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    Stop lending him money.

    Where is your backbone, Spiritful?

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    Why can't he go to a bank? Is the money for drugs, gambling or prostitutes?

    You can't buy love by acting like an ATM . You need to stop giving him money.

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    A must-have for many people looking for a longterm partner is to choose someone who is financially responsible. Whatever you find stressful now, will grow exponentially over the years, especially if you marry. Expect he will always be like this. Life is expensive. He'll be wanting to borrow from your 401K, and he will either not make enough to meet his own expenses or live beyond his means, and you will be the only responsible one trying to hold everything together. Time to consider if this is how you want to live your one precious life.

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    Opinion....

    1) He has zero respect for you
    2) He only sees you as an ATM and knows you are too spineless to dump his azz over this kind of bs behavior

    Solution:

    1) Stop giving him money, not even one penny going forward
    2) Dump him and find yourself a better bf
    3) Work on your self respect so you don't end up "loving" losers like this one

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    What's the money for? If I were in your shoes, I'd want to know more about his situation and why he's spending beyond his means. Is he inbetween jobs or unemployed? What is he doing to change his situation? He's abusing your trust by not being more honest or forthright with you if he's not disclosing more info or returning the cash.

    I'd find it disturbing that he's borrowing from more than one person over a long period of time or what his situation is that requires this sort of exchange. You obviously have a direct say in your own funds and what you do with it. Make sure you know more about the person you're with.
    Last edited by Rose Mosse; 10-06-2020 at 12:31 PM.

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    Yes, DF, totally:

    "1) Stop giving him money, not even one penny going forward
    2) Dump him and find yourself a better bf
    3) Work on your self respect so you don't end up "loving" losers like this one"

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    Not sure your ages or how long you've been dating?
    Has he been doing this since the beginning?
    What are his reasons for needing to 'borrow' from you?

    In general, if they cant afford it, they should not be doing or getting it.
    IF he has no control over his income and purchases, etc- should not be on YOU.

    Money can be a BIG problem.. Talk to him about this.

    Obviously it is getting to you now.. then say so and say no more- Because YOU need your money for your own self.

    and I dont get why he is also borrowing from others as well? IMO, sounds like he has some problems.. YOu don't need.

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    You're not a bank nor a bank loan officer. Your boyfriend is using you to extract money from you and your relationship with him is already abnormal. You shouldn't have to remind him to pay you back, you shouldn't lend money to him in the first place nor should he ask for money from you loan or not. He's taking advantage of you.

    It's time to replace your boyfriend with a man who knows how to treat you with respect.

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    Spirit, where are you?

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