own job to fulfill. Neither are good reasons to sentence yourself to a lousy relationship.

    How to break up? The way that's easiest for you. There are no judges or juries, so nobody else gets a vote. Nobody is ever the 'good guy' in a breakup, so don't create unnecessary barriers to freedom.

    If you believe that there must be some magic 'right' way to break up so that you're both 'happy' with the outcome, then disabuse yourself of that idea. Nobody is happy with a breakup. We all need to step up to the villain role in order to get out of bad relationships, and just like a root canal, it's the horrible side of getting to a better place.

    Head high, you can do this.

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    Head high, you can do this.
    Wonderful sentiment, catfeeder. Love this.

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