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Hi everyone,

 

I hope you are doing well. I have a weird question to ask. One of my very good friends (we call each other sisters) has no trouble meeting guys as friends or dating (especially dating) and it always seems like this is true because she just seems to hang out where there are lots of guys. There never seem to be many guys when I go places and I always wonder why when I go places I never see/meet many guys, like my friend. Is it because I just don't where the right places to go are? Or does it have to do with me personally? If it's the first problem, then where should I go/what places should I hang at?

 

Thanks!

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I doubt YOU going places and not seeing many guys has anything to do with you.

 

Not sure your age, but many guys like bars.. or hang around coffee shops ( at least in my area).

May depend on age groups- I am unsure.

 

How about school parking lots.. skate parks? - again all depends on age.

 

How about you ask your friends where she hangs out? ( Or maybe her actual intentions?).

IF she is just some sort of player, she can plan to make sure there are plenty around, where she goes. ( IMO).

 

I Knew a few like that. I wasn't like that though. I would hang with a few friends and did not favour the bars much. I learned the hard way, that I am not a fan of alcy's.

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Where are you going to meet guys? Do you work/go to school? Do you belong to any clubs, groups, sports or volunteer? Do you smile, say hi and engage in small talk?

Hi everyone,

 

I hope you are doing well. I have a weird question to ask. One of my very good friends (we call each other sisters) has no trouble meeting guys as friends or dating (especially dating) and it always seems like this is true because she just seems to hang out where there are lots of guys. There never seem to be many guys when I go places and I always wonder why when I go places I never see/meet many guys, like my friend. Is it because I just don't where the right places to go are? Or does it have to do with me personally? If it's the first problem, then where should I go/what places should I hang at?

 

Thanks!

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When I was in junior college, I joined the ski club. Plenty of guys in that, and was invited to parties by some of its members. Like previously said, you could join a club. You could play on a co-ed sports team. If you're a surfer, you should be meeting guys by doing that, or does your moniker mean you're only surfing the net?

 

I knew a couple who met when they each volunteered at the zoo. Get yourself out in the world doing fun things. Not that there are any guarantees in life, but you might meet better quality people who are enjoying volunteering and are passionate about a hobby versus guys in bars. Good luck.

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When I was in junior college, I joined the ski club. Plenty of guys in that, and was invited to parties by some of its members. Like previously said, you could join a club. You could play on a co-ed sports team. If you're a surfer, you should be meeting guys by doing that, or does your moniker mean you're only surfing the net?

 

I knew a couple who met when they each volunteered at the zoo. Get yourself out in the world doing fun things. Not that there are any guarantees in life, but you might meet better quality people who are enjoying volunteering and are passionate about a hobby versus guys in bars. Good luck.

 

Volunteering is great. I know a lot of couples who met volunteering back and front stage for community theater. Also apples and oranges - people are individuals and when they meet other individuals there are so many factors that can influence whether they click and how.

 

Here's what I would do similar to this post. Be in environments where people are generally sober and where talking to people is part of the natural environment. So think - book clubs, swing dancing, team sports, classes at a gym, hiking groups, singles events, religious organizations that have singles events if you are part of a religion - but remember a lot of this is covid-dependent right now.

Women can introduce you to single men -their friends, coworkers, relatives, etc. So meet people -not just men.

 

Work - people you don't work closely with or supervise or who supervise you. Go to happy hours unless it's a drunken mess, go to professional events, etc. I originally met my husband at work.

Tell everyone you like - and respect -that you would be interested in being set up with a single available guy who is looking for a potentially serious relationship. Meet those people. Set people up with other people and they will return the favor.

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How old are you? If you're young, don't worry about it. There is plenty of time to "meet guys."

 

There's no set place to meet someone and no rule for how many guys you should be meeting. People can meet each other anywhere. There is also the matter of personality. If she is more outgoing and extroverted, she'll be more inclined to meet people in general. If you're more shy or introverted, there's nothing wrong with that. But it doesn't matter how many you meet. You can meet a dozen people and nothing works out. Or you can meet one person and hit it off. What counts is meeting the right kind of person, someone you connect with. So don't think about it. Focus on doing what you like. Join a club or group for something you're interested in. As has been said, volunteer. You'll naturally be meeting people with whom you already have things in common. You'll have a natural jumping off point for friendships or possibly more. And even if nothing comes of it, you'll be having to much fun to care.

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Well, yes, more information is needed to be able to give advice. How old are you? What do you do in life? Work, study? Do you live alone or with housemates? Do you go out with friends much? Do you go out much in general?

 

I think you can basically meet guys anywhere you go, unless you're going to female only environments. E.g. knitting club lol I think the most direct way to meet guys for dating is on dating sites. That way you can see their online profile and see if you like the look and sound of the guy. Also, you would know they are actually single and trying to find someone. However, I'm personally not really a fan of online dating because messaging back and forth online takes long. And in most cases there is no connection or you or the guy is not interested. But at the lack of opportunity in other ways it's still good.

 

I'm personally a big advocate of meeting people in real life. I enjoyed going to Meet up groups, there are many guys there. There are more guys in male oriented interest groups like coding classes, wood work, etc. I'm not really interested in all those "male" activities though so I wouldn't want to join those groups because I don't want to lie that I'm actually into those things. So mainly I joined general social Meetup groups where people just go out and do things. Like going to the cinema, coffee, walks, etc.

 

Also another good way to meet guys is to socialise as much as possible. Accept as many invitations as you can. Even if you meet women instead, don't worry about that because they might have male friends or relatives who you'll meet through them later. Just go out to any parties or events you get invited to with no expectations and just mingle. Try to be friendly to guys and add on social media and things like that. Even if you don't date those particular guys, they might invite you to things like their Birthday party or a barbecue and most guys have predominantly male friends. So you can also meet their friends.

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