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    not sure what to do here

    Hi everyone. just seeking some help, im a guy and i just got my GF pregnant, we're both really happy about there's really not much or a problem except that i feel sorry that for my girl puking all the time and feeling nauseated and just over all weak. im not sure what my role is here im just doing all that i can but still feels like i could be doing more.

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    My poor Daughter is in the same position, pregnant & very unwell.
    The best thing you can do is be supportive. Let her know you are there for her.
    Listen to her and sympathize, fetch her drinks & snacks etc if she asks, and just be loving!
    You sound like a wonderful partner! Best of luck

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    Any chores you can take on, offer to do so. She will go back and forth between feeling horribly nauseated and having sudden cravings. You shouldn't have to go out at 3 am to get her a Slurpee, but if she wants something and you're able to get it, do so. She'll appreciate it.

    And be mindful that her sense of smell is going to be extremely sensitive. If something sets her off, remove it.

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    I agree with others. All you can do is have compassion, be helpful (chores, cook, clean, errands, tasks) and keep quiet. Don't talk too much otherwise you'll irritate her and compound her misery.

    She might be dehydrated so make sure she drinks water or at least sips water. Some women claim that nibbling on dry toast or crackers helps. Make sure she gets plenty of rest.

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    Congratulations! I'd keep ginger ale and saltine crackers on hand. And just try to help by doing more around the house and asking how you can help. Don't try to be a mind reader. And be willing to back off. You don't know what its like to be pregnant, but you do know what its like to be sick...

    Hopefully the morning sickness (not just in the morning though) will pass as the pregnancy progresses. Some women have it worse than others.

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    Originally Posted by Cherylyn
    I agree with others. All you can do is have compassion, be helpful (chores, cook, clean, errands, tasks) and keep quiet. Don't talk too much otherwise you'll irritate her and compound her misery.

    She might be dehydrated so make sure she drinks water or at least sips water. Some women claim that nibbling on dry toast or crackers helps. Make sure she gets plenty of rest.
    Yes this and ginger tea can help too (without caffeine). Best wishes for a healthy pregnancy!

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    Do you live together? Do you both work? Hopefully she is seeing a doctor regularly for prenatal care and discussion of symptoms like this. Stay out of her way and just be considerate asking what she may need here and there. Do you have family nearby? Does she? Where is her family?
    Originally Posted by yamajii89
    i just got my GF pregnant, we're both really happy about there's really not much or a problem except that i feel sorry that for my girl puking all the time and feeling nauseated and just over all weak.

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    The fact that you are asking is a good sign

    Make sure you tell her how beautiful she is to you.

    Hold her hair for her, have a damp wash cloth standing by.

    Basically make her life as easy as possible so she can rest.

    Offer to go for walks with her and hold her hand.

    She needs to know you are all in and with her no matter what.

    As this goes along go to every doctor appointment possible and be involved.

    Congratulations by the way

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    Originally Posted by Batya33
    Yes this and ginger tea can help too (without caffeine). Best wishes for a healthy pregnancy!
    Thank you, Batya33. My mother-in-law (MIL) sips on ginger ale or nibbles on gingersnap cookies whenever she feels queasy and it seems to help her stomach issues plus it's a nice little treat.

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    Originally Posted by Cherylyn
    Thank you, Batya33. My mother-in-law (MIL) sips on ginger ale or nibbles on gingersnap cookies whenever she feels queasy and it seems to help her stomach issues plus it's a nice little treat.
    Yes, as long as it's real ginger (note that ginger in large quantities has some risk of causing miscarriage/issues but from what I read way back when it's only if it's a lot of raw ginger)

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