I would look at her going away as a blessing. I think that you should just consider her a pleasant work acquaintance. If you "Drive stupid" drink a lot, etc, you need to be alone without dating and take your own time to become a grownup. Whatever it takes - volunteer, seek counseling, go to AA to find people to hold you accountable IF you have decided that enough is enough, etc. I think the more appropriate women you meet don't have tons of baggage -- they are adulting with jobs and responsibilities, etc, and that's a drag for you. And they can smell you coming from a mile away. BUT if you only meet women who are drunk and childish such as yourself, then yeah, if a woman doesn't have her crap together - she does have baggage