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    Instagram issues

    Hey everyone.
    My boyfriend and I always have arguments about Instagram. He just has multiple accounts of girls in the area heís following along with Instagram models. There are even accounts of like hottest girls on the gram amount other questionable accounts. He tells me he followed them all when he was single. It just bothers me because I donít want to be married to someone who is going to always be looking at other girls online. Iím not sure what to do. He has unfollowed some after we talked but there is just so much on there still... he doesnít view it the same way as me. I believe you should be loyal in all forms in a relationship but he says why isnít it enough that I love you. This is always a stupid thing to fight about too... Please give me your input.

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    I don't think it's stupid at all. What you are finding out is that you and him don't share the same values and relationship boundaries. Basically, he cares more about IG than you and your relationship. Pay attention to that, stop arguing and decide - either you are going to roll over and accept this and stop all arguments or you need to dump him because this really isn't acceptable to you. You are not going to change him or force him to respect you.

    If it was really just a thing while he was single, he'd have no problem unfollowing and there would be no arguments about that because he wouldn't care. Problem is that he cares enough to risk losing you. That's a huge red flag when you are thinking marriage and long term partner.

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    He's not the right one for you. It shouldn't be something you have to argue about and it isn't stupid if it bothers you. Just walk away and don't date men who have 'hottest girls on the gram'. These are likely signs that he hasn't grown up or doesn't share the same values you do. If you're not looking for a casual relationship, don't act like one.

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    This is so tough. I believe social media is the devil for relationships. Funny half the girls he is looking at probably donít look like that in real life. He is obviously not going to stop. Maybe you could view them together. This way it is not in secret what he does. This is so tough. I think itís hard to say leave him. If you canít live with this, then you know what to do

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    Sorry to hear that. How long have you been dating? How old is he? Unfortunately what you see is what you get. Do not act jealous or talk at him about it again. This just further inflates his ego.

    Best thing to do is delete and block him/all of his accounts from ALL your social media with no explanation. Why be associated publicly with a horndog?

    Action is the way to go, talking at him about insecurities, etc., is a very weak and easy to ignore position. In his horny mind 'it's your problem', don't feed that type of nonsense.
    Originally Posted by Dance100
    He just has multiple accounts of girls in the area heís following along with Instagram models.

    He has unfollowed some after we talked but there is just so much on there still... he doesnít view it the same way as me. I believe you should be loyal in all forms in a relationship but he says why isnít it enough that I love you.

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    Your boyfriend has a roving eye. He will not change for you. Either accept him as he is or find a replacement who knows how to behave with honor, morals and integrity ~ especially behind your back.

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    We have been together for a little over a year. Heís 27. He recently unfollowed over a hundred which showed he was trying. But there is still quite a few... he is a really good guy. I told him his Instagram makes him look like a pig even though he isnít in real life.. we both really love each other but this has always been an argument.

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    Originally Posted by Rose Mosse
    He's not the right one for you. It shouldn't be something you have to argue about and it isn't stupid if it bothers you. Just walk away and don't date men who have 'hottest girls on the gram'. These are likely signs that he hasn't grown up or doesn't share the same values you do. If you're not looking for a casual relationship, don't act like one.
    Thank you, Rose.

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    Why can't you just date him without marrying him? Put a limit to the micromanaging and gram issues.

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    Originally Posted by Dance100
    We have been together for a little over a year. Heís 27. He recently unfollowed over a hundred which showed he was trying. But there is still quite a few... he is a really good guy. I told him his Instagram makes him look like a pig even though he isnít in real life.. we both really love each other but this has always been an argument.
    Character is when a person is very decent, loyal, honorable, devoted, moral and possesses integrity when you're not looking over his shoulder.

    Love does not conquer all, unfortunately. CHARACTER does matter because it's the only thing that endures.

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