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Thread: Why lie about everything?

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    Platinum Member Rose Mosse's Avatar
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    He said some very rude and callous things to you in your previous thread which only indicated he has no respect for you at all. Asking you if you sit around all day consumed with him? There was one common thread (no pun intended) in both of your threads - that he thinks you don't have anything better to do than text or message him or bother him.

    The only way out of this is to look the other way and stop focusing on him so much. Somewhere along the way the dynamics shifted and he lost interest in the relationship because he lost interest in you, as a person. This is hard to accept but it happens and break ups happen because of this reason often. I'm not suggesting this is all your fault but he did lose interest in the relationship. He was a bit crass about it explaining it to you but it may have been because he got very frustrated with your texts or you contacting quite a lot.

    Whether he lied or not should be greater reason for you to look the other way and start planning better things for yourself. Are you employed? Do you have family or friends to be with or speak with?

    A liar lies because he/she needs to make up for inadequacies in their own lives OR a person lies for self-protection because he/she can't trust the person who is bothering them. Another type of lying is one where there's no rhyme or reason and it's a mental illness - pathological lying.

    None of those things are good things so count this as if you won the lottery. Any lies or perceived deception by you, the way he treats you, what he says, what he's doing now with his life are all points that should direct you towards a new direction, not run towards him even further. That would be like running yourself off a cliff knowing there's a cliff on the other side. Move forwards and be kind with yourself.

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    Whenever someone has been on-and-off with an ex, they are not dating material--much less marriage material.

    Rebounders will dive in head first to move things along quickly in the hope that this will heal them.

    They figure out at some point that either they are healed--and really should have taken more time to explore being single, OR, that they are still not over their ex and want to go back.

    Either way, it's a harsh outcome for anyone who invests in them--so don't even date them.

    My heart goes out to you. We all have to live and learn, so take the value of the lesson without beating yourself up. It's not that you weren't good enough for this guy, but rather, he was never good enough for you in the first place.

    You dodged a bullet!

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    Originally Posted by Candynercka
    And because I was showing him too much attention and that I annoyed him ....
    That wasn't the reason, that was his excuse to justify his actions. He was never over the ex, so anything you did wasn't going go to change things. He wanted to avoid facing the issues in his marriage, avoid the pain of being alone and away from her. You were, unfortunately, the one he found to try make himself feel better. It wasn't right and you deserve better. You are better off without him. A better guy is out there, one who will actually love you and treat you with respect.

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