kari99 Posted September 25, 2020 Share Posted September 25, 2020 I'm back to online dating after taking a long break. I received a message from someone I think we met years ago on a first date. This guy met me for drinks and never called me after our date. I got the feeling he wasn't into me. It is what it is. I moved on and dated other people. So-fast forward to 2020 and I re-join the same website. A guy messages me. He looks vaguely familiar. In his message he points out that he read my profile in the past and wanted to say hi. He asked about one of my pictures etc. and said if anything interested me in his profile to reach out. I figured it most likely was the same guy from years ago. Ok, so I reply and thank him for the message. I asked him if we indeed had met before?? Told him I hoped he was surviving COVID and made a cute reference to something he mentioned in his profile. I answered his question about my picture and made a joke about it. Ended it with how nice it was to hear from him and said "Have a nice night." My friends say they don't see anything wrong with the message. So-no response from this guy. Crickets. This whole incident has left me scratching my head. :-) Thoughts? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted September 25, 2020 Share Posted September 25, 2020 Your message was fine. Perhaps his flakiness is still there. Link to comment
SooSad33 Posted September 25, 2020 Share Posted September 25, 2020 Nah, try not to read too much into it... like so many.. they 'fish around', Even guys ( and gals) who are involved, still 'hang out' on these things... like for some entertainment? lol Anyways, so many are on these sites.. and so many also just msg someone, and continue on.. so tread lightly and don;t take majority to heart. Link to comment
kari99 Posted September 25, 2020 Author Share Posted September 25, 2020 Thanks! I agree with you both. Not losing sleep over this..... I have a feeling he's been online all these years. Good luck to him! Next.... Link to comment
Cherylyn Posted September 25, 2020 Share Posted September 25, 2020 You're just a temporary pen pal to him. Ignore him in the future. He's not worth your time and energy. Link to comment
limichelle Posted September 25, 2020 Share Posted September 25, 2020 Yuck, he probably has a wife or girlfriend. I found being on those sites you have to google the person, I found plenty of guys married! I would just ignore him if he does answer, he’s looking for an ego boost. Link to comment
Rose Mosse Posted September 25, 2020 Share Posted September 25, 2020 So gross^. I never want to date again. Link to comment
SherrySher Posted September 25, 2020 Share Posted September 25, 2020 He might have just remembered when you mentioned that you had actually gone on a date and that was enough to scare him off. Dates can be weird, you might think it went all fine and you had a nice night, but that doesn't mean that's how the other person was feeling. Who knows what turned him off, it could have been anything. Best to just leave it, and move on. Link to comment
kari99 Posted September 25, 2020 Author Share Posted September 25, 2020 Who knows?? I haven't been a member in ages. Regardless of what is the reason-I'm moving on. Link to comment
SherrySher Posted September 25, 2020 Share Posted September 25, 2020 Good for you, he's not worth the wasted energy. Don't give up, there could be someone much more suitable for you show up when you least expect it. Link to comment
DancingFool Posted September 25, 2020 Share Posted September 25, 2020 Since you already had met and he basically ghosted you after that, you already know that there was nothing there between you. No need to respond or waste any more time on a dud. Chemistry not there, chemistry not there - nothing is going to change just because of time in between. Next. Link to comment
kari99 Posted September 25, 2020 Author Share Posted September 25, 2020 Yes, I’ve deleted the message. End of story. Connecting with someone should never be this difficult. Link to comment
kamurj Posted September 26, 2020 Share Posted September 26, 2020 Multiple accounts are not allowed. Thread closed. Link to comment
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