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    It's not an age thing. It's a horndog thing. Some 60 y/o man could be doing the same thing if he wanted something to masturbate to, but didn't want any in person dating.
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    I have been out of the loop so long that I am totally unversed when it comes to using oneís phone for nefarious activities. Is this foreplay? Is this how people start-off now? I was more interested to know if this is is the norm for younger people, especially during the lock-down.....Thanks for your responses in advance.
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    HI sadchick , my first thought ..honestly ...what the heck are you doing in restaurants during a lockdown lol .... ( I am uk ) I didn't realise a pandemic would ever be the first thought on my mind !!!

    Look if you want a bit of fun , sex , a laugh then hell girl go for it ... he is your man ...and there is no harm in wanting to break out after the year we are all having . But long term hmmmm I was early30's when I had my daughter with a man early 20's and by God could I tell the difference . Now he is in his 40's and me 50's we are more equal in thought and behaviour but early 20's ...

    I find engaging with this man a little odd. Is this what 23 year old do? FaceTime for sex and play peek a boo show me whatís under your skirt?
    You find that odd and describe it as peek a boo ....so that alone ^^^ should tell you how different your thoughts are and how differently you view things .

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    I think you can do what you want because this guy is not under age or anything. But I don't think this guy wants to date you and his interest in you is only sexual. If he immediately began to send sexual messages and wants nude photos straight away, it's pretty clear what he's looking for. I don't think the age alone indicates that this guy is a horn dog, but his behaviour certainly does. If you're just looking for sex then go for it! But he's not into you for dating. I think maybe he sees you as an experienced older woman or has a fetish for older women.

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    I would agree Tiny.

    "I think maybe he sees you as an experienced older woman or has a fetish for older women."

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    Originally Posted by pippy longstocking
    HI sadchick , my first thought ..honestly ...what the heck are you doing in restaurants during a lockdown lol .... ( I am uk ) I didn't realise a pandemic would ever be the first thought on my mind !!!

    Look if you want a bit of fun , sex , a laugh then hell girl go for it ... he is your man ...and there is no harm in wanting to break out after the year we are all having . But long term hmmmm I was early30's when I had my daughter with a man early 20's and by God could I tell the difference . Now he is on his 40's and me 50's we are more equal in thought and behaviour but early 20's ...



    You find that odd and describe it as peek a boo ....so that alone ^^^ should tell you how different your thoughts are and how differently you view things .
    Pippi, I am in an area that allows outdoor restaurants, so not an issue. LOL, you are right. I am dating myself by using the term peek a boo.

    Jibralta: I am not planning on doing anything that can be recorded at this point. We had like one FaceTime that did something that was a bit smutty, but nothing crazy. And no, it is not worth the cost.

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    Youíve gotten plenty of advice but I thought Iíd give some gen Z wisdom! My generation seem to be extremely sex positive as it is, and the advancement of tech means sex is accessible whether through porn or sexting (more so than it may of been for previous generations)

    Itís important to be safe regardless of age, if youíre going to share nudes through Snapchat or be intimate over FaceTime, you have the insurance of knowing both apps will alert you if any thing is screenshotted, screen recorded, or saved, so if you feel comfortable and confident, there is no shame in sharing a nude. As for his intentions, I think dating within my generation can be odd compared to previous generations, best thing to do is open up a discussion in person about where the relationship is going, especially with an age gap, for your safety literally and emotionally (gen z can be a bit evasive, if you open a discussion and feel like his answers are confusing, or give you absolutely no information, that may not be a good thing)

    There is no shame in an age gap! But every age gap has the potential to have started because of sexuality and fetishisation

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    Originally Posted by sadchick83
    But what should I do? Be a nun for another 5 years until someone saintly with a universal approval rate comes along? Not going to happen and very hard to do with COVID.
    No, but just know what you're signing up for.

    If you want some no-strings fun, proceed. If you want actual dates, abort.

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    Originally Posted by MCvigilante
    Youíve gotten plenty of advice but I thought Iíd give some gen Z wisdom! My generation seem to be extremely sex positive as it is, and the advancement of tech means sex is accessible whether through porn or sexting (more so than it may of been for previous generations)

    Itís important to be safe regardless of age, if youíre going to share nudes through Snapchat or be intimate over FaceTime, you have the insurance of knowing both apps will alert you if any thing is screenshotted, screen recorded, or saved, so if you feel comfortable and confident, there is no shame in sharing a nude. As for his intentions, I think dating within my generation can be odd compared to previous generations, best thing to do is open up a discussion in person about where the relationship is going, especially with an age gap, for your safety literally and emotionally (gen z can be a bit evasive, if you open a discussion and feel like his answers are confusing, or give you absolutely no information, that may not be a good thing)

    There is no shame in an age gap! But every age gap has the potential to have started because of sexuality and fetishisation
    Oh very nice answer , welcome to the forum MC

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    Originally Posted by Tinydance
    I think you can do what you want because this guy is not under age or anything. But I don't think this guy wants to date you and his interest in you is only sexual. If he immediately began to send sexual messages and wants nude photos straight away, it's pretty clear what he's looking for. I don't think the age alone indicates that this guy is a horn dog, but his behaviour certainly does. If you're just looking for sex then go for it! But he's not into you for dating. I think maybe he sees you as an experienced older woman or has a fetish for older women.
    Yea Tinydance, I agree, it is basically sexual. Not sure if you have ever got out of a long term relationship, but sometimes you just want to cleanse yourself of your last guy. Have you ever felt like this?? My last put on a charade of being straight, but actually was a closeted gay. This hurt me for quite a while, but Iím over it now and want to move on. I donít mind being the object of someones fetish, whatís wrong with that? However, I donít want to be on some porn site or be disrespected.

    Covid times are tough times. I also, for a reason I cannot mention here, have been unable to leave my apartment for 2 years after 7pm (due to a noisy pet), so I have little social life. This sort of arrangement was actually in someways is ideal.

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    "Be a nun for another 5 years until someone saintly with a universal approval rate comes along? "

    Oh, please, no, SC!! Don't do that. Never be a "nun", and keep well away from the "saintly". They are never quite what they seem, lol.

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