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    Is it acceptable for my boyfriend to have an only fans account?

    Hi everyone. Yesterday I was about to check my emails when I realised that my boyfriend was still logged into gmail on my laptop from when he was using it at the weekend. I was about to log out so I could sign in and as my eyes glanced across the screen I noticed an email notification from only fans. For those of u who are unfamiliar with it, it is an an online website where people can sell nude images and videos of themselves. I wasnít planning on looking through his emails but this surprised me and I was curious to see if there were many more emails from the site. I find out that he has been on the site since the start of this month. He has subscribed to two girls on it and has spent 23 dollars so far. The emails he gets are informing him that he has just received a message from these girls. Most of them seem like spam messages. I donít think he really communicates with him much.
    I am okay with him watching porn and I know this is going to sound like I am contradicting myself but I feel like this isnít right. He is individually choosing these girls and spending money on them. The fact that he has done this is quite upsetting and makes me feel really insecure when I can already give him what these girls have for free?!
    I plan on bringing it up with him when I see him at the weekend. I donít know if I should be annoyed about this or not. I kind of wanted other opinions on the situation. I love him and I know he loves me but I find this a bit disrespectful. How would you react? Thanks for any opinions/ advice :) Getting Ready for a First Date

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    He doesn't have much sense of loyalty, does he? and no, if he's behaving this way with other girls, he does not respect you and that's not what I would call love.

    Raise your standards. This guy is headed down the path of physically cheating, but no doubt he's already started to cheat by messaging other girls or will eventually sex chat or sex cam with them.

    I am looking at the title of this post and thinking, "really? you don't know the answer to that?"...but then I think you do, you just want someone to tell you "it's okay" and what he's doing "is not that bad". It's bad, and no, it's not okay.

    Get checked for STD's while you're at it, because if he's acting this way, you can never know for sure.

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    I don't take issue with watching porn, but this? I would not be okay with this, no.

    You need to talk to him, OP.

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    Sorry to hear that. It's not your job to monitor his email. More importantly it's not your job to "give him that for free"

    You could confront him but what will that accomplish? This is not about "insecure" or "respect". That needs to come from yourself.

    This is about what kind of man he is and deciding if you want to date someone like this.
    when I can already give him what these girls have for free?! He has subscribed to two girls on it and has spent 23 dollars so far

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    What on Earth is a fan account?

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    @~seraphim~ onlyfans.com is a site where primarily women will sell sexual photos/videos of themselves. The biggest difference to porn is that you are paying a specific girl to be able to watch her content rather than watching porn on a website or paying for a premium membership on a pornsite. while i do agree it is kinda weird, its not like men do not have preferences even in porn and may watch a certain girl/couple more often than others on a run of the mill website. ultimately it is about how you feel about it and if you feel badly about it talk to your bf.

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    Originally Posted by emptyeffort
    @~seraphim~ onlyfans.com is a site where primarily women will sell sexual photos/videos of themselves. The biggest difference to porn is that you are paying a specific girl to be able to watch her content rather than watching porn on a website or paying for a premium membership on a pornsite. while i do agree it is kinda weird, its not like men do not have preferences even in porn and may watch a certain girl/couple more often than others on a run of the mill website. ultimately it is about how you feel about it and if you feel badly about it talk to your bf.
    I know men have a preference for sure.

    Ah that is what a fan account is.

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    Ok so live webcam like paid sexual entertainment. Now that we have that defined, what do you want to do about it?

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    Exactly that is a no go. Live cam girls are out the window.

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    I personally would not be ok with that. I'm sure some couples are -they might even participate as a couple. I would not be. To me it's far different than watching porn. It all matters how you feel about it though.

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